I love my boyfriend and I try to support him as much as I can but lately it's been getting hard for me to do so.
So I am a pretty active person. I enjoy exercising and trying to be healthy. My partner though, not so much. I understand you have to find what you like but lately his unhealthy ways is working much more against him. He's having health issues right now and even the doctors and lists on how to help ease his symptoms say that physical activity even light activity can help. I encourage him to even go for 20 mins walks just so he can get moving but he always makes excuses. I invite him to come to the gym with me and there's always something. I also encourage to change the things he eats to help with his health issues. It's getting to the point that the more he complains about his health issues, the less I can be supportive because he's not doing all he can. He tries to make small changes but he still does all the unhealthy things. I feel like he's not taking it seriously and expects only pills to do the work and not him.
So I really would like to know, how can I help him? How can I encourage and tell him that even small steps towards being healthy and physical activity can alleviate his health issues. I am trying my best to be patient but it's hard listening when I know he can try harder to help himself. It's also starting to put a strain on me in that is affecting the way I see our relationship.
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I feel for you. You want his good and you're setting an example for him but he doesn't care. His way of looking at life is different and that's causing the trouble.
The most you can do is being patient and keep asking him to get serious about his health and you're already doing that.
It's just gonna come to the point where you'll start getting annoyed and pissed as his health issues ain't gonna get fixed and is gonna impact you as well.
Maybe be a more assertive in making him workout at least at home to begin. Even if it's 5 min. See if he reacts positively.
I think that's my biggest fear. That if he doesn't really try to change, I may start resenting him because I decided to stay with him.
My solution for him to get even a bit of exercise is walking his dogs. He can't even find time to do that. There's excuses after excuses.
I want to be with him but this is really causing a rift.
I can imagine. At some point it's gonna get annoying and irritating. Then ofcourse arguments which is gonna affect you both. Sad truth is people hardly change.
you did great and the best you could inviting him to walk with you or go to gym with you. you did your best only he can change not you.
Isn't there more I can do? Because I love him but his stubbornness to not help himself more is starting to strain our relationship
Be patient and try to be there for him
I am trying to be there for him. I've also been trying to be understanding and patient. I know health changes aren't easy esp if you're used to a certain kind of life. But I was hoping the severity of his health would be a wake up call.
How long should I be patient? I don't want to be insensitive and I do want to help him.