Why I surrounded by cheap men?

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Why I surrounded by males that don’t want serious relationships. I saw how other girls treated like princess by boyfriends. They pay for expensive meals, make presents and just happy to be around her. While nobody ever was interested in me. I still have crush on guy who let me split the bill when we met in restaurant. It was just “friends meeting” and I invited him by myself so what should I expected. But I’m still having crush on guy who didn’t even do bare minimum for me while other girls choosing among several guys. I blocked that guy by myself but still want to text cause I feel like at least we could be friends.
And I try to meet with men of other nationalities on language exchange app. But most of them don’t want to meet in real life.
And weirdest thing is people say that between 18 and 20 it’s prime years of girl when she receives most of attention. Well I never received any attention at any age lol. I think I’m not that ugly to be not approached at least ones😭 I’m cute so I don’t understand why.

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

Okay, so I’m going to offer some perspective for you. First, believe me, 18-20 is absolutely not a peak of life. Like, at all. It actually kinda sucks. Life gets better and better and the early 20s are fun since they are virtually responsibility free for most people, and you are discovering the freedom of the adult world.

Also, you seem to have two conflicting ideas here. One leans toward why men are cheap and the second is why men aren’t approaching you. They are vastly different issues.

Are some men cheap? Yeah. Especially in the 18-20 age range. Almost none at that age have a career yet and very few are financially stable (despite trying desperately to project that they are.). Despite that most men will beg, borrow, or sacrifice for the right woman if he really wants to impress her. This leads to point two…

Why aren’t you being approached? Without meeting you it’s nearly impossible to say. You’ve offered some insight into yourself in your post and various replies so there is probably a little bit to be gleaned from that.

I’d say you do some self-analysis. Men are not approaching you because there is something wrong with men. Men are not approaching you because you are projecting something which makes them opt not too. I have suspicions but I don’t know you at all, so what can I really know?

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Cheap? So, you live under the belief men are supposed to go to work and make money and then just give it to you and spend on you because you exist? Being a woman entitles you to the money of men?

How did you come to view life in that distorted way?

If you are 100% traditional and your goal is to find a husband, you are denying sex with men that are not your husband and you are dating right this moment with vetting husband's and marriage as your goal. You will start having kids and have a family and you'll be the woman and he'll work and support you and be the man.

If that is the situation you may have some more leniency to expect a man to pay for you. Otherwise, if you are in school, you are dating casually and having sex even though marriage isn't the goal, you know you probably won't go long term with these men, you are just fucking around for a bit and maybe you might look for a husband in 5 years or so but you'll just have sex with dating partners now, having fun, working is your life then why in the hell would you expect any man to pay for you?

Seriously. He put in the work, earned the job, toiled for a paycheck. Why should he just give it to you for existing?

CrabCakes11 · Accepted Answer

You seem to have a pretty terrible personality. Try being less entitled

Avicenna · Answer

Honestly, it's because you're completely clueless about dating, relationships, and attraction.

Iron_Man · Answer

Unfortunately In most cases you have to find a guy that finds you extremely attractive. If you’re just an average girl they’re gonna make you split the bill because they don’t know you very well and they’re not in love with you so in there mind it’s a 50-50 split also it depends on what kind of a vibe you put out and your personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Well according to your age selection you’re not between 18-20. Two, women who find men like that don’t have this expectation that men should have to take care of me financially. It just happens. Three, you’re probably not that cute as you think you are. Four, if you’re actually older, than chances are men are looking for younger women. Not saying you don’t have a chance of meeting someone, but the older you get the less your chances are. Plus reading your comments to other men’s responses, very immature. You don't have a nice personality. Last, just reading your post is a headache.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Just based on the post, it's wording and how you've responded to people posting, It is very easy to see why these men aren't attracted to you

Seriously, just the little bit here makes you seem rather toxic, caustic and very disagreeable.

You might be very pleasant in person, but the way you've presented yourself here, I wouldn't want to even go out on one date, much less risk my mental and emotional health in a relationship.

NamerOfStars · Answer

YOU asked HIM out, on what wasn't even supposed to be a date, and then blocked him because he still offered to split the check with you, and yet THEY are the ones who are cheap?

I'm starting to understand why so many guys say the dating scene is awful.

Anonymous · Answer

I want serious relationship with the right girl not perfect though. There are high value men out there who want a serious relationship with a classy girl, not just with any bad trashy girl. Just like women, men too are cautious about choosing a girl. We men are afraid that we might waste our time and money for a wrong girl. There is no big difference in our mindsets. It's a small difference of gender, male and female.

If you want a serious relationship then don't approach or get attracted to bad boys / fuck boys. If you just want to hookup then go for it.

Yannae · Answer

I treat my girlfriend like that, because she's proven time and time again that she's worth it. She treats me like a king.

I am not saying it's you. I was also surrounded by women who weren't worth it. You just have to keep an eye out for when you find a person you fancy and you go for it.

b_lova · Answer

It's not them it's you. The guys you are attracted to act in this manner. You are going to have to be open to different types of men, don't just think nationalities, think socially, if you want to see this change.

Billlewis · Answer

I don't like cheap guys either. That's just one more reason why I became an online pay pig for various women.

zagor · Answer

If you're going by social media, as you indicate below, you need a serious reality check; insta is NOT the real world. Get out in it and see how people really act, then reassess.

Squatting_Slav · Answer

"I saw how other girls treated like princess by boyfriends" - where are you seeing this? in person or social media?

Rangers · Answer

Cause you're going to areas that are infested with them, look elsewhere

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry, but we set our own value. If guys are not paying for dinner, you're not valuing yourself enough to insist on them buying you dinner.

Ironco · Answer

Men can't stand it when he sees a woman be a gold digger.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Unless you wanna be a housewife, a man ain’t gonna provide for you. It’s 50/50. Deal with it.

Starrrboy · Answer

You seem too nice.. and nice girls finish last..

jahaims · Answer

You are bad at picking guys or don't have the value for those kind of guys.

Dat-Alpha-Lion · Answer

Depends. What’s your measurements? Maybe people aren’t into that but we don’t know XD

SolitarySolace · Answer

Men are done with the bullshit

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You attract what you are.

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