Who should pay for the date & how come?

[the29thhuman]

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If a man asks a woman on a date, he must pay 100%

[The_Confusion]

Women. Because it is a well known fact that the rich are greedy, and poor are humble. Women make less money, as is evident by their half naked clothing choices, whereas men can afford to get clothes fully. Of course all the women choose to pay. ﾠ

[Curiouskitty99]

This reasoning is so stupid. I had to laugh

[The_Confusion]

@Curiouskitty99 as a male stripper, I actually agree that this is incorrect.

[Curiouskitty99]

You’re bold to admit you’re a male stripper after that previous statement you made LOL

[The_Confusion]

@Curiouskitty99 it wasn't me. It's my conjoined twin who forgot to log into his own account before replying.

[Curiouskitty99]

😭😭😭😭

[Shiprex]

There is merit to this supposition

[OlderAndWiser]

For my generation, among those of us who are traditionalists, the man always pay for everything on a date, and the woman never asks the man for a date. We didn't grow up with texting, so we learned how to talk to each other and asking for a date is easy. We have traditional male and female roles and we all know what to expect. Nowadays, you guys don't know how to have a conversation with the opposite sex and you don't know what to expect. Somebody - NOT ME - messed it up.

[SixFootSexy]

Don't lie, we know it was you - and only you - who messed it up.

[OlderAndWiser]

@SixFootSexy Hahaha!

[SixFootSexy]

Thanks for having a good sense of humor @OlderAndWiser

[Ariesman81]

Isn't your generation also the one that allowed feminism to take root?

[OlderAndWiser]

@ariesman811 No. I was 14 years old when the 1960's ended.

[Sirenboobzilla]

I'm of the mind that whoever does the inviting is typically in charge of payment. However, it's within reason. I like to drink wine and eat steak when I go out, which I know can rack up a hefty bill. At which point I'm not likely to let someone pay for me unless they're adamant on paying.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Maybe it depends on what they're hoping for at the end of the date.

[V_Injector]

Outside of my own troll answer... this is how I generally feel. The asker of the date is offering to pay from the start. With that said though, don't let anyone take advantage of you if you're asking someone out. "We're going here to get this and then you can do what you want on your own."

So at least you said it upfront that you want steak and wine... as the guy I could do quick budgeting in my head and if I can't afford that, it avoids a lot of bullshit and I can ask you straight up "How about just the wine?" If I'm broke like that and still trying to impress with the steak... I'd talk you into buying it and grill it for you, then get you drunk on wine and see if my looks and witty charm gets the panties to drop.

In reality, I have frozen steaks already, and we can buy some boxed wine. Playing dress up is gay... we're going to have sweatpants and sweatshirts hang out with grilled steak... you can keep the wine because I drink cognac or some Hennessy. I don't even Netflix and chill because Netflix don't have shit... we're going to Youtube and chill... we can take turns picking out videos.

I believe "dates" were originally just hanging out and getting to know each other. Somehow it got perverted into a booty call or some formal dress-up thing where I should show up wearing a monocle and dressed like the Monopoly guy, with a fancy dinner, and then to view the freaks at the freakshow at our local circus. What happened to just hanging out or grabbing a burger and some fries and talking? Who changed the fucking rules to some 1920's shit or some Cyberpunk shit? lolz

[SvenTree]

I don't necessarily agree. When women have asked me out, I've never felt it's correct to let her pay for everything. I have always offered to pay at least my part in this kind of scenarios. I'm fortunate enough to have a relatively high income; I'm not going to make a girl ask me out and spend her hard earned money without contributing at least my part.

[Apple1996]

Always the man except for on the rare occasion that he's in his princess/feminine era and thinks all women are gold diggers then obviously the woman should pay

[V_Injector]

Women should pay... for everything. Why you ask? Because I didn't want to go on a date anyway! Dates are gay and retarded, and I'd rather go camping or hunting. If I call you... I want to fuck... I'm not thinking about food and shit.

[mandyfire98]

Just pay for your own food. It's so much easier to deal with.

[SvenTree]

I have never gone on a date with a woman that doesn't offer to at least pay her part.

Honestly, I don't mind paying, I'm in the top 1% earners. It's not the amount of money, but I do think that it's a considerate and a nice gesture when she wants to split the bill or contribute to the experience somehow (and I don't mean simply snowing up and looking pretty). It has never been the case for me, but if a woman always expected me to put all of the work in the relationship, I would walk away very quickly.

[Zack-Bann]

I think it should be whoever sneezes first during the d…


It shouldn’t matter!!!


Maybe whoever invited the other pays, maybe one takes the first round and one the second. Maybe they split the bill 50 50


Regardless what ends up happening it shouldn’t reflect on either person. It’s trivial and useless metric to measure a person’s integrity

[Shiprex]

Depends on the date and who arranged it.
Dinner or lunch, then either or both. These days it's equally expensive to eat out so go for a walk, bike ride, picnic (THIS is much more thoughtful and harder work showing effort and a HUGE plus) or just drinks.

[ohmyguy]

Imagine asking some out on a date.. and not only do enthusiastically except.. but also insist I order a few extra drinks cause she's paying the tab whether I let her spend the night or not..
The first date is paid by the person who asked u out to accompany them for a date..

[paledreams]

The reason I like split bills even in my late 20s was because "otherwise she's just thinking I'm only paying for the date to get into her pants after the date" and somehow that seems like it's not right in my mind 🧠 so that's my logic of "the why" I prefer to split bills if I went on a date with a woman tomorrow hypothetically even 😀

[paledreams]

Surely you all can see my logic here 👍🏻😋 and that I, actually care. Yeah... I actually, care. 🌹

[genericname85]

each their own if not previously otherwise stated. when i communicate, i make it quite obvious so you can't get it wrong:

"let's grab dinner together" means you'll pay for your shit, i'll pay for mine.
"i wanna invite you to dinner" means i'll pay for you.

[Nifrayu]

By default it should be assumed that both are paying, because both should be expressing an interest in the other and neither should feel like they are being used for a free meal or anything like that. Otherwise if it's just one person paying, then it should be agreed upon ahead of time.

[Anonymous]

It needs to be split.
Women earn their own money and they should help fund the process.
The old traditions don't have relevance where people are not dating for the right reasons. If it's not an investment in the future, it's a short term amusement.
So they both pay for it.

[paledreams]

A man for all seasons who I can agree with 🥹

[paledreams]

Extra applause that you're 45 plus with such attitude 😆 split bills

[YevgenyMikhail]

A man should man up and pay up. A woman shouldn't have to deal with a dusty who doesn't have any money when she's beautiful and has a lot to offer to a man.

[ManInChains]

Women because they're no prize and need to realize that

[Peridot25]

To be fair, literally no one is.

[ManInChains]

Agreed. But women still believe themselves to be which is why they are so entitled and bitchy

[Peridot25]

Ok 👍

[the29thhuman]

Sir, then you should date men

[ManInChains]

I'm not gay 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Curiouskitty99]

Whoever asks the person out on the date SHOULD pay. It’s weird to bring someone out on a date and make them pay. That’s how I grew up

[SvenTree]

I agree that "Whoever asks the other person on a date should be prepared to pay", but I don't agree that "Whoever asks the other person on a date SHOULD pay".

When women have asked me out, I have always offered to pay. I don't think it's ok to leave all the expenses up to her. I'm fortunate enough to have a relatively high income; I think it would be pretty selfish of me to expect that the girl who asked me out, had to spend her hard earned money without me contributing at least my part.

[Kayla45]

I think splitting the bill is the right way of doing things.

[paledreams]

Mm hmm

[TheLovelyWoman]

If I like him, he should pay for it. If I don’t like him, I will pay for myself so I don’t owe him any favors.

[Phoenix98]

I’m largely traditional so that’d be my job.

however I’m also fine with whoever asks is the one who pays as that’s also fair.

[jojouzumaki]

Split. Though if I invited him I’ll take care of the bill.

[LiamJHayden]

The couple should do whatever they agree on.

[nawtee_me]

The one who asked the other out should pay for the date unless it would offend the other by not being allowed to pay for their own. In which case the bill would be split.

[Matt_M]

Whoever did the asking pays for the date unless you both agree otherwise.

[bowenw]

I think it should be whoever did the inviting, especially on a first date.

[Vegasrunner]

A man should always pay for the first date, however the date should not cost more than $15

[Anonymous]

Splitting the bill is wild, maybe if you’re no longer interested at the end of the date yeah. Otherwise her paying a cent is out of the question.

[KittygosMeoWW]

General rule of thumb is the person who invited but always be prepared to pay for your own.

[Mati91]

The person who ask on date. I guess that’s how I was raised.

[BarryLiverstone]

Guy should pay for the first date. After that can alternate

[Tomisworthless]

Women, time to give back instead of constantly taking

[its_amelia_c]

There are no set rules just see how the date goes!

[Billlewis]

The guy, always.

[Paris13]

First and Second Date, The Guy. xxoo

[bellicose]

You sound like a hooker.

[OtterMan68]

If you ask, you pay. You ask someone out, you pay.

[Thecuriousbird]

If I invited I am paying and vice versa

[msss98]

Split always

[paledreams]

Preach lady of my generation preach 🖐🏻

[Anonymous]

Men definetely no matter what

[Hotboy_booblover]

I will always pay