Do you believe that dating apps are useless for the majority of people?

[Simslover92]

[MrOracle]

If your goal is to find a real relationship, they are worse than pure random chance. That's because people don't use them to find relationship partners. Men mostly use them to find casual sex partners (with varying degrees of success - mostly the top guys getting nearly all of it and almost every other guy getting ignored or used), and the women are all trying to find unicorn men who are perfect in every possible way (tall, handsome, wealthy, high-status, and loyal - a combination that does not exist in real life), and who somehow would pick her over the millions of other options such a man would have.

If a real relationship is your goal, than dating apps are a total waste of time. Remember this as well - successfully connecting couples would go AGAINST the business model of a dating site. They NEED you to be single and desperate, because people in happy couples don't need a dating site. Their job is to bait you with JUST enough false hope to keep you around without ever connecting you to anyone you could successfully date. That's exactly the goal of their algorithms, and they spend many millions per year refining them.

[Pohjolan]

@MrOracle
The same people are not any less picky or more relationship oriented IRL and such men do exist.

[MrOracle]

There might be 2 or 3 men on the planet who meet her requirements, but that doesn't mean any of them will be interested in her. Men like that have almost unlimited options, and will usually choose a woman who is younger, warmer, more family oriented, and less difficult.

[Pohjolan]

@MrOracle
I know at least one guy like that. His wife is at least a 9 though.

[MrOracle]

Exactly. But most of these women are average looking, are usually in their 30s or older, have divorces, kids, or high body counts. They think they are high value because they have experience, but that's exactly what makes them low-value, especially to a highly desirable man.

[HawkPerception]

The last 2 long term relationships I found were on dating apps. And they were good girls. One on Bumble and one on Hinge.

The thing is, women have made themselves unapproachable these days. I won't say all, but a good number of them are.

Dating apps are trash, especially for men, but you can still find someone once in a blue moon. Men have a lot more issues with it than women though.

You have to realize that dating apps are just a reflection of the actual population. In the population, there are a percentage of people who only want sex and a percentage of them who don't have the qualities you want in a partner. Your job is always to filter through them to find a suitable partner.

There's a phrase I heard recently that I like... dating apps for men are like trying to find clean drinkable water in the middle of the desert and dating apps for women are like trying to find clean drinkable water in a swamp. Both are highly unlikely. It implies men don't have anything to work with, and women have a lot to work with, but such a small percentage of good men that they tend to overlook.

[Finchie40]

Yes, I tried some dating apps and I felt like it was a waste of time , most people on dating apps are just looking for sex , Or they are a catfish pretending to be someone they aren’t , Or a spammer trying to get money from you , so to actually meet someone off the internet that is legit looking for a real connection is hard to come by , why it’s best to meet someone in public instead of the internet , not saying you can’t meet someone off the internet it’s just a slim chance , because most people on the internet lie about who they truly are , or keep things secret , some of the girls I did meet off of the internet were married or already in a relationship cheating on their partner with me , telling me they were single when really they weren’t , the same thing can happen in public but it’s easier to spot if someone is lying to you or not , by seeing their face expressions and their body language. Why I prefer meeting girls’ in public instead

[ohsheeT]

I've never been on one.. so it's hard to say. But my friends are on a fewband of course they have to brag and from what they say it's like a meat market.

And I dont reall want to get cought up in that kinda drama. Because that's what it would end up being

What someone needs to do is get some thing like GaG going but. Add dating because if you think about it. We dont really know who each other is but at least you have some invite to them because of the way they answer or ask question..

Gag. Made in to a pets game to

Or now that I've thought about it maybe not. Lmao

[AviatorTom]

Not at all. Dating apps and dating sites are what people make of it. I met my wife on a dating site, and I know several couples (some married, some in long-term relationships) who met on a dating app/site.

Is it for all people? Probably not, but I'm pretty sure most people can have a useful time on a dating app/site, if they want to do that.

[OlderAndWiser]

No, I believe that most people make no effort to understand dating sites and how to maximize their chances of success when using those sites. I am married to a woman I met online.

[boundless]

I think the more unattractive you are as a person, the more they will benefit you. If you are attractive all you have to do is go somewhere and people fawn over you left and right... Yet as an attractive person on the internet people will treat you like dirt and claim you're a liar because you are truthful. Yet under average people that lie and Photoshop themselves will get attention and praise on the internet even if it leads nowhere. It's weird. The internet seems to be addicted to bullshit and can't accept truth when it hits them in the face.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

For a lot of people, dating apps feel useless but not because they can’t work.

It’s because most people use them in a way that drains them.

Endless swiping.

Surface level choices.

Mixed intentions.

People treating matches like entertainment instead of actual connection.

When that’s the energy, of course it feels empty.

But dating apps aren’t the problem by themselves.

They’re just a tool and tools reflect the person using them.

If someone knows who they are, what they want, and how to show up with intention, apps can work.

If not, they become noise.

So no, they’re not useless.

They’re just not built for people who want depth without effort.

[RavVid]

Dating apps are bad for the majority of people. They hit cognitive biases in the human brain very well.

Without them we tend to chose from a third of potential mates. We would not choose the first even though the first up my be superior. We want to check what else is out there. After a while of meeting potentials we become inclined to cut to the chase and narrow down the mate search. The search takes effort.

However dating apps make it easy to search and we get dopamine hits that keep us searching. And our gender preference gets a vote too. So even though you find someone who delights you they possibly feel if the keep scrolling they will do better.

There is a good chance this never finishes.

[RxR0954]

Useless in which way? As in getting dates? Getting laid? Finding a long term partner? I wouldn’t say it’s useless, it depends on the person using the app. cuz you really can’t force people to like you, it gotta be up to how you present yourself. I actually met my partner through HER (a queer dating app).
Finding friends on friending apps is even harder since people aren’t that motivated to make friends and do platonic things, but i did it, so yea i’d say it really depends on us individually. Cuz i for sure remembering younger me struggling with it, but also because back then i didn’t have a lot of social skills.

[BCRanger10]

I think that in the era of social media domination, with clicks, views, likes, special features, the dopamine rushes that come from them all that, then the rather utilitarian view that people have of relationships these days, I think that there's a huge risk of them being counter-productive.

[Zack-Bann]

Most people say that because they have high expectations


They think an app is a “click and fuck” type of deal


It’s not


It’s just a social platform


You need to socialize the same way you do anywhere else


Dating is dating, app or not

[OneViewpoint]

I don't know about useless but, they are a minefield of scammers, liars, and bullshit in general. I tried it once upon a time. It was a waste of time I wasn't willing to put up with. I went back to meeting women face to face. Much better, more fun, and more reliable for me.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

I think they're actually great. But I haven't been there for years..

The only problem there is too many options, then you'd doom scroll the messages, until you get exhausted and not like anyone in the end. 😂 I'd still recommend an organic way of meeting of people, makes it special.

[CherryLove007]

https://www.facebook.com/reel/848965831000643

[CherryLove007]

me say so, and this reel also agrees too.

[Simslover92]

Wow that was very informative!

[emeraldsaphire]

I've not used them in a hot minute, but I did use them to get my fair share of hook ups back in the day. I don't know if they are still any good, and I don't know what the experience for guys would be like

[Still-alive]

They just seem to be terrible for guys cause anytime i saw a woman on there i really liked i have to compete with a ton of other dudes going after her too. it can be real difficult to standout. and it does seem like you gotta have a good solid picture up to have any chance at getting a reply back.

I may try it again but not sure it's really worth the trouble. i have heard people finding love on there but it seems like it doesn't happen as often in my view.

[msc545]

I think that for the majority of men, dating apps are completely useless. They may be useful for some women in that they get a lot of attention even if they aren't particularly attractive. But I think in the end women feel dissatisfied with dating apps as well. The only people that dating apps are probably useful for are the people that make the money from them, and they make quite a bit of money as it turns out.

[FreyaRed]

Here in my country, for sure. Girls in specific profession who work out of private apartments flood dating sites with their proposals. When you don't look like sister of Quasimodo guys will think you're one of them.

[Nikki1989]

It is well known they are largely a scam to lure the lonely and desperate to hand over money in the exchange of the delusion they will meet someone.

[Abbycado]

I’ve never tried one. I haven’t heard great things from those that have.

[Simslover92]

Yeah my experience hasn't been the best with them so far. I took a hiatus for a bit but I'm going to give it one more chance.

[Abbycado]

Hope it works out for you! You deserve it.

[Simslover92]

Thank you so much! 😊

[Abbycado]

You betcha, girl!! 💕

[RedTiefling]

If you're a guy then yes they're useless.

If you're a gal theyre slightly less useless.

These apps are designed to keep you there and engaging with the app.

[lightbulb27]

yes, for most it's easier to get a root canal than have success online. For best success, hire a professional marketer to help if there are such people.

[Joshydavid25]

Not necessarily, there are people who have found relative success on dating apps.. But ultimately meeting people IRL is much better, because many people look better when you see them moving than in pictures and with just a few words..

[Spencer10]

Yes I do. Especially women. So many jerks out there its very frustrating. I would strongly recommend the real world. Go out and have experiences and meet cool people along the way.

[PeachyPie93]

Pretty much.. You can meet good people once in a blue moon but its boring to go through all of it to weed out people.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Dating apps are like a game of golf sometimes you just can putt however sometimes you get a hole in one or land in a sand trap.

[slatyb]

One worked for my wife and me. After divorcing, it would have been quite difficult for me to find compatible women without online dating.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes unless you want to hook up. With the caveat that I’ve never used them, just heard friends’ experiences.

[jazzy34]

No. Many people meet their significant others on dating apps. I hear the dating apps in which you have to pay are of better quality.

[Shiprex]

Yes, they are a way to create a persona that doesn't necessarily match the reality.

[YourExLover69]

Dating apps are useless for me at least I know this. Never worked for me. I believe you are right as well.

[MJVillarama]

Not useless, but they work better if you’re clear on what you want and put in effort, otherwise it’s easy to get frustrated.

[douride2]

in my opinion dating apps are useless scams.

[SoccerPlayer99]

Yes. It gives women a delusional outlook on life and it doesn't help men build confidence. Men need to learn how to accept rejection in person.

[Xawyx-2]

Yes, I believe so, at least in my experience.

[MannMitAntworten]

They are less dating apps and more ‘tryst’ apps. If someone is looking to scratch their itch …

[ABC1x1x]

I have never tried one. The concept alone seems counter productive. You can only meet people of potential the natural way.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I 100% believe this. Don't use dating apps if you are gonna pay to use them. Its a money pit

[scott04sa22]

Dating apps are nothing but "endless rigid buffets" 😂

[sage2021]

Aren't some of them really sex apps?

[Simslover92]

I think that's just Tinder and Grindr.

[JamesDylan1990]

Yes they either live too far or end up not wanting to hang out.

[Chazmatazz269]

Yuppers

[itsannalee]

Not really, it works well for hookers

[jkreuger95]

Most people I would say so

[Alex-Snow]

I have never had to use one so I can't say.

[dudeinohio]

I dont think so, if you pick the right app.

[Jennz6]

I don’t like dating apps either

[Xalooo]

There are many scammers

[Nice222]

I never used them or ever would use them.

[Iron_Man]

Yes I do

[nawtee_me]

Yes I do

[PeterLegg91]

Wouldn't say useless

[Titlover01]

Yes I do