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Good Way to Meet Guys and Get Fed. lolxxoo
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Ladies, when you ask why guys only want a coffee date, this is exactly why.
This woman is hardly alone in this either. 1/3 of women in big cities admit to using men for "foodie dates". And doing this at college seems really dumb - what's the likelihood that you run into one of these men again on the street or on campus. Things could get ugly - really ugly with certain men.
And know that you will build a reputation for doing this, and eventually no one will give you the time of day.
If you're really being serious about this, then yes, it is totally wrong, and I would honestly have to say you're a lowlife for doing it. So what if you're broke? Go find a side job somewhere.
However, I can't put all the blame on you. This is why I talk about simps and the problem with weak guys today, because these guys on Tinder should not be so weak and pathetic as to give a girl they really don’t know - and probably haven't met - free food. I can't take dudes like this seriously when they complain because it's not like they were in an actual relationship with the girl. These guys on Tinder or any other site are desperate so they do stupid things like giving stuff to women they've never even met.
Very wrong.
Morality is not morality just when it's convenient. It exists even in tough times, not as a justification.
A good friend of mine was used by someone just like you. He also sent her meals. She turned out to be a manipulative flake, no doubt after nothing but his money, too.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
It's never too late to change, and become a better person.
u Is it wrong if a guy tells you that he loves you just so you will have sex with him?
As for being a broke college girl, that doesn't entitle you to any extra indulgences. . . if you were a broke college girl. I suspect you are just another TROLL!
That’s fucked up and very selfish for you to do , but it’s also fucked up that these guy’s are actually doing so for you , so they are just as fucked up as you are , so if it’s working for you then fuck it , keep doing it , just be careful because there are a bunch of wack jobs in this world.
That’s messed up. But we already know there are women who do that.
Girl you just want to get the guys all fired up on here lol. But you should probably stop doing that, it’s not very kind
There is nothing ‘wrong’ with it. He asked you out and you said, yes. That’s a ‘meet and greet’ get to know you situation. You may end of liking him and want to see him again. Or he may not connect with you. This is appropriate.
If a guy expects anything other than company, when he asks a girl out to eat, that’s on him. It’s an assumption that he is making.
The agreement that was made is~
1-would you like to get a bite to eat with me?
2-yes.
3-you go out together and get a bite to eat.
What is ‘rude’ about the behavior is the behavior that you mentioned in your question is the ghosting part.
You have to be mindful that you are interacting with a human, not an app. He deserves an answer from you, if he reaches out to you after the meal. He also deserves no empty promises after the meal. Be polite and mature.
It’s appropriate to block him if he is demanding, insulting or persistent ~after a ‘no thank you’.
Respect goes both ways.
Being a broke college girl doesn't give you any right to be selfish, mean to other guys and to break them. You're clearly a selfish girl who doesn't care about a boy's heart and you absolutely don't deserve to be loved. Imagine a guy blocking you when you ask him for free food instead of him paying for your food. You will understand what damage you are doing to those innocent guys who are trusting you. At least be honest with them and tell them that you are a poor girl who is looking for free food and that you have no plans of loving them. At least it will help them not to get heart broken since they will not build any hopes at starting. Giving someone false hopes is an unforgivable act that can never be forgiven. You might escape from people after doing wrong by blocking them or by doing anything else. But God and karma will never forgive you and you have to pay for your wrong actions. Unblock them and apologize to them and tell them the truth even if you don't want to be with them. At least it will reduce your level of karma that you may get. Karma is for real and what you give others is what you'll get at any point of your life even if it's not now. So be careful and mindful of your actions and never think that God is not watching your evil actions. Be a good human from now at least so that you will reduce your future consequences effect.
it is wrong because you have premeditated reasons for accepting and or planning etc. its incredibly selfish and wrong on so many levels, then to block them without warning or word? your character is seriously lacking for that. and if they are going out with hopes of sex only they are just as messed up. lots of us started out broke and found ways to survive, you don't have to use anyone. however- if its a guy who goes out with you still after knowing your intentions or plan, then i say thats his issue
An escort is a prostitute who doesn't always necessarily involve sex in the equation, just usually. A foodie hoe is not so different from an escort. You're basically asking for a license to be a prostitute, but minus the trouble of having to involve sex in the equation.
At least streetwalkers have the decency to realize that the man gets something in return! What you're doing is worse. It's essentially a scam.
If fraud and manipulation are the only way you know how to make money, education has failed you.
Very wrong. Why should people, especially men be kind to you because you’re some broke college student. You’re inconsiderate of these men’s feelings that they may actually be interested in you. Maybe they’re not much better off than you but you’re taking advantage of them. You’re a grown up figure it out, work. My daughter works full-time and goes to school full-time. You’re part of the reason why men these days are refusing to do things for women, because they’re being taken advantage of.
As a guy I have always bought girls lunches or dinners. I would bet if you posted that you need a meal on tinder you would still get guys to buy you a meal. But what you are doing now is a lie. I understand why you do it but you shouldn’t.
Here is my big issue what you are doing. You are exposing yourself to too many men. Most guys are ok but there are the abusers, rapists and even murderers out there. The more men you meet the greater your chances of meeting one of these bad guys. Your free meals come with a risk!
Is it wrong? Well, it’s kind of wrong to waste people’s time and basically (by action, if not words) lie to them by feigning interest just to use them. Not to say men and women haven’t done this forever. More than the simple act of using someone though, even if just for a meal, it shows a sad lack of awareness that your problem (being a broke college girl) gives you some kind of right to use others who may also have their own financial difficulties, or other issues. Maybe that person is having bad luck in the dating scene and your essentially using them ghosting them does a little bit more damage to the esteem they are trying to build.
Its selfish.
Rather; you've essentially made yourself a breakfast whore. A woman's gotta eat, sure, but if you have no other means of getting food, check with local food banks or charitable organizations. Get some pots and soil and grow radishes. Heck, talk to the student union about setting up a community garden.
Neither theft nor duplicity are good, and you're basically doing both.
You are being nice when you reward guys with your company and allow them to buy you meals. Spending a little money for the privilege of talking to you makes them happy. Occasionally, you may reward them with a hug. That is enough to keep them around for another month.
I always like to put the shoe on the other foot, how would you feel (being a college student and not being able to afford to go out) if some guy you really liked at school did the same thing to you?
Would you be like... good for him he suckered me good, or would you be kind of pissed at him for taking you out under false pretenses.
THIS is the most awesome thing ever like EVER I have to do this now like gosh if only I wasn't so ugly with trash personality then omg I would use these assholes but not for sex hell no just for the beautiful thing you're doing like you are such an inspiration to me, thank you for making my night with this post just thank you Amen Hullahla
If Foodie Calls lead to Booty Calls it’s totally ok. On the other hand those Foodie Calls lead to nothing in the long run it will lead to something & when you are overweight & unhealthy the only one to blame is yourself.
Girls wonder why guys don’t pursue them or want to marry them Foodie Calls without Booty Calls is one of the reasons why.
It's 1 of many reasons I completely avoid any contact with females from the U. S. mainland, and I REALLY WISH they'd stop coming here as tourists 🙄. Nearly all of them use them to fleece guys as fast as they can, and most everyone knows it. That's their real "job" now. No use dating them... just walk up to 1, toss $20 at her and tell her to stick her ass in your face. I mean, that's what they're all about now, nothing more... it is what it is. I don't hate you for it, same as why I don't hate the cartels. They're only giving Americans what they'll do ANYTHING for. Most mainland U. S. females are supplying what old/lonely men demand. It's really that simple.
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