Why is he doing that?

[Anonymous]

I went out with him 3 or 4 times, we met online. I asked him when we will see eachother again he avoided answering that question the last time we went out. I asked him again maybe week later on chat he avoided answering again and then said that he doesn'y like lazy people that i'm frivolous or whathever (i guess i'm lazy because i can't seem to find a job in small town while still graduating bachelors degree and looking for a job every single day and applying for a job and not getting calls or just one or two that do not fit for good reasons I live in eastern Europe in case someone si wondering why i can't find a job that easy). So yeah i felt kinda disappoinred and offended by his statement and i think this is shallow. He is 23 and i am a bit older. So yeah we haven't talked since that day back at the end of January. Only replied to a story once and keep viewing my stories in which i admit i tried to speak to him trough them but you can guess it was unsuccessful.

[Anonymous]

You should move on to someone who doesn't think those things about you. If you keep talking to and seeing this guy you'll be more than heartbroken.

[Anonymous]

You’ve posted this before, and I’m not sure what you’re looking for, reassurance, validation, etc, but if his comments are false then why let this bother you so much? Okay so this one guy feels as though you’re lazy, if you know you’re doing the work then his comment is stupid and unknowledgeable. Move on from this, please.

[Asker]

If you're going to be a judgmental bitch don't bother replying, because it ain't helpful so piss off!

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao judge mental bitch? Are you sure you aren’t just sensitive? Or are you upset I said you posted this before?

[Opinion Owner]

What’s wrong with saying that if his comment is false then it shouldn’t bother you?

[Asker]

Yeah i posted this before and i didn't get straight forward answer and still not getting one and no one is giving me clarity they all ghost and never speak to me again and I can't find any advice because i want this dreadful cycle to end and just find my person and all that's happening is me getting hurt over and over and over again. Does that answer your question? And yes i'm still getting over it i can't just switch all. memories and emotions off in a week or two or whatever.

[Opinion Owner]

Why so much hostility? What isn’t straightforward about me saying that if he’s wrong then there’s no reason to take his opinions to heart? You know you’re in school, you know why you can’t find a job in that small town, so his comment should’ve rolled off your back. Being disappointed that things didn’t work with him and upset you haven’t found the right guy is a totally separate conversation, so no that part doesn’t answer my question at all because it isn’t what I was talking about in the first place. I solely commented on his rudeness to you and why it shouldn’t matter. If you wanna take my head off because you can’t find a man then that’s your choice but it has nothing to do with me.

[laly520]

but u asked this before n we answered u