I (22F) have been seeing this girl (21F) for around a month and a half. She was very busy due to college finals for the last few weeks. I asked her out after they were over, and she said that this sounds nice but she has a group project so she'll see when she's going to work on it and when she's free. I asked her to let me know, she continued the conversation without letting me know and it’s been almost a week now.
I took the hint and wanted to explore other options, but I remember how last time we went out we both talked about how it’s a turnoff for both of us when the other person is seeing others and I didn’t want to be hypocritical so I sent her this text in order to be transparent but also try to get clarity on where we stand:
‘I’m not sure if this is worth mentioning or not but you were once honest and communicative so I wanted to do the same. I’m talking to other people but it’s very casual and nothing worth mentioning is happening. But, I don’t know where we stand so I wasn’t sure if I should mention this but decided to because I didn’t wanna feel guilty. Let me know if this is weird/uncomfy.’
This was her reply: 'No, it's okay, I don't think it's weird too because we don't know where we stand. But it's okay, thank you for telling me.' and then continued replying to the other things I sent and updated me about the status of her project.
My initial reaction was that the ambiguous text was her way of rejecting me but a friend told me that my text was ambiguous too so she's confused/scared.
Now I have 3 options:
- Try to be the communicative one and push the conversation further in order to get clarity for the both of us
- Take this as a hint (a rejection) and just withdraw
- Ask her out again and see what she says (I don't wanna seem pushy though)
