Why do most men simply not care what his girlfriend, wife, or significant other makes financially?

[Anonymous]

It's simple. Men do not care how much money his significant other makes because he is still expected to provide for her, pay for dates and so on. Women rarely if ever share their resources with their men, but men are expected to share their resources..

We do on the other hand expect her to be smart with her money, and not to be a burden to him, or at least find a way to mitigate said burden.

[blueonblack22]

It’s because of the following:

• Most men are (rightfully) taught from a young age to be more independent
• Most men biologically have an impulse to be more independent
• Men are treated not special just for existing in society. Even if we are good looking. No men are only respected for agency. What we are able to do and accomplish in life. We value respect or safe try and security do we work harder and/or take more risks to make more money.
• Throughout all of human history women have depended on men to be protectors and providers. They innately look to men who can do this even if it’s no longer necessary in modern times. It’s subconsciously programmed.
• Men want to be respected by other men for being successful and independent
• Very few women will tolerate dead beat men. I’ve seen it happen on rare occasions. But it’s usually because the man provides something of extraordinary value outside of money. He has some sort of emotional leverage. Or the woman is extremely inflexible and controlling and wants a “simp” to dominate. Or last but not least the woman is just unattractive and is happy to just have a man in her life (sad but sometimes true)

Any way I have had it long drilled into my head from my parents to ”man up” and work. There was even a time many years ago I had financial struggles and my then younger girlfriend offered me money. I turned it down out of pride and just went deeper in debt. But I have to say her offer was a sign of the true love she had for me at the time. She did care about me in that current moment (things got very tragic later but that’s another story).

Anyway the one huge hypocrisy I really can’t stand in our current culture is some women still feel entitled to money from men and yet demand to be equal to them. I’m sorry but if you look to a man for financial security it’s just a derivative of prostitution.

That doesn’t mean it’s okay for the man to mistreat you. But you have forfeited your right to demand “equality” if you are a western woman who seeks monetary hand outs from men. You are literally selling yourself.

Any able bodied western woman can make it on her own nowadays if she tries. Especially if she doesn’t have kids. However being a stay at home mom is in itself a respectable full time job.

In that scenario the man is providing for his own flesh and blood (his kids). So that’s different.

[ManOnFire]

Deep facts here^

[blueonblack22]

@ManOnFire thanks. Too bad I chopped it up a bit with my typos. Downside of being a line of conscious thinker on a mobile phone.

Please @gag give posters an edit option after posting!

[ManOnFire]

I've been asking for that edit option forever. To no avail lol

[OlderAndWiser]

@ManOnFire @blueonblack22 When I first started on this site, there was an edit option. Trolls would post a question with a picture of a beautiful girl, soliciting opinions on her appearance. After 10-15 guys responded, the troll would edit the question and change the picture to some ugly-ass transvestite just to make everyone look like they were into transvestites. So that is why an edit option is not a good idea.

[blueonblack22]

@OlderAndWiser what GAG needs to do is allow posters the ability to edit a question, take or opinion until someone else likes and/or posts a response.

That what the poster can quickly edit any typos/grammatical errors. But they can’t change the subject matter if they don’t like how someone responded to it.

There are so many times I post a question or an opinion about a subject matter I feel strongly about. I also only use my mobile phone on GAG so it’s hard to scroll and eye ball mistakes I made.

But then I double check and see the typos I made and it’s just a huge face palm.

[blueonblack22]

*that way the poster…. case in point 😆

[OlderAndWiser]

Yeah, I understand why an edit feature would be useful. I sometimes don't see my typos before I post. But how do you eliminate the trolls doing their thing if they can edit?

[blueonblack22]

@OlderAndWiser easy. Once someone likes or responds to the post, take, opinion, etc then remove the option to edit. That way the troll can’t manipulate the subject matter given the response they got.

You are an influencer @OlderAndWiser. A long time respected one too. You should contact GAG admin about this idea.

[ManOnFire]

@OlderAndWiser I see. That's a pretty rotten thing to do.

[OlderAndWiser]

@blueonblack22 The edit option is something that gets discussed very often, Admin has considered it, and it's been veto'ed. Proposed that idea again and it's DOA.

@ManOnFire Yeah, everybody complains about trolls, Admin took that one action to remove one source of fun for them, and that's all that's been done about trolls. Fortunately, I don't often see a user acting like a grammar or spelling Nazi on here because of somebody else's typos.

[blueonblack22]

@OlderAndWiser well GAG took away the option to downvote, upvote as funny/helpful/etc about 2 years ago. All just to please one influencer’s “feelings”.

That stupid decision really watered down the engagement experience. Personally I liked knowing if my opinion was funny, helpful or even unpopular. GAG’s older template was good for that. If some people are so thin skinned that they cry themselves to sleep because someone downvoted their opinion they shouldn’t be on here to begin with.

Anyway if GAG was willing to make a site wide radical change to please one influencer then why won’t they listen to @ManOnFire and yourself?

[OlderAndWiser]

It hasn't happened until now, and I think Admin has very definite ideas on how they want this site to function.

[blueonblack22]

@OlderAndWiser I figured. It would take some custom coding for that feature as well. But I know it’s not that complicated.

I know the easy thing is just to ignore the issue. But given all the other experimental changes they make (e. g. AI Dr Brad) why can’t they make this one?

Well written content indexes and ranks better in Google too. Allows QA and take posters a brief window to clean up their typos might help GAG get more external traffic.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why? Because this is one they aleady tried and apparently, in their opinion, it failed.

[blueonblack22]

@OlderAndWiser but they didn’t try my recommendation. Allow a poster to edit their content until someone likes it or comments on it. Once someone engages the content then it stays typos or not. That will stop trolls.

[OlderAndWiser]

I agree. But remember that what is a priority for you is not necessarily a priority for Admin.

[blueonblack22]

@OlderAndWiser well one crybaby influencer managed to get the admin to change all the engagement likes to just upvotes. He’s a man too who was just irked that one girl always downvoted him. So it make it even more selfish and pathetic.

But anyway I wonder if the admin have really considered the edit option from my recommendation about. It does take custom coding updates but it can’t be that difficult.

[blueonblack22]

*above

[Anonymous]

The answer to this question is the same today as it ever was. Women want a provider and protector, men want a nurturer and a lover who with make a good mother. That is coded in our DNA. It's not going to change.

[Asker]

agreed

[Flatmanlewis]

Well said.

[Opinion Owner]

@sukumamu DNA doesn't mean shit? Lol, sure "bro". Whether or not you choose to accept it, human attraction is strongly influenced by DNA. It's not the only factor, but it's a very important one. Denying that fact is pretty ignorant.

www.sciencedaily.com/.../160119141424.htm

[Apple1996]

Because they are willing to provide for their gfs/wives

[laly520]

most men won't rely on their girlfriend financially

[Anonymous]

Because a provider has never been what a man has been attracted to in women.

Human attraction is not based on pragtism. It's based on what we as humans have been genetically programmed to find attractive in others. The traits in both men and women that have historically made them most likely to pass on their genes are the ones that the opposite sex tend to find attractive in them.

Men of the past who were strong, capable and smart, and protective of their loved ones, were far more likely to live long enough, and be desireable enough to females, to have sex and pass on their genes to their children. And the children of men like that were more likely to survive and live long enough to pass on their own genes.

Likewise, today's women are the genetic result of women of the past who were most likely to get pregnant and raise children to adulthood who were themseves healthy, well adjusted, smart and capable. Those women were healthy and attractive (so they could attract a man to have sex with them), kind, unselfish, and nurturing (so they could be good mothers to their children and raise them to be good, successful adults who had a good chance of passing on their own genes), and loving, attectionate and loyal (so they could actually KEEP a man around to provide for and protect her and her children).

Notice that nowhere in there was there any mention of a woman being a provider. That's what women are attracted to in men, NOT what men are attracted to in women.

[Lliam]

I never paid attention to a girlfriend's income or finances. But I didn't give them money or pay to support them, either. They weren't leeches. I did pay for most dates but I didn't even think twice about that. I wasn't afraid of being taken advantage of.

Since I've been married, my wife and treat both of our incomes as if they belong to both of us. Our combined incomes pay for our bills and lifestyle and contribute to building a future together. We're on the same team. We are trusted partners, as well as best friends and lovers who admire and respect each other.

Of course we can buy things without the other's permission, but we discuss our activities and usually know what the other is up to. We always discuss expensive purchases, though, and reach consensus.

[steveusna]

How old is your wife and how long have you been married?

[Lliam]

@steveusna. She's 67 now. We've been married for almost 27 years. We first met in 1994 when I was 40 and she was 37 (She's 2.5 years younger). We got married two years later.

[RingOfFire]

"Men do not care how much money his significant other makes because he is still expected to provide for her,"

Millions of years of biological design from evolutionary development of male and female roles does not suddenly come undone because of a silly momentary fad called feminism. Nature is laughing at us for even entertaining the notion that might be possible. To think that men are suddenly not the providers and protectors and women are not the bearer and primary caregivers of the offspring, as nature programmed them both to be, is a lot of rainbows and unicorn poop.

[RingOfFire]

PS I got a laugh out of the MHO post by "Anonymous" on this one as the words in that post were a nearly verbatim copy of answers I have posted here on other similar topics. Clearly I impressed him enough with that response so that he adopted it for himself. It's nice to see I have some influence on some people.

[PetLover24]

Suuure if the man is a loser he doesn't care. Because it's not in his abilities as a small minded egotistically douchebag to care.

Whereas amongst educated, intelligent, powerful men who want a decent relation they DO care because these sorts of men don't want a good for nothing leech they want an actual partner. I've only dated 3 men - each of them made a LOT of money - and each of them were impressed by the fact that I am well educated, well traveled, and happen to be business focused myself. That means I can CONTRIBUTE to his life beyond being an expensive prostitute like many of the dumber less talented "powerful" men (such as celebrities & athetics who often don't have much braindown) take as partners.

[PetLover24]

*braindown - typo, brain power

[PetLover24]

I'm also 10 years older than my age here.

[he-takes-a-part]

Meanness has been ingrained in girls since centuries. Take it like these. Men who run around you to bang you pussies hard, simply return empty handed. What mind registers is that when he was ready to flaunt his money on you which is not God gifted and comes with a price. Why not the girls can simply let us fuck as and when we want, given things men have asked was just provided to them by birth. When such a commodity is not supposed in the initial. It registers the mind that then why money which comes with hardworking will be provided. This is one view point to give you a food for thought. Anyway money flown from men to women seems more unconditional and easy and non accountable rather than flown from women to men. For rest. Suck my dick. To gain more knowledge. Straight as fuck.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've rarely told anyone what I make. I've never asked what she makes. Assuming she makes more than she spends, that's all that matters, because I'm not going to be the one making up the difference in her unsustainable lifestyle. If she does that as an investment banker who runs through money every week or the lady that makes my coffee at the bakery who knows how to live frugally, makes no difference to me.

[Dargil]

Real men want her to assume domestic duties including raising children. Nowadays, at best, women are valued for pussy and paycheck... until the bogus divorce action destroys his career, children and personal life.

[Hanrej]

Well, in my experience finding a woman that makes more money actually costs you more as she will expect you to step up to her level and pay expenses you otherwise wouldn't have.

Want to get rich? Stay clear of women.

[FunkyMonkee]

I can't speak for others but, I really don't care how much she makes because I'm interested in HER, NOT her money!! Too bad I can't find girls that feel the same about me!

[Unit1]

Beats me. I don't like gold diggers and extremely expensive women.

I don't want to know any actual figures and respectfully I'd like if I can keep my actual salary figures unknown too until we mutually decide to be transparent about it.

[boggboss]

Never cared how much my partner makes but we are 50/50 on most things and if not split we do other things to make up the effort

[Anonymous]

money is more masculine energy , and women want to be financially and emotionally safe , tha'ts why rich men are attractive to women , bc they're more masculine in a way

same for men , they like to see a women who is feminine and has a healthy body so she can also provide

[wiltingrosepetal]

why would you ask a question and then answer it lmao

[XXblack88]

Unless a guy is looking for a sugar mama, he's not going to care what his so makes financially.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've never had a woman care about my income nor expect me to provide.
Gold diggers are actually quite rare.

[Quigly]

Then only thing I am interested in financially is credit score. Since it's an indicator on how responsible a person is in their life. What they earn isn't so much my concern.

[sheikalana]

Because they don't tend to dependent on other's financially.

[Passerby2]

Who said anything about Dependence. We could still care. The fact is no girl is even giving a very expensive gift to a man. Ever.

[sheikalana]

@Passerby2 I’ve gifted expensive gifts to my husband even when we were not yet married.

[Passerby2]

How expensive? A car? A house?

[sheikalana]

@Passerby2 a brand new SUV.

[Pohjolan]

Its not like we don't care at all but we have other priorities.

[genericname85]

because men are not looking for women who can carry them financially during their pregnancy.

[msc545]

Because women don't share money with men as you stated, and because no matter how much a woman makes she still expects a man to pay for her.