What is the oldest age of a person you would date?

[EnglishArtsteacher]

I'm a straight man, and the oldest person I would date is about 45 years old. Of course, there is some grey area. If I fell in love with a 47 year old woman, I wouldn't say "Sorry, but you're exactly two years older than my requirement). However, I do think 50 years old would be the ultimate dealbreaker of being too old, regardless of how well we hit it off.

Under 18 years old (if you click on this option, I really fucking hope you're also under 18 years old).

22 years old

25 years old

29 years old

39 years old

49 years old

59 years old (or older).

[Flatmanlewis]

I don’t think of an age as a limiting factor but, ideally, I’d never date older than myself and probably five years younger than me is a general guideline. I met a woman not too long ago in a professional capacity - a professional model - who at 45 was arguably one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen. We’re I single, she absolutely could be the future “Mrs Me”.


My wife is about a decade younger than I am and it’s a nice age spread. I’m a faithfully married man so this is strictly hypothetical.

[DaveJord]

At 47 anyone over 50 is questionable to me. All depends on the person.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Really? Even at your age? Lol.

[DaveJord]

I don't like dating women younger than 42 at 47... but the older they are the more physically active and attractive they need to be. I am a very active person... so old women I have learned online... some just seek out younger men for the casual sex. But the question was not how old would be too old to fuck... it said how old is too old to want to date. I have yet to find anyone over 50 that would be a good person for me to want to date.

[DaveJord]

Women over 50... I mean they are not like women your age at 33. At 33 I would date anyone 45 your younger... but now that I am 45 and see all the women available at 50 plus. Dude it is like they still think they are 25 or they are undatable which is why they are 50 plus and still single.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

As a 33 year old, I wouldn't date a woman over 50 years old, but I have a feeling I won't be saying that at 47 years old.

I will agree a lot of women 50 years old, and over are acting like teenagers for some reason lol.

[DaveJord]

You say that at 33 and I would have said the same thing. But at 33 you have a lot of options. At 47, well most are divorce with have children. Some even young children. They have careers, and jobs, and hobbies and they have not ever been about to figure out the right life balance with all that, as much as try to date a man.

Bottom line I am 47 and I am divorced, and I have gotten over it. Most single women over 50 are in the same boat, and they have not gotten over it, or even learned how to live with. Or taken any responsibility for all their own failed relationship or grown from it. Because if they had, they would be over 50 on a dating app doing all the same shit, that has never worked for them before.

At 47 your options are severely limited, and honestly these women are all where they are in life for a reason, and they had 50 plus years of life behind them to figure it out and they still have not figured it out.

I mean there ate diamonds in the rough and sure any one can get lucky, and if I have or do meet that person then her age might not be that big of a deal to me... but let's be honest. Most those types of people figured it out in their 30's and 40's and for those that have not, are online with no clue on what they should do, who they should trust, or how to actually be in a progressive relationship... because again if they had figured that out they would have.

Now do I consider going out with these women and giving an opportunity... yes. But I am too old and too wise to play highschool dating games with any women my age, older or younger. Unless their got their mind in the right head space.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Fair enough. Perhaps I will change my mind when I get to your age.

[Chandelier8]

I don't date anymore but, as an adult, I've dated men of all ages. I find younger men harder to relate to, on deeper issues, but older men miss some cultural references.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

This is a good response, and I completely understand what you mean by dating with noticeable age gaps being a maturity vs. cultural problem.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I know a man who’s 35 years old who wanted to divorce his 30 year old wife because of a 47 year old woman ;)

[EnglishArtsteacher]

That's interesting. I guess whatever floats his boat.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t think it’s about his boat, it’s just some women are irresistible even at 47 :)

[EnglishArtsteacher]

That's definitely true.

[NathanDavis]

the older I've met has been 10 years older and... it didn't feel like a "gap difference" either

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Once you're about 21 years old (and older), I don't think dating ten years older is a big deal at all.

[NathanDavis]

maybe so... yes, but I was older than 21, so off-college and already working... so, since we both worked in similar areas... it felt a lot less of a difference to me, or a gap

[Fromdusktilldawn]

right now as a 27 year old, I'd say 29-31, but exceptions are always possible. In summer I met a brazilian girl who was on vacation, looked great, I was surprised when I found out she was in her late 30s. On some people its really hard to tell their age

[mandyfire98]

I usually date older men. I dated a guy who was 49 once. It's just what I'm attracted to. The oldest I would date? That's a great question. I honestly don't know.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

I don't blame you, since males in their 20s are still acting like they're 16 years old.

[mandyfire98]

Yeah I don't know what it is. I've just always gravitated towards older men. I find it sexy.

[GirlNamedNikki]

I'm only 15, so there's not much leeway for different ages. But after I turn 18, I would say no more than 5 years older than me until I'm a good amount older.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Good idea.

[GirlNamedNikki]

Thanks, I over think a lot of things.👍

[LiamJHayden]

I had a relationship with a 41-year-old lady when I was 24. I'd rather date a woman older, even much older whose company I enjoy than one close to my age who bores me. I've met women 55+ who were intriguing and in better shape than a lot of 20-somethings.

[loveslongnails]

The other day I was at a my local pub and a new bartender had started working. I thought she was in her mid to late 30's, like me. Gorgeous face, body, the whole package. Turns out she's 49 and has a beautiful 25 year old daughter!

So ---- moral dilemma! Mom is 12 years older than me, the daughter is 12 years younger than me! Who do I date first? LOL

[razelove]

Under 30. I have a family, a house, all that jazz. If I'm dealing with single mom's, I'd rather they be younger and hotter. I'm just speaking from experience and my own preference.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Well, how are under 30 years old? Are talking 29 years old? Lol.

[razelove]

Possibly, that happy middle ground of not too much baggage and not completely ignorant, like I don't want an 18 year old who's wet behind the ears and I would have to take care of and teach how to pay the power bill. 22-29 without a crushing amount of baggage or too much of a chip on their shoulder and I'll put in effort.

[Anonymous]

I prefer men 25-28, a lot of them peak around those ages. But, its not a hard and fast rule. If I'm attracted and enjoying the person, then I don't care how old they are. At my age the youngest was 18, and the oldest was about 65.

[Apple1996]

I would only ever date younger than me so 26 and under

[curious_gul]

Why?

[Apple1996]

@curious_gul I get along better with gen z men. They are so sweet and caring 💗

[curious_gul]

Aww, probably true, my fiance was a millennial, ughhh it felt like we're from different planets.

[curious_gul]

We were*

[Apple1996]

@curious_gul yeah millennial men disrespect women a lot. I can't handle them 😣

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Are you serious? I work on a college campus with many 18-24 year old Gen Z men, and most of them are sexist assholes. I joke, and call them "Tater-Tots" because of their relentless defense of Andrew Tate.

[Apple1996]

Maybe the ones in college are like that but I would also never date someone that went to college. I'm only into blue collared men. My husband is gen z and is very mature and doesn't watch Andrew tate

[EnglishArtsteacher]

I've came across many blue-collared men of all ages like this, especially young men.

Each to their own, but I know many Gen Z women who only date older men because they hate their generation of men.

[Apple1996]

Gen z women are immature similar to millennial men so they match together

[Apple1996]

Gen z men and millennial women are both mature and match together

[IslaTheWitch]

lol no idea... like I was with a guy older 9 years than me and it wasn't a problem... everything depends on how we match each other, I assume.

[rachel776b]

my boyfriend is around 15 years older than me. if i were single i'd go as high as 20 years older

[EnglishArtsteacher]

As long as you're happy, that's fine.

Do people often think your age gap is problematic?

[rachel776b]

no we're very happy

[Staximus]

When I worked at a busy bar and checked ID's at the door, the were plenty of women who were 10 years older than me that looked like they were still in their 40's, so I'm going to say 56

[JacobJordan]

20 years above my own age would be fine long as we have things in common

[curious_gul]

[1;5] years older.
But if there's something special, falling in love and balalbla 🥴🙄 I might date a younger, or older man.

[syncheart]

I'm 44 years old, so I guess 39 would be the oldest for me.

[IronPhoenix]

I will date up to my own age but not older.

[Anonymous]

I date older so would say over 50 if they are incredible like a Minogue or something

[rosemilk]

just a year older than me

[Veles]

early 30s

[nastyb]

im 28. Nothing over 38