Does she a right to me mad at me for not disclosing my diagnosis?

[JamieRobinson1994]

After our second date together she me asked on text the following day if I had a ‘disability’ so I told her I had Asperger’s she was like she knew the second she first saw me because she works children mental health. Then she kinda told me off and asked why I didn’t disclose my diagnosis in the first two dates and I told her it’s not simple because I worry that she will relegate my identity based on my diagnosis.

She seemed mad at me like I betrayed her trust even though it wasn’t my intention does she have right to feel that? As someone who’s pretty good at masking I’m not sure how she detected so quickly. Anyone who works in mental health or specialises in autism what’s the biggest give away of detecting someone with neurological condition even when they are masking?

[Anonymous]

How long did you two talk before dating? If it's a dating app thing then her own fault cause she could see your pictures and did not video chat before!

Also she made it through 2 dates not asking!

Women on dating apps are crazy cause it's a constant flow of drama and heart ache.

[JamieRobinson1994]

We some everyday for 2 months

[Opinion Owner]

Then it's her fault she is just mad and taking it out on you that she likes someone she should not.

[Anonymous]

No, she doesn't' have a right to be bad at you. Your medical history is private. Did she disclose her full medical history to you on the first or second date? Did she disclose anything else that might be sensitive or not show her off in the best light? My guess would be no. And that's fine. That's her right. And it's your right to keep your medical history to yourself.

You might ask her why she even cares if she was able to "diagnose" you the second she saw you. It'd be like me being upset that a fat chick didn't tell me her weight the moment I saw her!

[docster]

No, she has no right to be mad. That would be like saying a woman has to immediately tell a date she has implants or that someone has to inform that they are infertile. If it was an incurrable STD, that would be different because it's transmissible.

[AaronKrieger]

It seems like that I am either missing something or that something is up with her. I do not think you need to disclose information like that unless it significantly hinders your ability to be function as an adult.

[laly520]

honesty is needed