Good Way to Meet Guys and Get Fed. lolxxoo
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Ladies, when you ask why guys only want a coffee date, this is exactly why.
This woman is hardly alone in this either. 1/3 of women in big cities admit to using men for "foodie dates". And doing this at college seems really dumb - what's the likelihood that you run into one of these men again on the street or on campus. Things could get ugly - really ugly with certain men.
And know that you will build a reputation for doing this, and eventually no one will give you the time of day.
She's doing it on Tinder and the guys never get to meet her.
These girls do it to guys from other countries, too. They pretend to like/love the guy. He's totally led on. My friend went through hell and heartbreak over it.
But as you said, American girls do it, too. But at least they meet up with the poor guy. This one won't even get off her couch.
If you're really being serious about this, then yes, it is totally wrong, and I would honestly have to say you're a lowlife for doing it. So what if you're broke? Go find a side job somewhere.
However, I can't put all the blame on you. This is why I talk about simps and the problem with weak guys today, because these guys on Tinder should not be so weak and pathetic as to give a girl they really don’t know - and probably haven't met - free food. I can't take dudes like this seriously when they complain because it's not like they were in an actual relationship with the girl. These guys on Tinder or any other site are desperate so they do stupid things like giving stuff to women they've never even met.
You think it’s simping for a man to pay for the date? I thought that was just tradition and how a well established gentleman behaves. I always pay on the first date and if the lady offers to pay for herself, I insist and still pay for her and get the next date too because I appreciate the gesture. Things would be different if funds were super tight but I see nothing wrong with men paying for the first date. I mean don’t get fking bottle service lol but look if I ask a girl out I’m not making her pay and it’s not simping to do this.
Men going out of their way and bending over backwards for women that aren’t dating them is simping.
@Shamalien So I'm assuming she was talking about guys she hasn't actually met on those apps, they were just texting and the dudes paid for her meals, but I re-read her details. In any case, even if it is a first date a guy shouldn't be paying for everything. I know what you're saying about that being the gentlemanly thing to do, but that isn't really a thing to do in today's society anymore with so many women who want to take advantage of that. Like herself.
@Shamalien Only an idiot would be a "traditional man" when it comes to dating in 2023.
There are certainly few to no traditional women.
@Shamalien I've been on dates and lunches with female friends and had mixed experiences: some of them were cool with paying their share and some only did it grudgingly. A few times some women even paid for everything, even though I insisted they didn't.
When I was much younger I was a simp too like I said in my answer, and had some chicks play me for freebies. I learned from that unlike other guys.
@Shamalien You feel that your behavior would have something to do with it?
@ManOnFire yeah. I don’t date basic bitches there is generally some spiritual connection going in
@Shamalien What kind of behavior do you think would cause you to be played if the chick got freebies?
@ManOnFire it’s the women you choose. I swipe left on most women. I can see they are basic bitches. If they are obsessed with luxury fashion brands and listen to music that promotes an unrealistic lifestyle, or seem entitled in any way I ent interested
Also I mean it depends on the guy you are. In my adult life I’m the kind of guy a woman wants a second date with so I’m not worried about being used like that
@Shamalien As a young guy I used to be one who went for basic bitches, and would get fooled by the ones who 'seemed' nice.
Now as a grown man I learned how to know which women to avoid, and I learned what type a woman is from her actions in a room. I am probably a rare man in the sense that 90% of today's women - and especially the young ones - are so totally far off from the kinds of women I like.
I try to teach the younger guys to stop being weak and simpy. Most would rather stay in their feelings instead.
@ManOnFire yeah most young women are impossible to relate to and basic as fuck…not all of em tho. And one has to be careful with the simping fear, cause a good woman should be treated well. Don’t wanna be so afraid of being taken advantage of that you don’t treat a girl well, because she might be the kind to reciprocate in a big way. Early on in the dating process definitely keep it controlled though…like no super fancy places, and ideally some cheap dates like hikes or happy hour. I’ve definitely spent too much in the beginning before…but once she’s my girlfriend I’ma treat her as often as I can. If your girl is entitled and takes that shit for granted then idk…why even date a girl like that yeah. people will do what they want tho and sometimes a man just wants a pussy and it’s his destiny lol
Very wrong.
Morality is not morality just when it's convenient. It exists even in tough times, not as a justification.
A good friend of mine was used by someone just like you. He also sent her meals. She turned out to be a manipulative flake, no doubt after nothing but his money, too.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
It's never too late to change, and become a better person.
u Is it wrong if a guy tells you that he loves you just so you will have sex with him?
As for being a broke college girl, that doesn't entitle you to any extra indulgences. . . if you were a broke college girl. I suspect you are just another TROLL!
That’s fucked up and very selfish for you to do , but it’s also fucked up that these guy’s are actually doing so for you , so they are just as fucked up as you are , so if it’s working for you then fuck it , keep doing it , just be careful because there are a bunch of wack jobs in this world.
That’s messed up. But we already know there are women who do that.
Girl you just want to get the guys all fired up on here lol. But you should probably stop doing that, it’s not very kind
No, no, please don't be bashful -- I know from your previous posts that you're apparently delightfully plump, and if I lived near you, nothing would please me more than to take you out for a nice, sumptuous meal and then watch you go back to the lucky guy who's enjoying sex with you, Goddess. Not all of us are obsessed with counting every penny and insisting that you owe us for a date;)
There is nothing ‘wrong’ with it. He asked you out and you said, yes. That’s a ‘meet and greet’ get to know you situation. You may end of liking him and want to see him again. Or he may not connect with you. This is appropriate.
If a guy expects anything other than company, when he asks a girl out to eat, that’s on him. It’s an assumption that he is making.
The agreement that was made is~
1-would you like to get a bite to eat with me?
2-yes.
3-you go out together and get a bite to eat.
What is ‘rude’ about the behavior is the behavior that you mentioned in your question is the ghosting part.
You have to be mindful that you are interacting with a human, not an app. He deserves an answer from you, if he reaches out to you after the meal. He also deserves no empty promises after the meal. Be polite and mature.
It’s appropriate to block him if he is demanding, insulting or persistent ~after a ‘no thank you’.
Respect goes both ways.
Being a broke college girl doesn't give you any right to be selfish, mean to other guys and to break them. You're clearly a selfish girl who doesn't care about a boy's heart and you absolutely don't deserve to be loved. Imagine a guy blocking you when you ask him for free food instead of him paying for your food. You will understand what damage you are doing to those innocent guys who are trusting you. At least be honest with them and tell them that you are a poor girl who is looking for free food and that you have no plans of loving them. At least it will help them not to get heart broken since they will not build any hopes at starting. Giving someone false hopes is an unforgivable act that can never be forgiven. You might escape from people after doing wrong by blocking them or by doing anything else. But God and karma will never forgive you and you have to pay for your wrong actions. Unblock them and apologize to them and tell them the truth even if you don't want to be with them. At least it will reduce your level of karma that you may get. Karma is for real and what you give others is what you'll get at any point of your life even if it's not now. So be careful and mindful of your actions and never think that God is not watching your evil actions. Be a good human from now at least so that you will reduce your future consequences effect.
it is wrong because you have premeditated reasons for accepting and or planning etc. its incredibly selfish and wrong on so many levels, then to block them without warning or word? your character is seriously lacking for that. and if they are going out with hopes of sex only they are just as messed up. lots of us started out broke and found ways to survive, you don't have to use anyone. however- if its a guy who goes out with you still after knowing your intentions or plan, then i say thats his issue
An escort is a prostitute who doesn't always necessarily involve sex in the equation, just usually. A foodie hoe is not so different from an escort. You're basically asking for a license to be a prostitute, but minus the trouble of having to involve sex in the equation.
At least streetwalkers have the decency to realize that the man gets something in return! What you're doing is worse. It's essentially a scam.
If fraud and manipulation are the only way you know how to make money, education has failed you.
Very wrong. Why should people, especially men be kind to you because you’re some broke college student. You’re inconsiderate of these men’s feelings that they may actually be interested in you. Maybe they’re not much better off than you but you’re taking advantage of them. You’re a grown up figure it out, work. My daughter works full-time and goes to school full-time. You’re part of the reason why men these days are refusing to do things for women, because they’re being taken advantage of.
Relax, men should be grateful for just hanging out with me
No they shouldn’t. You’re not god’s gift to men lol this type of mentality is what’s going to keep you single all your life. Reality will hit one day that you’ve hit that wall that men don’t want you anymore.
As a guy I have always bought girls lunches or dinners. I would bet if you posted that you need a meal on tinder you would still get guys to buy you a meal. But what you are doing now is a lie. I understand why you do it but you shouldn’t.
Here is my big issue what you are doing. You are exposing yourself to too many men. Most guys are ok but there are the abusers, rapists and even murderers out there. The more men you meet the greater your chances of meeting one of these bad guys. Your free meals come with a risk!
Is it wrong? Well, it’s kind of wrong to waste people’s time and basically (by action, if not words) lie to them by feigning interest just to use them. Not to say men and women haven’t done this forever. More than the simple act of using someone though, even if just for a meal, it shows a sad lack of awareness that your problem (being a broke college girl) gives you some kind of right to use others who may also have their own financial difficulties, or other issues. Maybe that person is having bad luck in the dating scene and your essentially using them ghosting them does a little bit more damage to the esteem they are trying to build.
Its selfish.
Rather; you've essentially made yourself a breakfast whore. A woman's gotta eat, sure, but if you have no other means of getting food, check with local food banks or charitable organizations. Get some pots and soil and grow radishes. Heck, talk to the student union about setting up a community garden.
Neither theft nor duplicity are good, and you're basically doing both.
You are being nice when you reward guys with your company and allow them to buy you meals. Spending a little money for the privilege of talking to you makes them happy. Occasionally, you may reward them with a hug. That is enough to keep them around for another month.
I always like to put the shoe on the other foot, how would you feel (being a college student and not being able to afford to go out) if some guy you really liked at school did the same thing to you?
Would you be like... good for him he suckered me good, or would you be kind of pissed at him for taking you out under false pretenses.
THIS is the most awesome thing ever like EVER I have to do this now like gosh if only I wasn't so ugly with trash personality then omg I would use these assholes but not for sex hell no just for the beautiful thing you're doing like you are such an inspiration to me, thank you for making my night with this post just thank you Amen Hullahla
If Foodie Calls lead to Booty Calls it’s totally ok. On the other hand those Foodie Calls lead to nothing in the long run it will lead to something & when you are overweight & unhealthy the only one to blame is yourself.
Girls wonder why guys don’t pursue them or want to marry them Foodie Calls without Booty Calls is one of the reasons why.
It's 1 of many reasons I completely avoid any contact with females from the U. S. mainland, and I REALLY WISH they'd stop coming here as tourists 🙄. Nearly all of them use them to fleece guys as fast as they can, and most everyone knows it. That's their real "job" now. No use dating them... just walk up to 1, toss $20 at her and tell her to stick her ass in your face. I mean, that's what they're all about now, nothing more... it is what it is. I don't hate you for it, same as why I don't hate the cartels. They're only giving Americans what they'll do ANYTHING for. Most mainland U. S. females are supplying what old/lonely men demand. It's really that simple.
"I’m a broke college girl so be kind to me."
No you're a pig. There are dozens of support services available for students get off your fat ass and ask. If international students who can barely speak English can get proper supports without abusing others like you are... what's wrong with you?
Please stop contributing to this stereotype and making dating a toxic place for genuine people. You can change. …You can also get a job. I've had a job my entire time through undergrad and grad school…
Also, you can go to local food pantries for free food.
Your kidding right... ? Of Course that is wrong... that is so low. There is nothing you can say to rectify this... honestly?
But i guess this is post is to fake to be true...
It's no less wrong than me pretending to really like you just so that I can sleep with you, and then blocking because you gave me what I actually wanted. A lot of people these days think the way they exploit other people has no consequences, but it all cases the way you treat other people will come back to haunt you. It's called Karma. You don't have to believe in it for it to bite you when you least expect it.
It sounds funny but It's definitely wrong since you are wasting their time and money and also yours. Also you block them after having a breakfast/lunch or dinner with them. That breaks their heart too.
You should stop doing this. Find a good guy and eat as much as you want with him. q
Put your self in their shoes. How would you feel if some guy goes out to dinner with you…you like him and paid the date of $100. for both…you next hear from him again… all other guys does the same….
is it wrong?
It’s very wrong. It will come back and haunt you. What goes around comes around you’re going to be in a situation one day where the guys gonna know what you’re doing and confront you or maybe one of his friends will tell him that he went out with you and this is what she does so you could be set up for him to take you to a nice expensive, restaurant and he might walk out and make you pay for your meal and his meal
Exactly. It's wrong
😂😂 i believe in reality
I don't see any problem in that 😂😂✌️✌️and i have noticed guys felling for this..
(I think it's guys fault if they fell for it ) and problem is most guy who are average n low value fell for this
And high value men or men with real money have so much options that they will see through you or ignore u as we can get sex without being simp
Men ARE pigs, but that's pretty unethical too... I mean, is it a perk, hell yeah, but if you are misrepresenting things... 2 types of folks are on Tinder, people looking for relationships and people looking for sex, if you aren't looking to see them ever again from the start, you better be spreading your legs before its over because people looking for dinner isn't in that equation.
This is a troll question 💀💀💀
The guy you use for free food could hurt you, if you mess with the wrong guy.
Eventually word could get around that you use guys for food and you will have no friends
Just get a job dammit
Hope you don't do that to some unstable person who is passive-aggressive. He may pay a visit to your house some night to get his money back, with interest.
you should at least break up after breakfast. "i am glad we met but i feel it won't work"
also why not meals from same guy? let's meet for dinner?
I don't think it's wrong at all, and if a woman told me that she just wanted to use me for free food, I'd probably still want to date her anyway.
I think that is a bad thing especially if you are not telling them. Tell you what: Go to either Youtube, TikTok, or Instagram, and do a search for "Oyster lady."
This is exactly why I sometimes hate women and prefer to have sex either with my hands or with prostitutes if I am single.
This obviously does not apply to those, that don't use us for free food or money.
This is why first dates should be coffee dates or something free but some guys will never learn
Exactly this! If she gets past the first two "dates" at Dunkin Donuts, a guy can be far more sure she is there for him, not the free meal.
It very wrong tbh
Because those men r trying to look for love
And ur using them for food
If u need food go to the food pantry
Or apply for food stamps
There's nothing wrong with it. If a gut is dumb enough to spend money feeding a random girl then he gets what he deserves. This is why I advocate taking girls on a coffee date for the first date
so incredibly wrong, damn. really leading people on huh
Better it go towards college tuition than porn subscriptions or only fans accounts.
Perhaps these guys should stay away from college girls if they can’t outwit them.
I'm being serious here but if you broke, look into stripping to get money from guys rather than just meal. Your $ received per hour will be far greater.
(Shrug) if that’s your thing. To me it wouldn’t be worth getting a free meal with a dullard talking to me the whole time. And then the constant texting after I’d imagine.
Are you that hard up for cash? Get a career woman.
That seems like a lot of work just for food.
u If that's all you want, then get a job and don't lead men on.
I get what you have to do but it is taking advantage of guys. Many of them are broke also
How wrong is it to use women for sex then block them?
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So you escort for for french toast... Real low rate, real low class.
If you get free shit from guys you meet from dating apps well girl good for you. Because if you met a guy like me anywhere you wouldn't get shit. In fact you'll be buying me a beer or of something.
That’s really bad, if you actually like one guy he would probably pay for a lot of things for you anyway knowing your situation but the way you’re doing it is wrong
Do you like to be used? By your logic. It's OK to use her for sex, I was horny.
How about you spend less time on tinder and dates and more time working.
i dont think thats in any way justified honey
u need to look for other means than this
Please tell me you're just bored and decided to troll today.
I think it’s fine so long as you’re candid and upfront about it. It’s only wrong if you decide to be misleading.
Sounds like it's more trouble than it's worth. But if that's your thing I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm assuming you still conversate with them. What can he really EXPECT? A lunch or dinner date is not a contract for anything more.
I don't think it's wrong. I would potentially use it that way too.
your the last person that should ask for kindness, plenty of scum of the earth women just like you, that should be the first thing you should tell them
A lot of guys dont have good intentions either, but unfortunately there are also good guys who you dont deserve to even talk to. Just use the worthless ones you’re gonna get along with them better.
Wait... so they're ordering DoorDash for you or something? Without meeting you?
Don't you have to give them your address for that?
If you're not serious about trying to date them and you're just looking for the free meal, yeah its totally wrong. You're just using them
Kindness is reserved for the kind.
You're a gold digging asshole.
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