What's the worst thing a guy can think of a girl asking him out?

[Anonymous]

I have a gym crush and I'm planning on asking him out. We've been in the same gym for around 4 months, we see each other probably 2 times a week but we never talked. It's hard to smile or even just make eye contact with him, as he's always stuck on his phone with his earphones on. So I was thinking of just coming up to him and say "hey I think you're cute, I was wondering if you were single". Can this be off putting for a guy?

It seems desperate, try to be more subtle

Go for it!

[JoePro_]

I think guys generally dig an interested girl saying she's interested, but you have to be sensitive to the situation in this case. Gyms are sensitive places right now. With all the man shaming videos on TikTok and such. I would think (at this time) it's bad form to ask someone out at the gym. If you're going to ask him out, I would do it outside the gym. Catch him as he's leaving, and exit the building with him. Say something like "Hi, I didn't want to put you on the spot or make you feel uncomfortable if I approached you in the gym. I know it's a sensitive time for guys in the gym around women. But I wanted to let you know that I thought you were attractive and wanted to see if I might have a chance to get to know your personality too. Would you be interested..." Or something to that affect. Recognizing the situation will give him the impression that you're intelligent and understand the situations that might cause some modern males discomfort. And then asking him out, again, guys would usually dig that, if they're not already married or seeing someone. Best of luck!

[LuminousMind]

@JoePro_ hi I just wanted to say I really like your advice and wanted to ask if you wouldn’t mind giving your opinion on a situation? I’d like to pm you but you need to follow me

[JoePro_]

@LuminousMind Sorry for the delay. I was sick the last week or so.

[Finchie40]

If he is a douchebag , and he doesn’t find you attractive , he could be rude about it , but if he is rude , don’t take it to heart just walk away and ignore him. When a girl approaches me , whether I am attracted to her or not , I still treat her with kindness and respect because I picture myself in her shoes and think how nervous she must of been to approach me , so I am never rude , I can’t stand people that are rude to someone that approaches them it’s not like we walk around with signs flashing over our heads showing what we are into and what are current relationship status is , so I despise people that are that way , the only time I will get rude , if if she didn’t take no as an answer

[_Maya_]

No that isn’t desperate. You are probably going to make the guy’s day if nothing else for the reason that you gave a compliment. Even if he isn’t interested if he is a halfway decent person he is going to be thrilled that someone found him attractive. You do realize girls can approach guys and it doesn’t have to be the guy that does it? I am not one in favor for bothering people at the gym. If it were me I would hang around until he is done or before he gets started. You mention that he always has his earbuds in. I am guessing he is in workout “mode” and prob doesn’t wanna be interrupted. Just wait until he isn’t working out and then approach him. Good luck to ya.

[_Maya_]

Thank you for most helpful opinion!

[Kelley1]

That is fine. It will not upset him. Moreover, you are not asking for date, you are only asking if he is single. If he reacts in a way that indicates he is interested (most likely if he is single, and if you are attractive and not a big girl), you can chat for a moment and see if he suggest something and, if he doesn't, ask if he would like to have something to drink (such as, coffee, tea, or a drink at a a club).

[Avicenna]

LOL, most men would be happy if a woman were so direct about it. Do it!

[nonyabeez-wax]

Do it outside the gym. he's probably on the phone because he doesn't want to get caught up in gym that crap and be skewered for looking in a general direction.

Most guys are happy to be asked out. But in the gym itself is an inappropriate place to ask people out, thanks to recent events.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I would be more subtle about it. None of my friends who go to the gym regularly are single!

After you do that there is no going back from it. At least if you are subtle about it, there doesn't need to be weirdness afterwards if things don't go according to plan!

[Mr_twoface]

Just tap on his shoulder and express your thoughts/feelings. Guys, whether single or in a relationship, always loves hearing someone tell them they are cute.

Good luck!

[OtterMan68]

Introduce yourself. "Hey, I've seen you hear a few times before. I'm _______."
See how warmly he responds. If he smiles and seems friendly, ask if he'd like to get a smoothie or a cup of coffee after workout one day.

[boggboss]

It always confuses me how women think its desperate to ask a guy out whilst expecting guys to ask them out lol 😆

[Surely]

What you do is up to you. Usually people that are stuck on their phones. Probably would have a hard time putting it down on a date. Plus maybe he is talking to another woman or his baby’s mother!

[JacobJordan]

Very few guys will think anything other than "wooo she asked me out"

[jshm2]

At least have a conversation, dumbass. This ain't no movie.

[JayBones]

It says you are 18 to 24. Kids your age the women would have to ask the man out or they will stay single. It's to dangerous for a boy to ask a girl.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I automatically reject any woman who asks me out without knowing me well first.

[Twalli]

Guys, in general, like a girl who is proactive enough to ask them out although most of us haven't ever experienced it.

[JHAYES317]

No unless it ended up being a prank…

[BarryLiverstone]

What do you mean?