I was a virgin until I met the woman I would marry. my wife was a virgin until she met the man she would marry. the important part for both of us was that the relationship was going to be permanent. it has been. as for the question. yes very much yes. I know people are going to be upset blah blah blah but the medical, biological and psychological effects of having a lot of sexual partners is well documented for both men and women. I could list the statistics but I won't I will instead list the possible and quite likely negative that both will likely experience. for girls at and beyond the 3rd most (not all cause exceptions exist) begin to experience issues with pair bonding (the ability to emotionally bond with a partner) the more partners the worse it gets. you drastically increase your likelihood of getting stds, stis and becoming entirely infertile. the odds of cheating and being unfaithful increase the more partners you have (both of these are prevalent in guys and girls). for ladies you can begin to have issues with your pelvic floor and vaginal walls resulting in difficulty getting wet. for guys the more partners you have you do also have a harder time pair bonding it does happen later than for girls but it does happen. likewise your risk of stds and stis increases dramatically. in addition you severely increase your risk of having erectile dysfunction at an earlier age as a result of being with many partners. in addition to all of that you can cause permanent damage to your penis especially if you change partners frequently.
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All I care about is that she is smart, has healthy self-respect, good values, and is choosy about who she sleeps with. That rules out girls who allow themselves to be used as a cum dump for any guy who wants to use her.
But I really don't care about body count. I never asked a girl what hers was and none ever asked mine. I assumed that normal people had sex before with boyfriends/girlfriends.
I never placed any value on "purity". Virginity isn't something you "lose" any more than you "lose" childhood once you pass the age of puberty. Sex is merely something that people engage in once they are old enough. It's normal for people who are post-pubescent.
None of my girlfriends nor my wife were virgins before we met.
I much prefer women with strong libidos who are heterosexual, sexually experienced, love sex and are good at it.
Personally, it depends on context. At my age I question low counts more than high ones, because people that I relate to usually have at least a couple partners in their history. I'll wonder why nobody else has gotten with them. Still not a deal breaker if I feel like there's a good reason, though.
High counts don't bother me if I think the reasoning isn't concerning. If they're healthy and capable of holding a good relationship but they had a hoe-phase, that's totally fine. If their count comes from being incapable of maintaining a relationship and quickly entering the next partnership, red flag.
To me, yes. More than a handful (5+) is too many in my opinion. I find double/triple digits to be an absolute turnoff. You can gain experience through practicing/learning/teaching with the same person or same few people. Its rare to find âattractiveâ virgins (by choice) or attractive men âwho donât mess around with hookup cultureâ but they exist and those are the few I prefer
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I donât think much about a manâs sexual past to be honest.
Yes and no. The actual count shouldn't matter however social media and the "manosphere" have painted it into a rating game.
The truth is the actual number shouldn't matter. What matters is the behaviors that is being shown surrounding that count.
As an example if someone slept with say 50 guys. But she was completely honest with them all, no sneaky links or hidden one night stands. Then the count means nothing.
If however if even 1 of those was a sneak link, affair or she was a willing partner to someone else's affair then I would NEVER consider her as a dating much less a relationship option. If she is able to rationalize lying, cheating and being part of such a relationship then we have a fundamental difference that will prevent me from even considering pair bonding with them. That is not a risk I wish to take.
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Your twenties lay the foundation for the rest of your life. If you build a house on a weak foundation it will crumble. Educate yourself, work hard, build character and hit the gym. You determine what life is âsupposed to be.â
Body count is just one of those things. Do you want a family? Or go from hookup to hookup and hope you can "stick the landing" before you turn into an old cat lady?
Think about these things now, while you still have your options as a woman. Not after you turn 30 and the clock is running out. Depends on personal preferences as some girls might feel more secure witha male who has had many partners as he has too much experience and other girls would feel like that makes him less reliable and too playful;when it comes to men, unless she is a super hot babe, they would feel a bit hesitant about dating a girl who has had many relationships;while a girl who had had no relationships would be seen as more favourable as men like their girls to be âpureâ as for the irony of it 😂 but anyway thatâs what it is!!
For men, they think body count matters because women get âlooseâ when theyâve had âtoo manyâ hook-ups. This is not only horribly incorrect, it shows just how poorly educated men are on womenâs bodies and furthers the toxic double standards of purity culture. You can even see it in the results that the male majority thinks it matters when they donât realize women can get tight again. Hell, hymens grow back! The only time a vagina becomes permanently âlooseâ is after birth and thatâs if the womanâs lucky enough not to get a husband stitch against her will. That shit can ruin sex for women completely and make it way too painful to even bother. Body count only matters to the men that have things to compensate for in a relationship so they need someone inexperienced who wonât notice their flaws.
Of course, it does.
Suppose your partner has fucked 3 dozen people in the past.
Ask yourself this: "What is my probability that I will be The One and that they won't fuck anybody else anymore?"We all know what the answer is...
Don't ever forget this:
For me it does. I'm keeping mine as low as possible as well. I think it's very unattractive if a woman gives her love the anyone and everyone.
yes, depends. what matters is what a person learns, what values they hold, and how they have grown. Better off keeping it to 1, but some learn the hard way or are different.
how they got there... might be of interest. What traumas they are living out of.
Their current emotional state is highly important. People don't change unless they want to... and many don't want to. If you take on someone elses emotional baggage, you'll be in for an education.
Body counts and the number of sexual partners a person has had are subjective and can vary greatly from person to person. What's important in a relationship is open and honest communication about your values and expectations. Some people may be more concerned about a partner's sexual history, while others may not consider it a significant factor in attractiveness or their willingness to date someone. Ultimately, it's about finding a partner who aligns with your values and preferences.
Here is the truth. Everyone is different so these are not absolutes but overall, on the grand scale, in general.
Most men will care about a woman's sexual past. (if he is considering her for a long term girlfriend or wife).
Most women do not care about a guys past.
Men and women are different. Women care about other things.
It matters.
I would not want to be in a serious relationship with a girl that has 50 bodies at 20 years old.
But she doesn't have to be a virgin.
The best I can explain it is exclusivity. I don't want to be with someone who everyone has already experienced.absolutly, i don't date but if i ever had the intention i would want a virgin, i'm not accepting someone elses used goods into my mind, my heart or my life, oh i'm also not putting my mouth anywhere near to a place where another guy put his junk inside. most i can tolerate is a bi girl who only slept with womans and even then there is no point in having too many body counts.
I see a lot of Insecure men in here. Welp..! I rather my man to have some experience out there. Then I know once he choose to settle down, he canât be phase by others trying to get his attention.
It doesnât matter to me, for both gender (male or female). Iâm STRAIGHT.Yes. Because I'm looking for a wife. So I want someone who has a mindset and experience with saying No. I want someone with self control. I don't want someone who might cheat on me just because she develops feelings for another guy. I want someone who will be able to recognize the danger and take the appropriate steps to back away and draw clear boundaries. If she's opening her legs to any hot guy who shows interest in her, she won't have the established skill set to do that.
Yes they are.. But only because it affects pair bonding for both men and women.. Healthy people don't have high body counts, men or women.. Sure men can be called studs for being able to get with a lot of women, but that just means they know how to play the game..
I think all the people in here, particularly the men talking about marriage have not experienced the joys of that lovely institution. And I say this in sincere sarcasm. Once you've been through the joys of alimony and child support and not being able to see your children and being trashed and family law court and all the discrimination has a man you will wish to god You had never done this.
Yes, it does. And it's funny that all the men who say women get mad that the answer is yes for women only are the same men who getad when you show them statistics that say it's also true for men.
For women no is general but yes it matters for men
And men have two zones just like girls have friends zones
Commitment zones where they commit for marriage (for this yes high bodycount will eliminate you)
Sex zones in this guys only want sex n hookup from girls (doesn't matter because guys in general prefer hoes or girls they know who doesn't want relationship or avoidable like someone girlfriend/wife/slut where guys know it's only about sex )I always ask a guy about their body count right away.. So I can write them off if I don't like the number LOL
No wasting time with losers anymore.. if it is more than 10 I don't want him.. under 10 is more preferable..I would rather not know. I donât want to think of my girlfriend as having been plowed through by 50+ guys. I donât sleep around so my body count is relatively low for my age and my status. I want a woman that is as untouched as possible.
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