What things have you done to try to attract an opposite gender partner into your life and did they work or not?

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So lately I’ve been trying things people have told me to do to be a good girlfriend or wife material. Some man told me online to wear high heels and practice walking in them. So I ended up buying high heeled boots. But now I just stare at them in my room. I don’t want to wear them. It’s just not me lol. I like heels but idk…

maybe I’m forcing things. I feel like there’s a lot of stuff I must have done over the years thinking it would attract a man. I don’t think any of it worked.

Things like…

trying to dress in more expensive looking clothes, or wear makeup on my lips, wear nail polish, probably more.

I wish I would stop trying with all this silly stuff. I guess it’s that hope in me.

other women seem to get boyfriends and so on. It’s just a me problem and heels won’t fix that.

HoraceB · Accepted Answer

Having at least a few shared interests is really important in a relationship. My wife & I learned quickly that we both like video, board, & card games. One thing you could try to "advertise" your interests with a t-shirt or hat.

Say, for example, you like playing Magic: The Gathering. If you go to a game store wearing an MTG shirt, you're bound to get attention from guys there who may invite you to play. The same goes for a sports team, or a favorite restaurant.

If you attend church, going out in a singles group is a great way to meet people. That's how I met my wife.

If you only wear "hot" clothes, you're more likely to attract guys only interested in sex. If you want a relationship built on more than just sex, you have to go for something more. 🙂

AmeerX · Accepted Answer

Who the hell told you to wear heels and expensive dresses, make up, nail polish and other things like that?

You are definitely trying hard to be unattractive through this.

I like a plain girl, in normal clothes like those long skirts and Maxi. And nah, make up is not for me. If you are beautiful you are such without all the trying.

Can't you talk about things outside the physical appearance that mingh interest a man? Like you are an animal lover or plant lover, what job you do or how you like cooking, if you like to be a caring person etc. Would you mind telling me about it?

Der_Ritter · Answer

For me personally all of my decent relationships came from friendships and I have never cared overly for a woman who feels the need to doll up herself and dress ridiculously unless it was for something sexual I suppose. As long as a woman has an ok sense of fashion and is clean and takes care of herself I never fussed much. Just make a guy friend or two and see how far it goes, not every guy friend is going to be boyfriend material the same way the opposite is true for female friends.

Being good girlfriend and wife material means having a kind heart, being passionate and dedicated, wanting kids, having her life in decent order in my eyes.

Then building a bond from that is what comes next and maybe he would open up or you would open up about some desires if you felt mutual attraction.

Obviously physical attractiveness is a must to get your foot in the door with someone but it's attraction of the soul that gets you in the house and keeps you there so remember that too.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Things that have worked: Being a great conversationalist, telling funny jokes, dressing well, maintaining a good (clean cut) appearance. Things that have NOT worked: physical fitness, income.

m33ladEmjay · Answer

Dont take advice from women. They try something once and it works by luck or whatever and then they use that as a general rule for everything. men are very simple! If you dress your own but simple you will attract men a lot better. And dress based on where you are.

Wearing high heels overall is not a good thing. That's like a man in a suit everywhere all the time.

Example: I lived in Asia, and girls there dress in loose big old style clothes. and they dont understand why foreigners aren't attracted to them.

What things have you done to try to attract an opposite gender partner into your life and did they work or not?

Anonymous · Answer

Just take care of yourself, carry yourself with confidence, look approachable, make even make the first move (at least make eye contact and smile or say hi)

Anonymous · Answer

Just be myself to be honest, hope that didn't come off weird. I just be myself and I attract people who match my energy and vibes.

EmmaMary · Answer

I guess I've always been extremely fortunate in that I've never had to do anything too obvious... I just seemed to be like the proverbial "Honeypot that Bees are attracted to"!

ChiTown33 · Answer

I don't really try to attract women, besides the obvious, "look presentable". I've found that women approach me when I least expect it and it always the women I never see coming.

Nirmroth · Answer

I guess its easier for a guy bec I simply go and ask rather than waiting for someone to approach me.

AVirgoMan · Answer

If I liked it, I tried to talk, but other than that, I didn't do anything.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

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Slim57 · Answer

Everything lol. When I stopped trying is when it happened

Danny_dan92 · Answer

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