It's 2024, does bodycount still matter to you? If yes, how will it affect your present and future? If no, do you care to know about past experiences?

[Mr_twoface]

So its 2024 and I keep hearing that questions about bodycount and details of past experiences is still very much important among a range of folks. Interesting to know what GAGs have of an opinion?

As for myself and my wife, I told early on that I was rebellious as a youth and she said she had number of encounters. That was literally the end of the conversation. We didn't care to know of each others body counts nor names or other information about past experiences. We both were on the same page as to where we stand today, and our goals of the future.

We been married two years now and along the way questions about the past has surfaced but we have been totally opened and transparent about it. No answers of experiences have bothered us.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Past experiences imply carried baggage more for females I think. Especially since they'll try to carry out a relationship with men that are just on a conquest for pussy. In contrast, the men will end up carrying baggage when they tried to be in a relationship with a woman that also apparently is just on a conquest for cock... it's just men don't jump into a relationship with complete adherence to fidelity unless they actually suspect it's going to be reciprocated.

It hits both the sexes just as hard emotionally, but I think because men take longer to submit to his partner, it hits them pretty hard, and I sort of blame women for sleeping around and catching feeling for every alpha dude that bangs her/that's way better than her, and simply expected him to settle for her (the nativity of it) as if he is just going to just submit to her as retarded.

It's like both sexes are crude but on different sides of the relationship spectrum. On my end... I can fuck any of these chicks and not have feelings for her and carry no baggage from it after I tell her to piss off. She on the other hand will be and love right from there and be heart broken. In opposite I might meet a chick that lulls me into being with her with much commitment, and they'll cheat because that other dude was just a nice guy, just a really good friend (the truth is he just gave her the butterflies in the stomach/horny).

Both genders are shit... but I'm a male, so I'm better. Which of you bitches want to send me pussy pictures?

Pussy pictures?

[MrOracle]

The amount of sexual partners someone has had will have a significant impact on the ability to maintain a relationship, and it's significantly more pronounced for women, because women are far more likely to be unhappy than men in a relationship if they have had multiple partners in the past.

The reason for this is because women are hypergamous - they tend to always want to be trading up, and the more partners a woman has, the stronger her hypergamy becomes. She tends to judge her current partner against the best qualities of each of her past partners. Her current guy Jack might be a great guy, but he doesn't make as much money as Doug, isn't as tall as Rick, isn't as physically fit as Brian, isn't as educated as Mark, doesn't have the social skills as Blake, and isn't as handsome as Andy. A couple of years into the relationship, when life is stressing her out or when her girl friends are getting married, having kids, going on vacation, moving into a nicer home, or whatever, she will decide she is unhappy, and then each of those comparisons will play through her head and she is going to decide that the reason she is unhappy is that she "settled" for Jack, who had the nerve not to be better than every other man in every possible way, so she needs to find something better, because she DESERVES to be happy. And if Jack is blindsided and destroyed in the process, well, he should have been better.

Statistically, a woman who is a virgin at marriage will report a happy marriage after 10 years at a rate of just over 80%. With only 5 partners, that number falls to only 30% of wives reporting a happy marriage after 10 years.

That's why this matters, and why it matters more for women - though it definitely is going to apply to the kind of men who have 3 digit or even higher body counts. Even for men, at those higher numbers, the ability to emotionally bond is destroyed.

[LazerBean]

For sure. Our past impacts a lot about us and gives pretty good insight about our future. Less sleeping around generally means less baggage and damage.

[Mr_twoface]

Interesting thought.

[Apple1996]

Definitely matters to me. I wouldn't be with a slutty guy

[Mr_twoface]

Where do you draw the line of someone being slutty? Everyones figure is different.

[Apple1996]

More than 5 bodies

[HotLentilzzz]

I dont care about number. When i first found out people counted, I thought that was really strange. I care about number of and length of relationships though. I would never ask for body count but if I knew a guy hooked up with a new girl every week or multiple times a week, I would never consider him for a relationship.


Just like if a guy told me he’s been in several short relationships, or even a few short relationships, I also wouldn't go for that. Not for the ages of men I go for. I go for their ages for a reason and so far, they proved my assumption about ages wrong. Maturity, decency and stability dont come with age. Or maybe im not hot enough to pull the better guys or maybe the better guys are taken. Others might call them “leftovers” but I find that to be very harsh.

[Alex-Snow]

Our pasts should be our pasts... just that. Focus on the present and the future

[Mr_twoface]

Exactly!

[Lyndsielee666]

I’m a whole ass jealous mess so I’ll dig until I figure it out myself and then hurt my own feelings 😒

[Mr_twoface]

Is this because of past experiences? What do you believe causes the jealousy?

[Lyndsielee666]

I’ve got cptsd from my last relationship so it’s most likely that being triggered 😖

[Mr_twoface]

Sorry to hear that! Hopefully u get to deal with it and it can progress your future life.

[Pohjolan]

Its not the bodycount itself but it being a symptom of some underlying issues or her not looking for a long term relationship.

A bit like a company having a high turnover rate of employees.

[Mr_twoface]

Interesting insight.

[elizamichale1]

Nops it doesn't matter at all n i dont think it is sensible to keep count

[Mr_twoface]

Thanks for sharing and totally agree with you! I'm not different after all ;)

[elizamichale1]

Hehe u r not

[ImalwaysrightOK]

You two are disgusting. Ofc it is important. I don't want someone everyone has been with. I don't want a woman that other men have cum inside of.

[Mr_twoface]

lol.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Yes, why? her past relationship experiences can easily be used to see if you two will be compatible long term. Her past behaviors are a precursor to how she may act in a relationship.

[Dinklex3]

No, body count doesn’t matter to me. I don’t really care to know, but if we’re dating we’ll probably end up sharing funny stories.

[Mr_twoface]

Finally, one who shares my views :)

[tremendousfern]

It matters. I wouldn't want to marry a slut.

[Mr_twoface]

How do you define a slut? What's the bodycount in your head?

[Nikki1989]

I wouldn't marry an insecure idiot.

[tremendousfern]

@Nikki1989 LOL "how come you're not okay that I slept around and gargled the semen of dozens of guys before you? you're not insecure are you?"
You're a stupid ho

[Berethor]

The year don't matter to someone traditional, yea it matter to me as I don't want a ho.

[Mr_twoface]

Where do you draw the line? And how do you define a who vs someone who had a difficult childhood and underwent experiences?

[Berethor]

Line? a virgin is best, I don't care for excuses, a difficult childhood and such.

allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

[Mr_twoface]

Interesting.

[HotLentilzzz]

Are you also a virgin? If not, thats a power imbalance

[Berethor]

Virgins should only date fellow virgins? then why women don't care about that?

[HotLentilzzz]

If a virgin themselves chooses to not be with one, thats fine. But if a non-virgin specifically seeks out a virgin, you come off as a predator. What are you reasons for wanting a virgin?

[Berethor]

Okay, but I am here to talk about what matter to me, not to talk about myself. I already said my reasons and put a link, I don't want a ho, I don't want someone dirty that is likely to cheat, the more she been with the worse it is, but I want a virgin to begin with.

[Nikki1989]

Another body count question?

Where do all these petty insecurities come from?

[Mr_twoface]

There is no insecurity on my part. Where involved in a group conversation and to some it still was a thing, so figured I ask here. Still mixed opinions.

[DarkWinterNights]

Of course. I believe the more people sleep around the more likely they are to either not settle down, or initiate divorce later.

[HotLentilzzz]

Everyone’s entitled to a divorce. Its scary how men act about women initiating divorces…. Everyone should be allowed to leave.

[DarkWinterNights]

Everyone’s entitled to divorce. But men overwhelmingly are forced by the government to pay child support and alimony. Even if they were cheated on or their wife simply became bored with them. So men are obviously going to find every way to minimize the probability of divorce, or if that becomes extremely difficult or impossible, just avoid marriage altogether. Which looking at current marriage stats, is exactly where we’re headed.

[HotLentilzzz]

If you guys are just worried about money, why do you guys always act like your hearts get broken and that you lost the love of your lives? No, you dont care. you're just worried about money. And if the wife cheated, you present the proof and inititate the divorce yourself.

If you or the wife gets bored, get a divorce. Why stay when there's no more love? This is why marriage is stupid. Its cold hard contract that isn't needed.

[DarkWinterNights]

Money is kind of a big deal because that’s all women ever care about. Would you date a guy who was paying 60% of his paycheck to an ex wife for alimony and child support? That what happened to my uncle and he worked himself to death providing for her while she ran off with some rich dentist and lived a luxurious life. Even turned his kids against him to spite him.

I’d be perfectly fine with removing the government from marriage.

[DextroShade]

It matters to men and will always matter as no amount of shaming or attempted societal manipulation will make a guy want to marry a whore.

[Mr_Citizen]

It matters to me. I'm still a virgin and would prefer losing it to someone who's also a virgin. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker by any means, but it is my preference.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t care what year it is it will always matter

[Slim57]

Yes it still matters, I hold anyone to my same count though

[Mr_twoface]

Where would u draw the line? Why does it matter to you do you think?

[Slim57]

Anything higher than mine by like 2, mines not high but I feel like it's just easier to date someone similar to mine and most likely we have the same values and views as opposed to someone with a really high count, we just wouldn't click

[Mr_twoface]

Thanks for sharing.

[laly520]

it matters to me

[Mr_twoface]

Why?

[laly520]

wouldn't want a guy with huge bodycount
big turn off to me n kind of disgusting

[Mr_twoface]

What is a huge bodycount for you? Everyone defines it differently.

[laly520]

over 10

[Mr_twoface]

Interesting. Thanks for sharing.

[KrakenAttackin]

Marrying a whore will never work out well.

[Mr_twoface]

Interesting wording. How do you define a "whore"? At what figure do you believe its too much?

[jimmy2]

Not at all

[Mr_twoface]

Thanks for your input. Has this been your views all through life?

[jimmy2]

Welcome

[Anonymous]

go and have some tuna soup

[Mr_twoface]

I did. It was good!