Was I wrong for getting jealous?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I go to the gym together and he always talks to the women who work there and I never let let him know it bothered me. About a year ago there were young women who worked there and he would be super friendly with them and give them advice and joke around and I never said anything, But it bothered me inside because they would not be friendly with me or they would act differently when he was with me.

A couple of weeks ago he bought one of the young ladies a coffee, and then again he bought another young lady coffee that works there. I got jealous because she is someone he has shown a liking to in the past. He said she told him she was having a bad day and so he wanted to be nice. He got mad at me and said I am trying to control him and that he is a caring person and he likes helping people and that I am trying to change who he is.

Am I wrong for feeling the way I do?

[Ironic_Method]

Well you started off on the wrong foot by never communicating your feelings. He clearly has a thing for flirting, so you can let him know that it bothers you and see if you can work it out.

Or go nuclear and do exactly what he does, except to a guy. This could be catastrophic, though.

[Anonymous]

I am in a very similar situation where my wife is getting upset at something she never did before. Perhaps it is aging on both sides that is making the behaviour change and the ability to tolerate wither away. Also, one side is midlife crisis, on the other is insecurity.

[Crankor]

I'd question why is he talking to girls at the gym? May be old habits or that he's testing the waters. There no real innocent reason for doing such.