Girl upset cuz I don’t want to commit to her. It’s only been a month or so. I want to keep dating but she doesn’t want to unless it’s serious?

[Anonymous]

To be fair the last month we’ve seen each other a lot. Maybe 2-3 times a week depending on our schedules. We’ve been on many dates and she’s come to my house for dinner many times as well. I care for a her a lot, and she’s very attracted to me both physically and mentally. I definitely have been treating her like we’re in a relationship, which is my fault. But just who I am as a person. If I care for you I will go head over heels for you. The problem is that it’s only been a month or so and I don’t want to be committed yet, unlike her. She’s amazing, but when I go out at night the feelings of temptation come up with other girls who are flirty. If I was in a committed relationship I wouldn’t do this. It’s just against my morals. But if I’m not officially with her or we’re not exclusive I don’t feel the burden. Maybe in another month or so things could change. She’s telling me in some texts she wants me, and doesn’t know what else I need from her. And other to take my time, but I know she’s annoyed. What should I say to ask for more time?

[Anonymous]

Are you actively dating other girls? Like going out on dates with other girls? Because if you're seeing her 2-3 times per week, I suspect the answer is "no." If that's the case, just tell her you're not seeing anyone else. That's probably what she's looking for.

[Yannae]

I wonder if she's right for you if you get tempted just by going out. I don't move in a relationship quick either, but during those months, there is no temptation from other girls. I just want to figure out the one I'm dating right here right now.

[fafylone]

Either you want commitment or not. Even if she gives you time that doesn't mean you will commit soon. Have a real talk with her.

[Asker]

Maybe not soon, but doesn’t committing mean someone is very important to you? When you just start dating of course it’s weird. Then you see each other for a month, maybe two and start to get to know each other more. That’s when I’m my option you can have a conversation about being exclusive

[fafylone]

Oh I see, it's way too soon which weird. Because you treat them like you are in relationship when you are getting to know each other. Talk to her about this commitment issues. And listen her response then go from there. Maybe she has attachments issues. It's creepy.

[Asker]

To me she’s great! And I don’t want to loose her, and again I can see where she’s coming from because of the things we’ve been doing. But I also want to get to know her more before committing to her. She says she knows me and she’s ready, which I think is slight infatuation because of the things I do for her. But that’s normal!

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you had sex with her?

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm not committing to someone after a month.

[Asker]

What would you say is the appropriate time line to be exclusive?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Depends on what happened. Maybe 2 if she's awesome. Maybe 4 if I have a lot of other stuff going on.

[LiamJHayden]

Different people have different expectations. Sometimes it ends the relationship.