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Why do some single women keep being single so much? Isn't there anybody good enough for them? (Page 2)
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It’s better to be single than to be with the wrong person in your life.
@DishLady it’s better to be single than to be an abusive person certainly, but I’d rather not die alone even if they aren’t my ideal partner than never settle for anything less than my soulmate
Meh. I’d rather be alone.
@DishLady you say that now
Many women would rather be alone than in an unhappy relationship. I know I would. I'd rather be alone with cats than settle.
I think you speak for millions. I have heard that so many times in recent years almost verbatim. The mantra of this generation.
@Goahead76 Well, I think it's something we should all adopt.
@AmyHew1tt literally everybody settles. Only 1% of guys are like Chris Hemsworth, Henry Cavill etc
@JHAYES317. Shhh! Stop that, don't tell them!
@JHAYES317 Dude. . . Sure, if that's what you want 🙄
@AmyHew1tt do you not want a tall guy with a big d, full head of hair etc?
@JHAYES317 I have a type, and it isn't Henry Cavill or Chris Hemsworth or whoever, as do many women. We aren't, no matter how many men like thinking it, a monolith. As for tall, big, dick, full head of hair, the full head of hair is the only part of that which is a non-negotioable for me at this point in my life. And everyone does not settle. I'm sure how well you understand women at all. I come from an extensive book-reading community where plenty of women drool over tall guys who are billionaires and murder people for a living. They're all very open with the fact that something which appeals in literature or in media is not what they're looking for in real life.
@AmyHew1tt why the full head of hair one? Men can’t stop themselves from losing their hair, it’s uncontrollable…
We also, all the time, meet people who we never would have considered being in a relationship with, and end up falling madly in love with them. Love plays a great deal into how attractive a person appeals to people. Just because that person isn't the living embodiment of our dream partner doesn't mean we've settled for them.
@JHAYES317 They can. Plenty of men have full heads of hair well into their 70s. Obviously, there's problems like genes, alopecia, and off-kilter hormones that make it very difficult, but honestly lots of guys just don't take the steps to take care of themselves, like doing a hair-care routine and reducing alcohol consumption.
@AmyHew1tt not drinking alcohol and shampooing regularly won’t stop men from losing their hair. Genetics account for 80% of pale pattern baldness www.healthline.com/.../baldness-gene
@JHAYES317 I'm not talking about shampooing, lol. Look up, for example, rosemary oil treatments. I know a guy personally who was nearly fully bald on top of his head and did regular scalp-massage and oil treatments and he's almost got a full head of hair now.
@AmyHew1tt I mean there’s stuff like minoxidil and finasteride sure but that only slows things down, and not even always and often causes ED and gyno and other problems. If rosemary oil and scalp massages were actually that effective, then doctors would be recommending them, but they aren’t.
@JHAYES317 That's because they aren't expensive, and people won't come to doctors for them, lol. Regardless, not everything will work for everyone. I agree for some men baldness is inevitable. But if young men are going bald before middle-age then that's an underlying cause and problem that needs to be addressed, not accepted. The same thing is happening with erectile dysfunctions. I've been getting ads for Viagra for men in their late teens and twenties, which is crazy. That's a huge sign that men's bodies and hormones are messed up.
And preferences exist, unfortunately for everyone. What we can or can't do to change it really holds no bearing.
@AmyHew1tt that’s not true at all lol…I’ve been using shampoo with pumpkin seed oil and rosemary and a bunch of other shit and it makes no difference. A lot of guys are just genetically predisposed to lose the hair. www.manual.co/.../hair-loss-stats-the-numbers-you-need-on-male-pattern-baldness
@JHAYES317 And that's a problem. It should not be normalized.
Anyway, some people don't mind baldness, some people prefer it, some people don't. Everyone has preferences.
@AmyHew1tt no it should be normalized…men should not have to take hormone treatments or get hair transplants if it’s a natural thing that happens.
@JHAYES317 But it isn't, dude. Young guys going bald is not natural. Something's going on there. I'm not saying those guys should be shamed, far from it, but even if we did normalize it, it wouldn't make more people attracted to it.
@AmyHew1tt Is it natural since it’s genetics…alcohol consumption and a bad diet doesn’t make you go bald any younger your hair just might look worse…
@JHAYES317 But it's only more recently that this problem has affected younger men largely. And yes, bad diets and alcohol do plenty of damage. Just because it's become normal, doesn't mean it should be. And my point remains, normalizing it or not won't make it more appealing.
@AmyHew1tt find me a source that indicated bad diets and alcohol cause male pattern baldness. And normalizing it would make it more appealing…the only reason girls like big d is due to porn, the only reason girls like tall guys is due to Hollywood, etc
@JHAYES317 Go talk to a nutritionist. My own is very informative.
And no, women have liked big tall guys since the beginning of time. Once again, we are not a monolith, some women like huge men with big dicks, and some like skinny dudes with average ones. Most women will agree his ability to use his dick the right way supersedes the size.
@AmyHew1tt women have liked STRONG guys since the beginning of time. The tall thing only became relevant in the past century or so…and I have talked to nutrionists…basically what they say is a bad diet and alcohol can certainly make your hair QUALITY worse…it will not CAUSE baldness
@JHAYES317 I'm not sure about that. I read a lot of books written all the way back to the fourteenth century and tall guys were pretty popular back then too.
And yes, I agree, it will rarely cause literal complete baldness. I've already concurred that for some men, there's nothing they can do, and that's extremely unfortunate. But if many young men are going bald, then there is going to be some underlying reason we should look at. It's the same with painful menstruation for women. It's become normal because so many women have it, but it's not good, and instead of handing out birth control, or, to men, wigs, we should focus more on actually fixing these things.
@AmyHew1tt it’d likely be caused by more uncontrollable environmental factors like climate change or GMOs though…I doubt simply abstaining from alcohol or junk food would prevent hair loss…maybe if you were able to get all your products completely organic and natural, including food, water, soaps, shampoos etc…then MAYBE? But that’s unrealistic for most people due to access and affordability
@JHAYES317 Oh, it absolutely would be unaffordable, and that sucks all on its own. I don't believe that's the main factor though. But what I mean is, that healthy young men shouldn't be going bald, and healthy young women shouldn't be in debilitating pain every month. Lots of them are, and people trying to normalize that, and not look deeper for reasons that are there, whether they're clear or not, is only paving a path for more of those problems for the next generation.
@AmyHew1tt what do you think the main factor is then?
@JHAYES317 I'm not sure, but whatever it is is affecting us in more ways than just one, and it's definitely an interest of mine. Food allergies are another example, that I'm particularly interested in because they affect me severely.
@AmyHew1tt then how come a lot of guys with food allergies aren’t losing hair? I feel like the only way to actually know would be to do a DNA test on more men and women who are losing hair, since women have been experiencing more baldness too in past decades
@JHAYES317 What? I think you misunderstood me. I'm not connecting food allergies to hair loss. I was talking about underlying health issues causing these things such as: Hairloss, painful periods, and food allergies.
@AmyHew1tt yeah true but what I’m saying is the only way to find out systematically what the underlying cause would be to do a widespread DNA panel and then cross reference among thousands of people?
@JHAYES317 Why not? If it would give better odds to the next generation.
@AmyHew1tt I’m for it, but getting someone to fund that scale of a study would be a challenge
@JHAYES317 It would. And honestly, what pisses me off is how so much money is spent on much stupider things.
@AmyHew1tt I don’t disagree with the you. I still think it’s silly to make something like hair loss which is, at least for now, almost entirely uncontrollable, a dealbreaker, but otherwise I agree with you.
@JHAYES317 I get that, it is sad and unfortunate. I have areas like that in my own life, where things I can't change, without surgery, put me lower on the dating ladder. But I also know that lots of preferences are unconscious and uncontrollable, and our ability or inability to fix those things doesn't really do much to change those preferences.
@AmyHew1tt well that’s why I get preferences being a thing. Like I’m more attracted to slim but curvy, slightly exotic brunettes with D cup boobs and a decent butt and shorter than me, HOWEVER, if a girl who was blonde, skinny, white, A cup boobs, average butt, and taller than me asked me out, I’m not gonna say no. So I guess my point is, I get preferring a guy with hair, but it just seems silly to refuse to date a guy because he got unlucky and lost his hair in his 20s…even if he has a great personality and you find other things about him attractive…
I think the bigger picture here is what men see and experience in online dating. All these dating apps boil down into data and the data has shown 90% of women chase the top 3-4% of guys. The hot guys are happy to sleep with them but not for anything long term. They spend their entire 20's chasing a fantasy.
This is essentially the story in the US, UK, Australia, dating and marriage rates have ground to a complete halt.
@JHAYES317 Well then, I guess there are different kinds of preferences. For example, I prefer guys with black curly/wavy hair and brown eyes. But I could absolutely date a blonde guy with blue or green eyes if he was otherwise attractive to me. However, there are certain physical aspects that I literally cannot bring myself to not require for attraction. That's the kind of preference I'm talking about. The kind that you have no choice over. I'm not sure what the proper word is.
@AmyHew1tt so if you were dating a man and he lost his hair, you’d dump him?
@JHAYES317 No, it would probably be different if I was already in love with him.
@AmyHew1tt well that’s good at least. One of my biggest fears is getting ED or shrinkage in my penis and whoever I’m dating leaving me due to that
We reject too many guys,
sometimes we meet someone perfect but we are not ready,
sometimes we bail out at the last time before commitment,
sometimes, we are attracted to emotionally and physically unavailable men.
Yep and it serves women right
i was single for a long time before my boyfriend but i always had friends with benefits around so i was happy enough
Some of us are just tired of games and waiting on the right person (or have come to grips that the “right person” may not exist for us ) no use in wasting time -my pov
Probably because it isn’t a priority or interest.
Newsflash, not all women desire a man in their lives. Men are not as important as they think they are.
My opinion is that all humans are naturally inclined to seek affection: both physical and emotional. Which doesn't mean that you shouldn't be self-reliant, but that doesn't exclude the need to share some of your life with someone else.
@asker You can get that without having a romantic relationship with someone. Love and affection from family and friends works wonders.
@Dinklex3 the problem here is that opinion owner is a man hater who spends more time on this site than off it, posting how she hates men, especially those who shave, and that she can't trust men at all because one guy broke her.
Also, not cooming frequently makes it difficult amd painful to defecate and urinate once coom builds up. Family and friends excludes coom partners, so what do you do?
That's not what it is, you just don't have faith that any men out there will love you like they should.
Tens of thousands of years of biology, and you're telling me you've defied it? I don't think so, I think you're so bothered by the man-children who view you as their personal sex doll approaching you at bars, and you're understandably sick of it.
Well, now, see that "weird" guy in the corner? Go say "hi", cause chances are, he's the man you're looking for, not the d! ckheads who come up and try to buy you a drink, and think you owe them sex for it
@Dinklex3 I said physical and emotional. You do get emotional affection from family and friends. But physical? I'm not the type who wants to get physical affection from my family members 😂 and I have female friends, but if I got physical affection from them, I wouldn't call them friends anymore. They would be girlfriends.
@asker Yes. People get hugs, kisses, and cuddles from friends and family.
Not everything physical is sexual. I understand that a lot of men don’t hold hands, hug, or link arms with their male friends, but a lot of us women do with our female friends. So a woman being single doesn’t mean she’s missing out on physical affection or emotional affection. I stayed single for years and I didn’t long for affection because I was already getting it.
I don't want to share my life with anyone, I hate compromise
It's not compromise, it's combining two lives together, making it better for both of you
@Rangers I'm not compatible with anyone, that's due to my strong personality and my lifestyle, they can't hand my invasive side, I have a lot of personal effects and I won't give up on this
@Dinklex3 I am touchy with two of my friends, but I would never get the emotional and physical feeling I would get when having sex with a woman
Each person has their personal reasons why.
For some is past relationship disappointments, don't feel ready for relationship commitments or enjoy being single for whatever personal reasons.
They don't want to, or they do but they aren't doing anything to meet someone.
I think a high percentage of women have an idea or fantasy of the men they want but those men are: A. Extremely rare B. Would not be interested in them even if they found one.
Some are very picky and want that perfect mr right.
For the ones I know, they either can't keep a man or just go after the wrong ones so often that they get hurt and don't want to try again
Some people have this mindeset and they r not into dating. They dont see the hype in it.
Why?
https://www.youtube.com/embed/E0LAs7X5ybEProbably because they’ve gotten around. or maybe they’re just bitches. Or they think they deserve better than any guy they know?
That's their life and their choice. You shouldn't spend time on others lives
Definitely, but I'm looking for a girlfriend and that's why I think about this 😂
Are you sure they are single? Like there's no guy in their life?
Yes. No partner. I doubt that these girls I'm referring to sleep around.
You never know 😉
In my case, I prefer to work on myself before entering into a serious relationship 🫡
There isn't anybody good enough for their head
Being single is my choice. I came out of a relationship last July to recover from whatever happened. I have to desire to date anyone.
its simply their own personal decision