A guy became distant after a night of confiding about my mom’s diagnosis… what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Been talking to a guy who is nice but lacks consistency in communication. He went MIA on me b4. I just became distant and he came back apologizing saying he had some family problems and it was nothing to do with me. He said he wants something serious and only interested in me. I gave another chance. He confided about his family problems and I told him mine including my mom having cancer one night. He was there and listened. I thanked him the next day for being there for me but I haven’t heard from him since and it’s been 3 days. Now this is the 2nd time for him being inconsistent. Should I cut my losses? Or be understanding? I addressed his inconsistencies b4 and he apologized and took accountability. But doing this again after confiding about my mom feels kinda low. Thoughts?

[DaveJord]

Cut your losses. It became too heavy for him.

[Cheapskate]

You sound like the kind of woman who needs a guy to be at your beck and call, so this is clearly a bad match.

[Asker]

I don’t. I don’t need him to talk to me all day every day and he doesn’t owe me that. But I think going distant on somebody once again without any explanation especially after that is not very nice.

[Cheapskate]

I agree. It was just the way you said he lacks consistency, it sounded like a performance review or a report card.

[Asker]

Sorry. I meant it as I don’t need him to text me all day every day of his life or “at my beck and call”. We all have lives. But if you’re interested like you say you are, you would be consistent with your actions. And after sharing that personal info to be distant again now kinda hurts.

[Cheapskate]

Understood