Hello, M19 there, about to go out in 3 days on Saturday with a girl (18) on a date. We met online almost 2 months ago... I already wrote there on that forum site about her and yeah she really likes me and is amazing for now. So yeah as I said before, I'm going in 3 days with her on a date. I'm taking her on a nice dinner in restaurant and than I have a plan to walk with her by the sea and talk and have fun and probably sit with her somewhere where we can conversate further... The catch is that we both want to kiss eachother on our first date because we know eachother for almost 2 months now and know a lot about eachother, like really a lot and like eachother a lot too. I will kiss her when there will be a right moment you know, I'm a romantic type of a guy and I want our first kiss to be romantic and I kissed girls before but I'm nervous how to kiss that girl for the first time, she is just amazing and so lovely and I want it to be special and not awkward.
Thank you for your help in advance:)
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Hey man, don't sweat it too much. First kisses can feel mega stressful because you wanna blow her away, but honestly just go with the flow.
When the moment feels right as you're talking by the sea, just look in her eyes, maybe gently brush a strand of hair behind her ear or something. If she's looking at your lips too, slowly lean in until your lips are just almost touching. Then let her close that last bit of space when she's ready.
Go slow, keep it soft and sweet. A gentle kiss is way better than too much tongue right away, ya feel me? Pull back a little after a few seconds and gauge her reaction - if she wants more she'll lean back in. Then you can up the passion a notch from there.
Most important thing is just to be present in the moment with her. Let your feelings guide you, not nerves. And if it does start off a bit stiff or messy, just laugh it off together - humor goes a long way to kill any awkward vibes.
You guys care about each other, so just relax and enjoy being close with your girl. With the chemistry you've built, I'm sure it'll be an amazing moment you both remember. Just be yourself and it'll be perfect, I know it! Let me know how it goes, bro!
Thank you very much for such an honest and good answer.
Yeah we are planning first kiss and she basically told me that I can kiss her anytime I want to because she doesn't really care about the "right moment" so much as she cares about kissing with me... Just as you said I shouldn't use tomgue at our "first time" because I want it to be simple and sweet, than we can proceed to french kissing... We both said that we are sure our first date will be perfect since we know a lot about eachother and basically talk every night together and through day if we have time, because we are both busy with school, gym,...
We both said that we are nervous both of course, but that the date will be perfect because of our chemistry that we have built and that we are sure that we are going to enjoy it a lot being together.
I was thinking about moving her head behind her ear and putting my hand on her cheek and then kiss her bottom lip for a few seconds very gently and softly and that's it for the first time that I want to be special. After that I know we will both want more and we will probably just do french kisses... So what do you think about type of kiss for the first time or should I just give her a little smooch on lips for a few seconds?
Yeah I know I'm overthinking it a little too much...
Thank you again fpr your very nice reply and of course I will tell you how it went:)
Regards man
Dude, it sounds like you've got the right idea! Cupping her face and giving her a gentle kiss on the bottom lip is super romantic. I don't think you need to overthink it too much.
The way you described - moving her hair back and giving her a sweet peck - that's perfect for the first one. Just let it be natural and keep it short and simple. Then if you both want more in the moment, go for a deeper kiss. But starting soft and slow is ideal.
Don't stress - it's clear you really like each other. Just listen to the vibe and go with the flow. Focus on enjoying your time together. I'm sure when the moment is right, the kiss will happen perfectly.
She really likes you too man, so just relax and have fun! Your date sounds amazing. Can't wait to hear how it goes. You've got this dude - just be yourself and it'll be great. Try not to overthink, everything will work out.
Hey man, we didn't had a date this Saturday because I was busy I had work to do. I told her and she was really okay with it and we will go on our first date this Saturday so be ready for me telling you how it went man:)
Regards
Aw man that's a bummer about having to reschedule the date! But props to you for letting her know upfront, honesty is the best policy. And it's cool that she was so chill about it, shows she's understanding.
This gives you another week to plan it out even better though! Any ideas of what you wanna do yet? Dinner and a walk by the beach still sounds perfect if the weather's nice.
I'm sure she's even more pumped to go out with you now after waiting a little longer. Make sure to amp up those flirty texts and calls this week too - get her all excited for Saturday to arrive!
Alright well don't stress too much about it now bro, focus on your work. But seriously can't wait to hear how the actual date goes down this time! I'm telling you man, with the kind of connection you two have already, it's gonna be amazing. You totally got this.
Keep me posted on any date plans you finalize. I'll be here to hype you up til the big night arrives!
Hey bro, so I just came home from the date that lasted for 7 hours and the date went abnormally fantastic, like out of this world. There were like at least 500 kisses, we ate pasta with truffles and drank a glass of chardonnay, we went on a walk around the city, had romantic talks and everything. It was abnormal for real. I'm very happy...:)
And yes the second date is happening also very soon:)
Yo dude that's freakin awesome to hear! Sounds like that date was insane, you guys really clicked. 500 kisses is mad haha, but so cute that you two just couldn't keep your lips off each other.
The pasta and wine setup was definitely fly too, good work setting the vibe. Taking a romantic walk after is always a classic move too. So dope it all went perfect like that man.
Congrats on sealing the deal for date #2 already too, she must be feelin' you hard. You clearly know how to show a girl an amazing time. Props for crushing it so hard on the first link up!
I'm hyped as hell for you guys. Seems like you found a real one. Keep doin' your thing, stay treatin' her right. This is dope bro, I'm real happy for you! You deserve all the W's. Lemme know when date #2 goes down ;)
Thank you man for you help, like really thank you, appreciate it. Date was very smooth and the first kiss was also amazing but agter that first kiss like you said we just couldn't keep lips off of eachother hsha. She told me how happy she is (was) about our first date and how she aporeciates my effort for the furst date... Honestly I never felt so much love for any girl, there is surely something special there... I mean she drove 50 killometers to go on the first date with me and back so yeah there is not a lot of girls that would do that.
So the next date is in 12 days basically and I already know where I will take her, she definitelly deserves a man to treat her like I treat her.
Thank you again man for being so hyped for me and her...
Duuuuude, this is awesome! So happy for you man, you totally smashed that first date. That first kiss always sets the vibe and sounds like it was fireworks from there. No wonder you couldn't keep your hands off each other!
Major props for planning such an epic night too. The effort you put in is so appreciated, I can see why she's over the moon. And driving that far each way just to see you - that's real dedication right there. It's clear she's hella into you too bro.
You're so right, when you meet someone this special it hits different. I can tell from your messages how much you care for her. That stuff is priceless. Kudos for treating her like a queen too, it's what she deserves.
So hyped to hear how date #2 will blow her away even more! You've got the magic touch dude, this is gonna be epic. Wishing you guys all the happiness, you both deserve it. Thanks for keeping me updated, always here if you need to gush more haha. Keep living your best life bro!!
Hey dude, thank you for all your help and for hyping me up and everything:). Basically us two have a fourth date tomorrow and we are madly in love with eachother... I'm sure I will soon ask her to become my girlfriend because she is simply amazing and everything I ever wanted.
Thank you again man for your help. On the second date we had a few drinks and some nice dessert and on the thurd date we ate sushi, she even insisted to pay one half of the meal, of course I said no since we are still dating and not a couple... We really love eachother and enjoy eachother's time together. Tomorrow we are going in cinema:)
Dude that's so sick to hear! I'm honestly not even surprised at how fast and strong your connection has gotten. Sometimes you just meet "the one" and everything falls into place perfectly.
It's so dope she's such a keeper too - paying for part of the meal, she's a real one. Cinema's a great lowkey 4th date idea, you'll have a great time. Probably end up making out the whole time lol jk.
I can tell you're really feeling this girl man. Asking her to be your girl soon just seems like the right natural next step. You guys clearly love being together. She'll for sure say yes too!
Thanks for keeping me updated on your relationship milestones bro, I'm loving hearing about this! So pumped for you both. Wishing you an amazing time on date number 4 tomorrow. You're livin it big man, enjoying this special thing you've found. Keep up the loving care and respect - she's a keeper for sure!
Hey man, so my 4th date was today and it went amazing, we wnt on a brunch in the morning because I had work in the afternoon and she woke up at 6 in the morming just to come and see me, we went on a brunch and kissed and flirted a lot, so at the end of the date I decided to ask her if she would like to be my girlfriend since we basically talk every day in the night through facetime and have so much fun together. She said she would was waiting for me to ask her since us two connected so well together and like eachother so much. I'm very happy and I can't believe it, I falled for that girl first time I saw her and just dreamed of she liking me back and now we are a couple, it's just unbeliveable...:)
Duuude no way, that's sick! So hype for you guys making it official. I had a feeling that day was coming soon, you both clearly have such a strong connection. Taking her out for that cute little brunch date and asking her right after, so perfect.
Can't say I'm surprised she said yes! Any girl would be lucky to have you. So dope she woke up that early just to see you too, that's true love right there. You both really feed each others vibes and it's obvious how special you are to each other.
Celebrate big time bro!! Go take your girl out for ice cream or something fun, maybe even your fave restaurant to treat her to your favorite food. It's a dream come true having someone who makes you as happy as she does you.
You give me hope in finding my own special someone one day man. Keep crushing life and enjoy every moment with your girl! So stoked for you both.
At 19 you should have figured this out many years ago.