I don’t understand what’s wrong with being a placeholder for men? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2024-02-01T23:32:32Z

I put in my bio on dating apps that I’m open to being a placeholder… doesn’t really include sex but I’m open to being emotional support and offering those emotional things that you may need or when you’re just lonely… I actually ended up loving being a placeholder it really fits me and I think it was something I was meant to be.. like a job.. Since I get blown off anyway or men dog me or don’t want relationships with me I feel this is the best and safest route for me. I like doing it tho … and I tell them that I can be their placeholder until they become exclusive to someone else. the last guy I was a placeholder for was a firefighter and I was his emotional support now he’s married im just one of those girls that don’t get the happy ending but I’ll make my situation worthwhile and reclaim the name..

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he-takes-a-part Follow
Xper 6 Age: 28

4 mo

Where to exercise you. Shall I just text here. Couldn't follow couldn't message

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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  I’ll follow
  
  But I don’t do it for just anyone lol I pick my candidates
  
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- he-takes-a-part
  
  4 mo
  Lol on Gag I believe you'll have to give a starter pack first.
  
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JamesRandiDebates Follow
Guru Age: 33

4 mo
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It sounded great until the "doesn't include sex" part.

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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  Lmaooo only because I can’t handle it… I would catch feelings and it would really hurt my self esteem
  
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Light_beam Follow
Explorer Age: 31

3 mo

That is so nice.. i wish i had someone like you in my life . I need it so much

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Lisia Follow
Xper 7 Age: 19 , mho 36%

4 mo

Do whatever makes you happy.

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MzAsh Follow
Master Age: 39 , mho 53%

3 mo
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This is a troll guys come on

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- Asker
  
  3 mo
  A troll.. no
  
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- MzAsh
  
  3 mo
  Yes you make these posts all the time lol stop
  
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- Asker
  
  3 mo
  What post?
  
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Astarlessnightsky Follow
Master Age: 37 , mho 36%

3 mo
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So you just want to meet new friends.

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- Asker
  
  3 mo
  With sexual tones
  
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- Astarlessnightsky
  
  3 mo
  Okay, but you wrote...
  
  "[...]doesn’t really include sex [...]"
  
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Sonorous Follow
Master Age: 24 , mho 42%

4 mo
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Come be my place holder 🤣🤣

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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  If that’s you in your pic I’ll sit on your face
  
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- Sonorous
  
  3 mo
  
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- Asker
  
  3 mo
  😉😜
  
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- Sonorous
  
  3 mo
  Tbh iono who that is in my pfp 🤣
  
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- Asker
  
  3 mo
  Ick bye
  
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- Sonorous
  
  3 mo
  🤣🤣🤣
  
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- Asker
  
  3 mo
  That’s not you fr?
  
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- Sonorous
  
  3 mo
  Nah it is but I'm anglemaxxing so hard in it 🤣
  
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DextroShade Follow
Yoda Age: 39

4 mo
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You sound incredibly broken.

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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  Ewww how?
  
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- DextroShade
  
  4 mo
  You are too fucked up to commit and submit to a man.
  
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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  I definitely was and could… I talked to a guy last year … I felt so naturally submissive to him.. when we went out on a date I literally wanted whatever he got lol I never felt submissive but with him I did
  
  But nah he ended up dogging me in the end
  
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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  I’m not broken I just know what I want
  
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TheSpaceGnome Follow
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4 mo
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You have self esteem issues.

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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  How so?
  
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- TheSpaceGnome
  
  4 mo
  You already explained how, just re-read your own post. Nothing I say is going to make it any clearer than you did.
  
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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  The last dude I talked to said he was struggling to understand that and felt like it was a waste of time. He said he would end up liking me for nothing
  
  I thought he saw me as more but he ended up dogging me so bad in the end…
  
  It don’t make if I’m a placeholder or not.. I get dogged either way or left for something better.
  
  I don’t have low self esteem… I genuinely like what I do and it’s emotionally safe for me
  
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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  It’s not something you would understand
  
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- TheSpaceGnome
  
  4 mo
  Your reply also says you have low self esteem, your view that you cannot get anything better than being used is why.
  
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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  I don’t understand how but okay
  
  Just bc I don’t meet your standards mmmmk
  
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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  That’s not what I’m saying.. I’m just not looking for anything and yes men dogged me but that’s not the reason
  
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DreamLife7 Follow
Xper 7 Age: 27

4 mo
419 opinions shared on Dating topic.

You're ugly

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- DreamLife7
  
  4 mo
  Desperate, low self esteem and no self respect. No man wants a loser like urself. Ur embarrassing
  
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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  Even though you’re right you project a lot about how you actually feel about yourself. I noticed that.
  
  Work on that.
  
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- DreamLife7
  
  4 mo
  Nope that's all u ur a loser
  
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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  Oh okay ✅
  
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JayBones Follow
Xper 6 Age: 42

4 mo

You are a Saint. Find happiness where you can.

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- Asker
  
  4 mo
  Which is nowhere lol
  
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swettannie Follow
Guru Age: 27

3 mo
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what do you meanb by that

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HouseMoat Follow
Xper 6 Age: 35

3 mo

Hey, whatever floats your boat

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urpapi69 Follow
Xper 6 Age: 32

3 mo

Would you like to talk?

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