So u want to have a baby a year after I have baby, but I don’t want to be a man at all. and I feel like my baby don’t need a daddy. is that selfish?

[Anonymous]

I don’t need a man, a year after transplant I am going to the sperm bank and make a baby…I don’t need a man to help me raise a baby…I am all my baby would need, plus my baby will have uncles…my baby won’t need a daddy. I don’t care if anyone calls me selfish. Dating out here sucks, and I tired of putting effort into men that don’t even want me…so I don’t need them one bit. I hope Kamala be president so she can send all the men to an island…eff them. I hate men, I am tired of being lied to, played with and left high and dry. And these men be lying about having a whole ass girlfriend and child, and all I do is be straight up about my situation.. so I am done.

[Zoeysiren]

It's not inherently selfish to have differing opinions on parenthood and family dynamics. It's crucial to have open and honest conversations with your partner about your desires, concerns, and visions for the future. Understanding each other's perspectives and finding common ground is essential for making decisions that align with both of your values and goals.

[Asker]

I don’t have a partner.. and never will since 2019. I am going to a sperm bank

[Anonymous]

It's not about whether YOU need a man, it's about whether your child does, and it does. It's a very well studied and well known fact that children raised without a father are at far greater risk for pretty much every issue young people (and the adults they become) face.

There are already way too many fatherless children in this world without selfish women CHOOSING to bring mre into the world. Women like that are as bad as deadbeat dads, and arguably worse.

[Asker]

I just want no connection.. that’s I rather just go to a sperm bank.. it would just be easier to just purposely become a single parent. I can’t do the dating anymore to find a partner. i can’t, it’s hard out here.

[Opinion Owner]

Again, it's not about YOU. It's about the children. Stop being selfish.

[Asker]

Can’t raise a baby with an anonymous sperm donor. I am not about to have sex with a man just so my child could have a daddy. I am never dating again to find a partner…

I am not trying to give visitation…. can't contact the anonymous sperm donor to come help raise my kid.

[Opinion Owner]

Since the point seems to keep going right over your head, allow me to simplify it for you.

YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE A FUCKING KID! DOING SO IN YOUR SITUATION WOULD BE EXTREMELY SELFISH OF YOU, AND HARMFUL TO YOUR CHILD AND SOCIETY AS A WHOLE.

Make sense now?

[Asker]

NO THE POINT IS GOING OVER YOU HEAD! I DONT WANT BE WITH ANYONE TO HAVE A CHILD, I DONT WANT A MAN IN MY LIFE! I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE TO SHARE MY CHILD WITH SOMEONE I DONT WSNT TO DEAL WITH. I DONT WANT TO HAVE DEAL WITH THE OTHER PARENT. YOU SHOULD WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF…AND HAVE THE SAME ENGERY FOR GAY AND LESBIAN COUPLES.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand you don't want to be with anyone. So don't.

I understand you don't want to share your child with anyone. So don't have a child.

The ONLY reason you want to have a child is for your own selfish desires, even though you know that the child you bring into the world will have the deck stacked against them, and will be likely to have a shitty life, make bad choices like you, and perpetuate the same problem you find yourself in.

Make the UNSELFISH choice and break the cycle.

[SolitarySolace]

Children need both of their parents. It is extremely selfish of you to prevent a potential child from having a father. Why wouldn’t you want your child to have a father?

[Asker]

I will be going to a sperm bank…for an anonymous donor sperm.

[SolitarySolace]

🤷🏻‍♂️ Do whatever you want, it’s your child. But people are going to criticize you for not giving your child a father figure and that child will life a terrible life because of you…

[Asker]

My child will have a wonderful life. Women do it all the time when they give up on dating all together. I as a woman give up on dating. And I am not going to have sex with a random just to make him my child’s father, heck no. People can criticize me all they want, it ain’t going to stop me from getting what I always wanted and that’s to be a mom. I’ll just be doing it without a partner…sometimes shit don’t work out the way we planned.

[SolitarySolace]

I never said the guy had to be random. Also I gave up on dating and relationships too. I don’t want to have children. At least I’m not claiming to still want a child and prevent that child from having a mother figure. Single mothers tend to raise children that become criminals because the child didn’t have a father to teach them right from wrong. A woman doesn’t understand right from wrong I mean look at how many women are becoming prostitutes on purpose selling their bodies online for $ and expecting to live a normal life.

[SolitarySolace]

Besides there is already an epidemic of fatherlessness why perpetuate that?

[WhitneySnow]

It’s not selfish. It’s your life (and your baby’s). If that’s what you want go for it.

[Anonymous]

You're only thinking about what YOU want instead of what's best for the child, and what's best for the child is to have a father. Just speaks volumes how you're going to be a shit mother and your future kid doesn't stand a chance.