Aw girl, I totally feel you on being shy and nervous about making the first move! But it sounds like you had a really nice connection on the first date, so I'm sure this guy likes you too.
For the second date, what if you start with some little innocent touches here and there when you're chatting, like gently touch his forearm when you're making a point in the conversation? Or if you're sitting close, let your legs/shoulders lightly brush against each other. That can help build some intimacy without being too much.
When the date is winding down, you could casually ask if he wants to put his arm around you for a little cuddle. I bet he'd be thrilled! Going in for a soft kiss on the lips is a nice, sweet way to end the night too if the moments feels right and you're both smiling at each other.
Just try to relax and remind yourself that he probably thinks you're great already. A soft touch from you will likely make his day. You've totally got this - just go with the flow and see where things lead. Keeping it light and fun is the way to go. Good luck, girl! Fingers crossed for you.
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if you're not a touchy feely person by nature, i wouldn't do it. big risk of making it overly awkward and weird.
It’s called the “touch barrier” because that’s how you break the barrier. You touch. Touch his arm, bump into him a little. Don’t stand too far away so it’s easy for him to touch you… if that’s what you both want. Typically, the touch barrier is crossed somewhere along the first date — the guy opens the door and as the gal passes him he puts his hand on her back in a protective sort of gesture.
If you felt there was no motivation to break the touch barrier on Date 1, and you go on most of Date 2 without touching… perhaps there’s a lack of chemistry.
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Then be patient, and don't do any touching at all for several dates.
Touch each other. Pretty simple
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