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That’s how I feel currently and it’s the worst feeling in the world. Planning alone in my head of having a baby next year , planning alone of moving to another state to rent an apartment with my partner that's a ghost & don’t exist. Planing move out of my moms house at 27 this year to live with a boyfriend that don’t exist,
it feels as if my life cannot start 😞
That is absolutely fine to feel the way you are feeling. But make sure you find someone you genuinely love and who genuinely loves you. Don’t settle down with someone simply for the sake of settling down. You don’t want to waste years, decades, or even the rest of your life in misery. Especially if someday you find someone that you start feeling attracted to despite being married.
It’s important for you, also for whoever you’re with, and especially your children that everyone has a strong loving bond with one another. I’ve seen people just settle down with someone for the sake of settling down and more times then not it doesn’t end well.
All and all. All of us human beings are different. What’s right for me maybe isn’t right for you. So as long as you’re honest and straightforward about what it is you’re looking for. With yourself and especially another person. As well as finding someone whose not only going to be a good husband for you. But most importantly a good dad for the kids.
sounds familiar and it can go on for decades as in my case, it's very frustrating... I've seen some women give up... and guys too. the biggest problem I found... was myself. So look in mirror... albeit society is messed up and doesn't make it easy.
it's all a bunch of human rocket fuel to create new life, passed on for generations. will take work but you can get it done.
the early bird, aggressive bird, skilled bird... gets the worm...
the bitchy complaining bird, depressed bird, hopeless bird... we don't know, they didn't survive.
I know it sucks! You feel all of this love you have to give and no one to give it to. Right?
Meeting the right guy and actually having him stay long enough to get to know you and have a real relationship seems almost impossible anymore.
But I do know of a guy member on this website who wishes so bad for the exact same thing you are wanting Hummm 🤔
He lives far away but when it comes to love distance is only an obstacle that you could over come together.
I have never played match maker on here before but you sound exactly like he does but he just can't find her YET.
I can send him a message about you if that's ok with you and maybe you can get to talk a little bit. Ok?
Yes but I’m talking and seeing one guy rn he’s long distance , but we met 3 months ago and I traveled 1 wk ago to see him. Was a 9 day trip but only able see him one day. Couldn’t stay more days. But will see him again August.
He treats me good but I don't know yet if he’ll be the one to meet family live together this year. Have baby. He is the first guy to finally take a cute picture with me tho. So it gives me hope.
Still we aren’t officla yet even tho we took a couple pic together. I don't know if he’ll want future with me. I don't know what’s in his head. But I cannot plan anything until he asks me to live with him and meet fmaily. So until that happens I have to continue planing my future alone in my head.
I think it might be worse to have someone you can't fully be with. I'm currently in a relationship with someone I can't be with fully due to long distance. Closing the distance is a heavy obstacle because of money. Well lack thereof. If we had the money, we could close the distance. Or if I got a job where he lives then we could close the distance but that has become a hard task.
I want to be married by next year and start having children but that's not possible with our current situation which sucks. All I want to do is be close to him but as life would have it, it's not possible right now which absolutely sucks.
I’m seeing someone long distance rn. We met last wk for second time. Will see him again next month.
Oh ok. I get it and I'm sorry. That sucks.
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It feels great. If you're ready to settle down, just do it.
Why do you need to do all that right now? You’re young, there’s no rush.
27 is a fine time, it just doesn’t “have” to be this age. You’re going through all that stress and pain as if there’s no other choice when they’re totally is. I don’t know why you think that just because you’re not married or having babies it means you’re partying otherwise, like that is so not the case with everyone.
No Sugar, you said you’re planning, and wrote that repeatedly. That’s why I’m saying what I’m saying, that there is no rush and no reason for you to be feeling so down and bad as of those are things you have to do next year. It’s silly to put yourself through that. Also, just because you’re 27 does not mean you need to get comfortable being single forever. I didn’t get into my first serious relationship until I turned 30. You never what your timing is.
So move out, start living your own life. Are you just on pause until you get married and have a baby? There’s no guarantee you’ll have a boyfriend next year, but would you really rather be in the same place as you are right now? Living with mom making no progress when you could’ve done more with your time? If I were you I’d rather work on my own success for now and then see what happens next year.
I’m seeing a guy rn, I hope we can live together soon. So yes it’s a guarantee I could have a serious boyfriend now this year.
I moved out once when I was 23 but my family were unhappy talking shit saying I’m going down wrong path as I’m living alone.
Everyone in my family got married which is why they r moved out. I don’t want to live alone I want move out until I have a husband 😞
Then family talk shit and say I want live alone so I can have sex. 😞
I wish I had a husband so they don’t need talk shit about me anymore. I’m ready settle down. I just am not sure if this new guy will be the right guy finally and he’s the one to comitt to me.
All I can do is wait and visit him again August see what happens.
I’m living with mom and will start school septmeber full time but my mom keeps complaining she can’t pay rent and we’ll be homeless then talks shit how I’m stupid for going on vacation to see a new guy.
Wtf is wrong with her? I haven’t gone out in 2 years !!! I was so happy on vacation. 😞 I’m all day at home with her. It seems she and dad don’t want me have a future don’t want me go out anywhere
I understand all that but at the end of the day, those are the restraints you’re putting on yourself. You are far too concerned with what your family says or thinks, if you weren’t then you’d be out on your own and much happier. Where you are right now is quite literally a choice, and quite silly to suffer so long as you look a certain way to your family. Until your in an actual relationship with a title then no, there is still no guarantee you’ll be serious with someone by next year. So why wait until you find out if it goes somewhere serious and instead just live how you want to live right now?
No offense but that last piece of logic was truly spoken like a woman who’s never been with a man. Why would living alone not make you marriage material? I lived alone and now in a very serious relationship, so you can’t say that about everyone.
That’s what my moms says, guys don’t want girl that lives alone without her family , they’ll sue me for sex as they see I’m living alone , or say u need move out until marriage which my entire family did do. But im stuck it’s taking long to get married and have a first boyfriend for me
Then mom will be angry say I’m and daughter becuz she pays the rent alone and I’m paying rent living alone when that money can be for her. And since I’m not married I’ll be stuck nedd take care of mom
Forever and it’s not fair becuz my siblings don’t take care of mom they r married so y I deserve take care of mom and they don’t? 😞
Yes they r religous. Worst part is my fmaily all did get married I’m the youngest but oldest in age that’s not married yet. Everyone got married young. I barley am seeing one guy that treats me good for once in my life so he might be the one for me. But still, I’m home fighting with mom & I feel I’ll be stuck with her froeber unless I’m married 😞
I’m already settled down, I live with my fiancé, I graduate in December with my masters, and move back to Central Florida. we’re starting to look for areas to buy a house. I already have a job lined up, and my fiancé, Lee will be getting his masters degree at UCF. It feels absolutely amazing! I’m unbelievably lucky and incredibly happy. It feels like a dream sometimes, I cannot believe I’m 21 and already my life and future are looking so bright. I feel like it's a dream, and I definitely feel like I don’t deserve it!
I don’t exactly understand the “meet the family” thing, I mean why would anyone ever want to rush into that? But the rest seems like maybe you haven't exactly prioritized a relationship in your life? It’s seems pretty obvious that you are upset by your lack of a relationship? I can certainly appreciate and understand how that must feel. But you really need to take a risk and put yourself out there! Dating sucks, It really does! I’ve had good luck dating, and I’ve had some REALLY bad luck! But in the end, I met the man of my dreams! You are a woman, it’s never been easier to date. Get yourself on some dating apps, or sign up for a local singles group. There are just so many choices for women today, but if you never put yourself out there, you’ll never meet anyone! That’s the best thing I think you can do. You’re only 27, you still have plenty of time to find the right guy, settle down, and have children, if that truly is what you want.
I met someone already. Saw him last Wk. But I don't know if we’ll be my offical boyfriend and be my serious first real boyfriend. I never had a guy be my first boyfriend ever in my life. At 18 god didn’t give me the man of my dreams. Instead god gave me a. Bad guy that use me for sex waste my time.
So I don't know what age god will give me my man of my dreams. This new guy I’m seeing he kinda do feel like the man of my dreams but we aren’t offical couple yet. So I’m still sad & worried of my future 😔 I still don’t have a boyfriend to plan life with me. This guy would be the right guy only if he becomes my offical boyfriend or will he be another time waster using me and don’t want be my boyfriend?
Well I certainly wish you all the luck in the world. fingers crossed 🤞
Okay, well I wish you the best of luck. I really have nothing more to add. Good luck.
In this hyper appearance motivated social media world, you will probably not find the guy for you. You want perfection and that does not exist in the flawed human form. When you judge a book by the cover you buy garbage. Most guys operate on the 80/20 rule. If they like 80% of what they get from a relationship, they will deal with the 20% that they don’t like. I can’t comprehend why a woman will find a guy where they like 80% and go to work fixing the 20%. Close your eyes and listen to the inner voice of men that you would not ordinarily pick.
Like most women in their twenties , you have unrealistic standards. When you stop rejecting guys within your league, you will find someone. Furthermore, at 27, you have lost some of your bloom so guys you could have had at age 20 are no longer available to you.
Terrible for the exact reasons you stated. Planning my proposal and wedding for a partner I don' have. Visualizing vacations with a partner I don't have. Planning my moving out once I get my shit together alone. Thinking about how to raise my own family when I don't have a partner currently. It all sucks and I feel so behind all of my peers in life. It is what it is though. Just the state of society and girls mentalities.
Nope. My state in life is my own fault and it's been holding me back a ton. I think once I get my shit together, my life will come together in terms of a partner as well.
But it definitely is rough not having a partner. I know I'm definitely always happier in a relationship than single 😂
I did about 7 months ago 😂 Was with her for about a year
I’m almost 27 and neebr have a boyfriend. Never had a guy confess feelings to me and say do u want be his girlfriend. I’m seeing one new guy currently but we went offical yet. I don't know if he’ll be my serious boyfriend or wen. But I hope he’s the one. It shudbt take longer to have a first boyfriend finally
Well if you don't put yourself into social scenarios, I doubt any guys can ask you out. Also, why wait for them to make the first move. If you see a cute dude, why not try approaching him? For girls, it's much easier to approach men than vice versa
I’m seeing own guy rn, but I’ve never had a guy confess feelings to me or confirm he’s my boyfriend. So I don't know wen or if this guy will be my officla boyfriend. We met last wk and he agree for a pic together and I’ve never had a pic with a guy 26 years of my life.
We look like a couple in the pic tho lol.
That's crazy... not a single picture with a guy in 26 years? Wow.
I wish you a ton of luck and hope he might be the one for you 😁
Yea it’s becuase I met a guy at 18, he liked me and he was my first kiss. But then since I neevr had a boyfriend , and he was a bad guy, older like 23, & fuckboy with tatoos , I ended up falling for him & then we dated at 23-25 age. But since he took me for dates many years I thought that was a serious relationship.
But it wasn’t 😞 he neevr took pic with me, deny meet family , deny love together , deny baby , no marriage.
Just some advice, but the photos you have with someone does not dictate whether you're a couple or not. It's nice to have them, but it doesn't really deepen your bond
Don't be so focused on getting pictures with the guys you date and focus on the stuff that's important. Get to know them and let them get to know you.
We’ll a guy that don’t want be my boyfriend will never take pic with me. So to me it is true a picture is a more serious step to being offical couple.
As my ex , would sent pic with me so he can say he’s single no girlfriend.
So new guy won’t hide me as he agree for pic.
I never had with with a guy friend. Not any guy is willing not even randomly take pic with me unless he wants be my boyfriend
Honestly, I'm not going to lie - horrible. I just want a partner to simply love and be loved in return and it is effing impossible, and can't even do that. But from your post, I get the vibe that you're a really strong and determined person. It is scary but I hope you go and pursue what you want to do.
I´m ok with being single for the time being because I rarely meet women I actually can imagine spending a life time. That´s so because they often have different goals and hobbies not because they are bad people. I´m just not interested in their life on a deeper level. Most of time I´m in a rush so there is only a short period of time a woman has to get me attracted to her.
Never experienced that, but it sounds awful.
Like you’ve been brainwashed.
Serisously…. what if I said I’m looking for a great new job but bought a new house in Ecuador?
That’s entirely untrue and ridiculous. What “attraction” is…. is actually quite complex. Why do young hot college girls date overweight 50s professors? Daddy issues, authority complex, etc.
There are plenty of guys that would find you attractive were they to see you. So you must get out there.
It feels like another Saturday to me. Yeah, I'm used to this loneliness "darkness".
Has your life plan to date included acting like a wife, finding a long term man?
how do u act like a wife? I’m seeing someone rn , he treats me very good but I don't know yet if he’ll be my serious boyfriend that meets family.
What I'm suggesting is if you are acting like his idea of a long term partner - a wife - your chances of him keeping you are much greater.
That may include being cooperative, showing a nurturing instinct, and showing and taking interest in him.
You dont need husband for all that actually!
Feels fine. Cause you’re ok being on your own. And makes people uncomfortable.
That's my dream to settle down without anyone 😂😂
Depressing as hell
Lonely
Awww I know it sucks
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