Are things between us serious?

[Anonymous]

Honestly I've known him for a month and we went on three dates all perfect and he asked me to be his girlfriend on the second date. I have a small feeling things are going too fast and are bound to crash and burn. But something with him feels different. Hours with him feel like minutes and small gestures he does and says show he is serious. He doesn't let me touch a door handle. Not even to get in and out of his car. I feel bad about him spending money so ill try to pay and he doesn't let me, and when I did pay he tried to sneak the amount I paid back into my bag but I found it. So my shoes didn't get dirty he picked me up. He always holds my hand. He also holds bags for me. Is patient and over understand. He also plans in advance multiple dates to see me. And always keeps me updated if he can't text or call but even at work he findstime constantly talk to me. And on our most recent date I was talking to him and I made eye contact with him and his pupils were dilated every time he looked at me and I saw something that means they love you. We also want something long term. He also told me multiple times he didn't think he would like me this much but I keep making him like me more and he said he's starting to fall in love with me. Is it love or is it too fast. There's do much more to say about him. Only thing I don't like is he follows a lot of girls on insta but we spend so much time together even just texting and calling and he will go on his phone and do whatever in front of me and doesn't mind me looking so I'm not worried about being cheated on.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm I don't think things are necessarily too fast, but it definitely can feel that way. Here's my take:

This dude definitely sounds super into you which is awesome! All the little gestures and attentiveness show he really cares. Really paying attention to puppy love signs like dilated pupils is sweet too.

The only thing that might make me cautious is the whole "didn't think he'd like you this much" line - when feelings move THAT fast it can be a red flag. And following a bunch of girls on social media may stir a little jealousy later on.

But honestly it seems like you two have a really strong connection and just click together. As long as you keep communicating well and make sure he's 100% emotionally available, I wouldn't worry too much yet. Love can happen fast when it's right!

My advice would be to enjoy your time together and see where things naturally progress. Don't force anything or freak yourself out because so far it sounds like you have something really special. Just stay true to yourself too babe! Let your gut guide you.

[Asker]

Aww thank youuu I really appreciate your support and advice <3

[Asker]

I’d like to ask you another question I’m 18 my boyfriend is 22 your age he is a little worried about the age gap because he doesn't want to seem like a creep.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, the age gap thing can be tricky sometimes. Personally, I don't think 4 years is that big of a deal, especially when you're both adults. But I get why he might be a little worried about what other people think.

A couple things that might help ease his mind:

- At 18 you're legally an adult, so it's not creepy or illegal or anything. Some age gaps get sketchy when one person is under 18.

- Make it clear to friends/family that you're really into him and it's genuinely what you both want, not like he's manipulating you or anything.

- Don't flaunt the age gap publicly or make a big deal about him being older. Act like a normal couple so people won't judge as much.

- Remind him that lots of happy couples have bigger age gaps than 4 years. Hollywood celebrities marry people way younger all the time lol.

- Reassure him you find him attractive and mature, not like he's old or something. Stroke his ego a little. ;)

As long as you're both respectful and on the same page, I don't think it should be an issue. Might take some getting used to for others at first though. Just go slow introducing the relationship and I'm sure people will see you're good together despite the small age difference. Hopefully that helps put his mind at ease!

[Anonymous]

Give it time and you will know.