Should I tell my date about my inexperience?

[Savoir65]

(not from the US) I'm 24, he's 38. I've never been in a relationship, I'm a virgin too, never had a date. I meet him last month (we have mutual friends) and 2 days ago he asked me on a date, I really like him and I want to get to know him, how do I tell him I've never been in a relationship or should I not tell him in the first place? Is it weird? please help, be honest... I'm so embarrassed I don't wanna look too inexperienced but at the same time I don't want to lie, is it a turn off?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay, I wouldn't worry too much about telling him right away. On your first date just focus on getting to know each other and having a good time.

If things start heading in a physical direction, then yeah you'll probably want to give him a heads up at some point before going too far. But for the first date I'd advise just leaving it be for now.

Chances are he can kinda tell you're new to dating just by how you act. You don't wanna make it a big thing and have him thinkin' it's a big deal. When you do tell him keep it lighthearted - say you're just not very experienced but you wanna change that.

Focus on your connection and having fun together. Let things happen naturally. Lots of people start dating a bit later, so as long as you're a cool chick he prolly won't care too much. Just be yourself and see where it goes, yeah? An' good luck! Hope it goes well.

[Savoir65]

Thank you so much 🙏🏻 this helps a lot

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome

[Berethor]

It not unlikely that he prefer a virgin, one reason why men date a much younger woman.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

[Savoir65]

Maybe he thinks I'm not, I never said I was that's why I was worried

[Savoir65]

I mean he doesn't know yet

[Berethor]

Yea virgins are rare nowadays, anyway you better tell him.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't date someone so much older then you if you're a virgin to be honest. It's a red flag that the dude is dating some 10 years younger then him already. But either way yes I think it's information to disclose.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

All I can say is be yourself & laying all your cards on the table might not be the right thing to do on a date but on the flip side if it comes up in conversation be open & honest.

[Savoir65]

Ur right thank you

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life I always say if you never try you will never know & as for you try & try to have fun as well.

[Savoir65]

Exactly 👌🏻

[Iron_Man]

Tell him so he won’t be looking for sex

[Savoir65]

Thank you

[Iron_Man]

Sure…

[BLP11520]

Be honest with him about it

[Savoir65]

I will🙏🏻

[BLP11520]

Best thing to do

[Joker_]

DON'T

[Savoir65]

Don't tell him?

[Joker_]

sure lol