Thought everything was going ok until today?

[Username2023]

Have been dating a girl for a few months. We text every day. Last couple of days she’s been sending me long texts, she initiated on some days and she’s even booked us tickets to a concert.

Today however she didn’t message. It was her ‘turn’ to initiate - we sort of always work like that. In the end I messaged her as it’s so late and I wondered if I had done something wrong. I asked her how her day had been and basically she hadn’t done anything. So I know she wasn’t busy. Maybe I’m not that important to her? I don’t know how to be? Maybe I should just leave her be tomorrow?

she had said she didn’t want anything serious and for me to get attached- maybe she feels I am? I just find it all confusing that she seems to want to chat every day and has booked tickets and then this.

[Hulk_kitty]

I don't see what the big deal is here, she has only stop texting you for a day, or didn't text much. Sometimes people have other problems that come up in their lives, and distracts them from other things.

She hasn't probably intiated anything with you, because you have been doing all the time. Or she hasn't intiated it could she is shy to intiate things with you. Some girls like guys taking the intiative in the relationship.

Instead of assume the worst about her, why don't you have a proper and honest conversation with her about were this relationship is going.

Communication is key, to solving most problems in a relationship. When I mean communication, not texting messaging, I mean talking to her in person.

[Anonymous]

'In the end I messaged her as it’s so late and I wondered if I had done something wrong.'

It was at this point that you showed that she had the upper hand. Note that when ever you get into a relationship with a woman that is not of God, you are in a relationship based on ego, power struggle, attention and manipulation. The phrase for that snippet above is often referred to as 'a shit test'. You failed it.

Now bear the following in mind. There are only 2 things that make a woman unhappy:

1) Getting what she wants.

2) Not getting what she wants.

This will always apply unless you are a true man of God in a relationship with a true woman of God. What you will discover in this current one is there is no consistency, or if there is, it won't be for long. She is unhappy within and will fluctuate. She canot be trusted. God bless and good luck.

[Screenwriter]

She's clarified herself, so hear her. She DOES NOT WANT ANYTHING SERIOUS. She wants to be able to chat with you every day, LIKE A FRIEND. She wants to go with you to a concert. But SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU AS A BOYFRIEND!

So you have two options. End it right now and tell her to go to the concert with someone else. You DO want something more serious. Or back off and JUST BE A FRIEND.

No confusion about it. She's drawn her line in the sand. You're in a friend zone and that's it. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

"She doesn't want you to get attached," = she's not that into you, and you're coming off as kinda needy/high-maintenance.