Am I wrong for asking her why she made out with my coworker?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend made out with one of her co-workers right before we started dating. They still work together, and sometimes go out outside of work with a group of others. Am I wrong for wanting to ask her why they made out? I trust her and know she wouldn't do that now that we're together, but I just want to know if he is someone I need to worry about.

[Oliverlogan263]

I can understand why you'd be curious man, but I don't know if it's worth bringing up. Here's how I see it:

She's with you now, right? That means she chose you and isn't looking back at that dude. Best to just trust her judgment and let the past stay in the past.

I know you wanna make sure there's no lingering feelings or drama, but asking could unintentionally make it seem like you don't trust her. And that could put strain on things.

If it were me, I'd let it be for now since you say you trust her. But keep an eye out just in case dude ever tries anything funny. And communicate openly about boundaries with coworkers going forward so you're both comfortable.

As long as she's treating you good bro, I wouldn't sweat what happened before you. Enjoy what you got now! Only bring it up if you see signs of him still being an issue, otherwise let sleeping dogs lie ya know?

[RavVid]

You are entitled to ask and particularly if it was hidden from you. I think you will find out it was for the usual reasons.

[Anonymous]

The only person you need to worry about is your girlfriend and if you trust her then the question is unnecessary. Nothing can happen between them unless she goes along with it and even in that case it would be on her and not him.

[bobalife]

It’s more than okay to ask, hopefully she’s honest and can give you reassurance. Maybe consider boundaries as well.

[laly520]

u aren't wrong n I would break up if I were u