Yeah, feeling lonely is usually a result of not taking proper care of yourself, they say you practice proper self care by constantly treating yourself like how you would treat a guest whose coming over to stay at you're home, eg, refrain from saying rude things to yourself, give yourself a clean space to spend your time in, make presentable nutritious meals for yourself, make yourself presentable and groom yourself etc. these are just examples.
Also know this relationships are a job its hard to have a partner and maintain a proper relationship with them, try not to glamourize relationships and try to view them realistically! yes its nice to have a partner but it comes with a lot of disadvantages at well! such as you're partner may cheat on you, they may get pregnant, give you an std, they may bore you to death while dating them, they may pull an amber heard on you etc. i'm just trying to show you that dating can be hard and that its realistic, try to focus on yourself more and it will benefit you to only start dating once you no longer feel lonely, but when you are more content with yourself and if you don't find a girl don't be too hard on yourself you may be dodging a bullet some women do scary things out here! and this is coming from a girl!. literally some girls out here do scary horrible things so being single and struggling to find a mate may be a life saver!
I never had a boyfriend either, nor I kissed one, nor I have friends. That doesn't necessarily means that we are alike. But I'm good as things are. More like I'm satisfied with myself.
You shouldn't look for someone to fill up an empty space. Because if you do whenever someone leaves you will always have to desperately look for someone to fill it again and again.. and so on until you get tired of filling up empty holes.
You should try to feel like you are enough by yourself and first you should make the relationship with yourself work before looking outside for others.
I'm not saying this out of the blue.. but I think that if you enter in a relationship in this state you won't end up fully enjoying it. To enjoy it you need to be happy with yourself with. Not just for you. But also for the person you may meet or fall in love with one day.
In your conversation with Astralumi you said āIām sorry for wasting your timeā, which shows how your personality is a huge influence. You might see yourself as (I donāt know) below others or maybe you want to be below others, you maybe doubt confidence. I mean like you apologized when you didnāt need to, putting yourself below that other person.
You might feel like you canāt have confidence without upsetting people and then be confused when you see truly confident people that are successful at being confident.
I am guessing here but I feel like this could be true for you. Your void is created by your lack of self confidence and youād rather sit alone than embarrass or upset yourself with something you did or said. You are an introvert but still are missing that thing
Bit conflicted.
You use terms like "lack", "void" "missing" "needs". Have you heard of Neurolinguistics?
Simply put the words we choose reveal what we might be hiding and have a powerful effect on our perception.
It is clear that you do want a special person in your life to care for and spend time with. Ff course you can't just grab a person off the street. But I know what you can do. Get a pet. Did you know pets are some of the most powerful therapeutic methods for a whole spectrum of emotional, mental and physical human needs?
Give it a try. Then while walking your dog or at the dog park (if you got a dog) you might strike up a conversion with an outgoing young dog walker you meet.
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Hey there. I do feel you, i never had a girlfriend or dated or kissed too lol. Focus on yourself, you got control over yourself judging by reading the replies. Don't over think of it, it will all come with time no need to rush. If something is missing in a romance way just normal feeling there. Live your life, please don't let it put you down.
What I suggest is focus on yourself, your goals, stuff you want to accomplish, look after family, spend time with friends, take care of your own health, think positively! I hope you have a amazing day, best wishes :)
Take zinc picolinate, magnesium glycinate, Mega dose B vitamins, perhaps maca. Workout. To the best of your ability take some pride in the work that you do.
If you're passionate about any hobbies or goals, work towards those things consistently every week. Go out on the weekends to socialize with people in general
Get a hobby or something. Or get a girl. Get something. Do some shit. Fuck things up. Or make an epic bridge. Or set it on fire. Just do something.
Reminds me how I look at relationships from a different perspective now
When I don't have I don't feel like I am lacking anything.
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