How do you react to getting stood up on a date?

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RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

Only happened to me once. But I took a 6-hour drive to get there to meet her and then she didn't show. I had the date all planned out in her town including reservations at a vegan restaurant because she was a vegan and flowers for her.

Called her several times when I got there and she didn't answer. Left messages for her but heard nothing back.

Gave the flowers to some stranger woman walking by and left.

On my way home she called and apologized and said she got nervous.

I told her I was not happy about it but I forgave her.

We made an arrangement for another date closer to where I live because that's where her family lived and she was going to be visiting them.

But before we met for that one I called it off. I just lost interest in her after what happened.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Last time I had something like this happen, she called me at about 7:10 pm (she was supposed to meet me at the restaurant at 7:00 pm.) She said she had taken a nap and overslept, but could leave her apartment and be there in 30 minutes if I still wanted to meet. I was skeptical of her excuse but had nothing better to do, so I told her I would wait. She finally arrived around 8:00 pm. It was an okay first date and I saw her a few more times, but being late was an annoying habit for her. I shouldn't have given her the second chance. I broke up with her after the fourth or fifth date.

Seinna · Accepted Answer

Never happened, thankfully. It would probably largely depend on how much I cared about that person. If I didn't then I'd be annoyed, if I did then I'd be annoyed and sad lol

I'd message them to see what's up, or to tell them where I am in case it was a misunderstanding, but I wouldn't call.

It'd be up to them to make amends if they cared to.

Account · Accepted Answer

No clue, it has never happened by a romantic interest. It has happened once by a group of acquaintances.  Let's just say I eventually reciprocated the favor because that is how I am.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't take it personally. It's important to remember that the person who stood you up likely has their reasons for doing so. It's not a reflection of your character or worth.

exitseven · Answer

It only happened once. I waited at her house for over an hour. Then the phone rings and it is her. She tells me that she was still at work and a cash register fell off the counter and she had to stay late to clean up the mess. I asked her if she wanted me to wait and she said no. I knew she was lying because I stopped by where she worked to give her a ride home. I just got in my car and left. I never called her again. it was her loss.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Happened to me once.. I took it very personally and that I am not good enough. He tried to ask me out a few more times after that but I said no because I didn't trust him.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

My filter process has gotten better now so it doesn't really happen anymore... But number one thing never give them the satisfaction of complaining. Whether it was a girl you met at a bar or online. Say nothing. It's two gold, one you never wanna show anger and two you can always give a second chance rule. However second chance is no longer something planned. It's more like I'm going out anyway Friday if you are in the area and wanna grab a beer/wine/coffee etc

NathanDavis · Answer

I have not been there yet... things do happen of course, and then they just call in advance, explain... we re-schedule for later and that's it

rienna888 · Answer

Yes, this happened to me once. My date agreed to meet at Starbucks and after he got me a drink. He slowly backed away and went back to his car. He texted me he had an emergency. I was so pissed off because it was so disrespectful and it had never happened to me before. Thinking about it still makes me mad. But what can I expect from a cop lol.

SuckOnThisOpinion · Answer

Never happened but I'd probably walk out onto the street, scream "I got stood up!!:(" and then pick between one and four of the dudes who come running to my rescue.

Shamalien · Answer

Happened to me once, some people say it’s my fault cause I didn’t confirm day of, but I had told her the time, the day, the restaurant reservations, and I was picking her up, so I assumed she would be ready ontime like a responsible adult.

nope lol. No answer. Went to grab some drinks with my buddies

Crimsyjo · Answer

If I'm sat at home then it's very annoying wasting my time waiting around. If I'm out then I'd go off and enjoy my night without him. Probably have a better time anyways!

petitedollbabee · Answer

Annoyed that I wasted my time, and then don’t really care.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I'm not sure if it ever happened, I've had last minute phone calls saying that they couldn't go, so i guess that was being stood up, but at least I had the courtesy of a call.
It sucks, but you move on.

purplepoppy · Answer

Meet up in a coffee shop. Even if they don't turn up there's always someone else who's been stood up there. Sometimes I get there early just to see if there's anything better on offer.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

A date is a date & although I have never been stood up if it ever happens I’ll look at it like she is doing me a favor. I wonder if you can file a lawsuit for breach of contract?

ChiTown33 · Answer

I've never had that happen. I'm not sure how I'd react. I guess I'd say, "well that sucks".🤣 I mean because if she's going to flake i guess it's best to happen on the first date. Am I right?

FreyaRed · Answer

Did never happen because I appear always much too late, when phone gets bombarded with messages then I start to put my shoes on.

jojouzumaki · Answer

It’s totally fine. I’ll be glad that the person didn’t show up. Regardless of his reason I’ll respect and accept it. Plus I’ll be having a great time reading my book.

genericname85 · Answer

Just order food for myself and enjoy. Then block the person's contact without ever texting them again.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I'm sure it has happened to many of us. I try to chill and go for a walk or something to forget about it. Sometimes some solo sex helps!

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Bunu nazik bir hareket olarak görüyorum.

Pete671 · Answer

Dissappointed, perhaps even annoyed but I would try to keep an open mind until I knew the reason,,,

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I've had dates canceled before I left home but never got stood up.

Nerdvana · Answer

For me, it would depend on the reason. Did she say why she stood you up?

Juxtapose · Answer

I get angry and cut them off for disrespecting my time.

RichieJoo · Answer

Non-chalantly... just an event that got canceled. You didn't lose anything. His loss.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Like a champ and just don't take it personal

Agape93 · Answer

Get annoyed and leave or eat by myself.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

He lost a chance … bye.

RavVid · Answer

Get very pissed off. It has happened a few times.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I would go have fun anyway.

Toxic_Skyler · Answer

Never happened to me so wouldn’t know

MemeSupreme · Answer

terrorism

Sexyryan2046 · Answer

I would love to be her date there

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, I never had a date.

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