Girls, What does it mean when a guy is non chalant towards me and when I start to pull back a little he suddenly showers me with attention?

[shikishiki]

I believe this guy has an avoidant attachment issue. So to all the avoidants out there help a girl out. What does it mean when he is normally nonchalant towards me, he's nice but a bit distant and only speaks when spoken to. He knows or has an idea that i like him. Sometimes its kind of exhausting when our interactions always feel one sided cause of his behaviour so i pull back, then he starts reaching out to me, surprisingly. Like he's suddenly talkative, and wants to initiate convo with me which he would normally not do if it was any other d

[strawberrybaby3]

If he really is an avoidant, this is the typical push and pull behaviour that they engage in. Any time you show him any kind of attention, he’s going to slowly pull away because it’s suffocating for him, then when he sees you aren’t reacting, he will crave attention and come back to chase you. Being in a relationship with this type of person is extremely hard if you’re more anxious, and that will bring out those traits in you even more and drive you nuts. It isn’t worth it.

[loladevine]

Prolly doesn’t want to lose you

[loladevine]

Or thinks he can get away with doing less and when he realizes he can’t he has to do more