Should I start dating or stay in my relationship?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and three months. I just gave birth to our child. He still hasn’t introduced me to his family and doesn’t look like he’s going to. I’m friends with his sister but she has shown no interest in me being pregnant or giving birth to her niece whatsoever. I feel like my time is being wasted like I’m not the girl for him and that’s why he hasn’t introduced me to his family. He can either introduced me as his child mother or girlfriend but he hasn’t done any. So what should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl that's such a tough situation! On the one hand, you obviously care about him since you have a kid together now. But not being introduced to his family after all this time is super shady and disrespectful.

Some things just aren't adding up - like why hasn't his sister or family been involved as your child is born? That's total BS. Makes me think he may be keeping you a secret for some reason.

At the same time, you don't want to just outright break up since you're coparenting now. So maybe have a calm talk with him explaining how hurtful it is that he still won't make things official with his people. Ask what's holding him back after so long together.

See what he says, and pay attention to his actions after. If nothing changes and he keeps blowing it off, I'd seriously consider dating other guys. You don't deserve to just be his little secret! Your baby deserves both parents that are proud to claim them.

Let me know how the talk goes sis. We'll figure out your next steps together. But don't settle for less than you and that cutie patootie baby deserve!

[Drew-1990]

That sounds extremely weird to me, you had his kid but haven't met his family? I think you need to have a real sit down with him and figure out why he hasn't introduced you yet.

[Asker]

He said he doesn’t see how he can introduce me since he’s family is in another country. But we all have WhatsApp and we can video chat so I don’t get it

[Drew-1990]

I don't either. I'm not the hookup kind, but if I got a girl pregnant through a hookup I'd probably introduce her to my family because that's the mother of my child. And yeah you could do something online through video chat I would. Like I said I think you need to have a sit down with him and see what is going on exactly. You have a child so you should try to see if this relationship can work, but you should probably find out sooner than later

[Anonymous]

This tells me that he’s just not serious enough about you. His sister didn’t show interest, which tells me that even she knows he’s not serious. It’s tough because you had his baby, but you did so without requiring a ring.

[Asker]

So because he’s not serious about me that’s why they don’t care about the child?

[Opinion Owner]

It just seems like a fishy situation and this was the first thing that came to mind.

[jahaims]

Lmfao wait to get pregnant before you decide all this. That poor kid is doomed

[Asker]

I got pregnant after six months of us dating there was no need to be worry about it before. I just thought that I’ll get to meet the family well because we’re becoming a family but that not the case. I think it’s weird and so does everyone else.