I'm (32m) so confused why she (31f) said to me what she said and goes out with some guy to eat at the place we both work at?

[Anonymous]

I'm so confused why she said it to me. Anyways, I know a girl in her 30s and im in my 30s too and she got a child with a boyfriend last year and now she told me he took the child and she's fighting custody battles, and I thought i had another shot with her (i asked her before for a date and she told me she was busy and couldn't make it to the date, but later learned I was told she already was seeing someone else, well this guy that broke her heart) and she seems to like me even told me she was so always happy to see me and hugged me so tightly couple times through the last two months.

So I asked her for a number and she tells me she can give it to me but she's not dating anyone if ever, cause she got beat up by the same guy she had the child with and who took her kid and that broken me up cause two days after that, I see her with some dude eating where i work ) we do work in the same place but i don't have her working with me as I work weird hours)

I'm just confused why she said that and does something else, and she even kissed me on the cheek with a nice tight hug like four days prior to me asking?

[Zack-Bann]

Why are you trying to put a train that’s already wrecked back on some tracks is the question


She’s obviously made a mess of her life and is doing you a favor by pushing you away


You’re 32 not 62 that means you’re still a young guy with endless options


Find someone with less baggage
Preferably no kids
No domestic violence scars


I know it might seem like she’s a good option for you but you’re limiting yourself


You can, and should, do better

[Asker]

Dude, thank you 🙏 that opened my eyes even more to the situation, so true

[InknKink]

You degrade yourself by wasting your time and energy.

She's keeping you on the back burner for emotional support and dragging you along with every intent to dispose of you when you're burnt out. She's a user and an abuser.

You'll never be anything to her and she knows this. Don't just walk away. Run.

Ignore my advice to your own detriment.

[Asker]

That hurts, but you're right to the truth, I kinda knew it, thank you for the wise advice. I'm just hurt rn man, I feel like a fool, dude, she even hugged me tightly a more than couple times throughout the past two weeks prior to this. Also, she hugged me tight and kissed my cheek after telling me she felt so good always around me and wanted to let me know that. Do note, it was like two or three days prior to all this betrayal

[InknKink]

Unfortunately there are plenty of women out there like that and the only way to learn is by going through it first hand. The upside to the situation is you dodged a bullet. If she had agreed to the date. If things had progressed. You'd be in a much worse situation.

Never connect with a women when they build a relationship with you based on garnering emotional sympathy. a lot of men are suckers for the broken ones and it never ends well. They're all lies, deceit, and manipulation.

[Asker]

Man, that really hits the nail into the coffin ⚰️ but so true, you are wiser than me and I thank you for your reply and time you took, thank you!!

[Asker]

Man, that really hits the nail into the coffin but so true, you are wiser than me and I thank you for your reply and time you took, thank you!!