Ladies, when do you start paying for dates yourself?

[Anonymous]

First date. I will offer to pay regardless of who asked whom out

First date: I'll offer to split the bill

Second Date: Guys usually ask and pay for the first, so I pay for the second

After at least a few dates have gone by

I don't believe in paying for dates

[Altheavas]

I don’t mind paying the first date, or split the bills. If I invite you to a date I would pay for it too. I just wanna let them know that a date mean anything else than that…! Just because you pay for a meal, that I would owe you anything.
Overall if I meet a gentleman and he thinks as the man he should be the one paying and he don’t expect anything in return. He act all responsible, mature, he doesn’t act desperate, pays attention to his date. I might just melt, I hope I won’t creep him out. 😉!!

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend just pays for me all the time, I can’t really afford it when we go out but I will surprise him with little things in return. Prior to us dating I would try to pay for myself whenever I’ve gone out with other guys so that I wouldn’t feel like I owed them anything. My current boyfriend never let me pay for myself even when I’ve tried.

[Billlewis]

Under absolutely no circumstances whatsoever should a woman ever have to pay for a date, period. I'm a firm believer in the guy always paying for each and every date a woman goes out on. If I'm fortunate enough to have the privilege of paying for additional dates that she has with other guys, I consider this a tremendous honor, and if she's kind enough to allow me to continue paying for her dates on a long term basis, I find this deeply fulfilling.

[Yannae]

zzz I want to tag her so bad. May you read this and answer.

[wolfcat87]

Maybe years into dating. I only date to marry, and dating means him paying for everything from the start. If he's not paying, investing in me, and putting in the effort, then he's not marriage material for me. We aren't on the same page and don't have the same ideals. It's worked out very well for ensuring that I'm around men who are more my type and not wasting time with those who aren't.

[wiltingrosepetal]

My boyfriend and I are both jobless so we go out on the cheapest possible dates 💀 like, a few days ago we went to an op shop and played with a one dollar puppet. I think on the first he offered to pay, and nowadays neither pays because neither spends 😀

[lilBigPotato]

I don't expect him to pay for my stuff. If he does it's a nice gesture but nothing that will change my overall impression of the date because it's not something I value highly so I'm ok to pay my part

[HelpfulWoman]

From the start, as any self respecting person would?

Unless discussed and agreed by both previously, it should always be assumed you pay your own way.

[billmunch]

As a rule, I only pay her way once we're officially a couple, at which point she gets gold star girlfriend privileges. Until then, we're just buddies and buddies pay for their own

[IlllllIll]

He used to pay for all our dates.
Now, it doesn't matter who pays for who, we have a joined account.

[HaleyCatgirl]

I would probably pay immediately because we probably going to Burger King or the Mac of Donald 😂 I'm not too picky about restaurants

[HaleyCatgirl]

Just the thought of him taking a bite out of me samwich 🥺 nu

[Simslover92]

It could be the first date. I don't mind spending money on someone I like.

[Angxl3120]

If he pays the first one ill pay the second, but if he asks to split its not a problem

[Exterminatore]

They should pay for themselves always. Men and women are equal now, therefore men should not pay for them, they in their equality have the right to now pay for themselves.

[Nikki1989]

My husband always pays. That is what gentlemen do.

[serious_miss419]

Jesus whatever happened to men being gentlemen. Get back in order guys. Look at yourselves, not the results. Take accountability and self reflect. Move forward without guilt, loss of pride or blame.

[Djaay]

What ever happened to real women?

[Exterminatore]

You girls didn’t want gentlemen. You wanted equality. Remember? Enjoy your equality.

[Unit1]

Why not just split the bill? Neither risks feeling used.

[IslaTheWitch]

I pay for myself. Date is not a relationship.

[LavLavLuv]

I don't mind paying or split

[PreciousJewel]

When he has no money left

[Anonymous]

Never. I'm a woman.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I Split.