Why do guys always tell you to let them know when you get home after a date?

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I get the general sentiment is in some way to make sure you got home safely. But it’s interesting because my guy friends don’t tell me to do that and I don’t do that to guys I date, not because I don’t care. But because while there is a possibility something could go wrong, the odds aren’t that something will as most nights people drive home safely. (Note that I am assuming here that NO alcohol or substance use is a relevant factor here)

Dinklex3 · Accepted Answer

Because they want to make sure you got home safe and that nothing happened to you. Regardless if you think there’s a low possibility, there’s still a possibility.

I say that to my friends as well.. males and females. It’s something I grew up saying and doing. Even as a teen when my mom would drop my friend’s off at their homes we would stay until we saw them get into their house. I was taught it was very important to do that 🤷‍♀️

Biancam13 · Accepted Answer

They're just being nice/decent humans. I've had guys where we didn't even go out again (no interest on either side, or their side, or my side) text me to "get home safe". It's just them being nice.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I always ask, unless I'm taking her home myself, in which case I'm going to stay until she gets safely into the house.

Same with female friends - if a girl comes over to a get-together solo, I'm going to ask her to let me know she got home safely. It's not as necessary if there are multiple people traveling together, and groups are far less likely to be targeted.

Some of us were raised to put women's safety as a high priority...

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

It's just polite. Like all things that are polite, it's not truly necessary. Polite is polite for it's own sake.

Even though they've gotten themselves home hundreds or even thousands of times on their own, it's just polite and allows for a brief followup. Isn't it nice to know the other person is thinking about you after the date ends?

ManOnFire · Answer

Women have told me to let them know I got home safe after a night out too. It's simply the kind of care a person who likes you thinks about. They want to know you are safe and will still be in their lives tomorrow.

coachTanthony · Answer

Sounds like you care and for some weird reason if you do contact them to let them know that means you really like them lol

Avicenna · Answer

Women say that too. To show they care about you.

Miristheiss · Answer

I used to do that when my wife and I were dating. It was just a protective thing. When she's leave to go home from my apartment it was often late. I'd have her call and let me know she arrived safely. I don't know, you are so into someone during that honeymoon phase you just want them to be safe. Driving home at 1 am, I didn't want something to happen on the way and no one help.

molonski2 · Answer

Just so they can appear to have some interest , if the cops come a kockin " Stevie , you were the last to see Julie alive , where the fck is she mate? " you have an answer for them , just so you don't get framed for something you didn't do.

Somoneelse · Answer

I always ask this just to make sure she gets home safely. Just because I care about her safety and rather travel with her to bring her home safely myself. Especially when its already late and the girl has to travel alone from the city you where. I've heard enough stories about girls being harrased on the streets or in public travel when they traveled alone.

RingOfFire · Answer

It's a way of showing care and concern. Almost every girl I have had a relationship with wanted me to show care and concern that made her feel special. So likely guys realize this and are trying to make you feel good after the date. It may not feel good for you, but in my experience for most women it would. So they think that they are doing something you appreciate even if you don't feel that way.

236color · Answer

It's considered polite. He wants to know you're safe at home. It also a shorthand way of saying, "If you need help on the way home, call me."

sheikalana · Answer

They want to know you got home safely. I do the same with my friends and notify them when I get home and ask them to let me know when they're home.

A_Bell · Answer

They worry about our safety, it's a guy thing and is endearing.

EmmaMary · Answer

It just shows excellent gentlemanly manners to make sure you do.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

It's almost always due to concern for another's safety.

Lilibet · Answer

It’s a normal thing, if someone cares will tell you that, I always say it to people I like

strateguy632 · Answer

it showed she cared by saying it so i copy her and say it and send sms.

Billlewis · Answer

For one thing, we want to try and find out if she plans on going out with us again.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Fuck what kinda shit is that? I tell the cashier before I leave wherever I'm at. To have a good day or night before I tell them to be careful. It's a crazy sick world we live inq

Anonymous · Answer

Only time I did was in a long distance relationship and we took turns driving to each other’s houses. Especially the one night she drove home I wonder if she be able to still hold the gas pedal down after the all night we had.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's just a way of showing that you care about the person's wellbeing.

krin_m · Answer

Normally I drop my date off at her place and wait till she is safe inside. If for some reason she is going home by herself, yes, I ask her to call me when she gets home.

jahaims · Answer

My group always checks in on each other like that. That is what good friends do.

boobliker · Answer

it's just a way of knowing you got home saftly

LiamJHayden · Answer

I do that with dates and with my friends, too.

Marklaw12 · Answer

To make sure you're safe. It's a natural instinct of protection.

jojoisaskingyou · Answer

Just a case of caring. Nothing more nothing less

zagor · Answer

So they know if they should send a search party.

Guardian45 · Answer

Because we wanna know that you got home safe and sound!

In_Trance · Answer

Because they want to know when you got home after a date

clubboss · Answer

To tell you that it would have been better to go home with us and to tell you that we care.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

That means he cares about you and he wants to make sure you get home safely

Anonymous · Answer

Are you really this dumb or have you never had any parents that ever cared about you?

azgınteke · Answer

nonsense, it's like he always had a bodyguard with him before you met, stupid male ego

Anonymous · Answer

It’s customary and show that they are interested still

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is what real gentlemen do.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Because is in our protective nature.

boggboss · Answer

Its just basic politeness lol

elizamichale1 · Answer

I think thats sweet actually

Nifrayu · Answer

Because they care about you.

Iron_Man · Answer

They want to make sure you got home safe

Christoff92 · Answer

Is he your brother or friend?

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Just to be sure u safe n sound

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Care for your welfare and gentlemen thing to do.

Anonymous · Answer

Its just good manners and it shows respect.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

They care

jimmy2 · Answer

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