Is a coffee first date too cheap or totally acceptable?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

If it’s a first date….. perfectly reasonable. If someone is too good for that then they can find someone who will put up with their bullshit. Especially if they want to pick a place to go but don’t want to pay….

If it’s a first date last thing I want is to feel stuck with someone or for someone to feel stuck with me if the date isn’t going well. If the date goes super well we can not only plan a new one but can also chat for as long as we want or go do something after.

It’s about getting to know someone and if someone’s too set on doing something bougie they’re probably super entitled and using you.

BCRanger10 · Accepted Answer

No. I think a coffee first date is perfectly fine, especially if you're younger. The worst thing that happens if things don't go anywhere is you're out a few bucks and an hour.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

When you don''t know someone well, why plan an expensive dinner date? Go out for breakfast, lunch or coffee. Short dates that it's easy to exit from and occur during the day. If you want to spend more time after coffee, go for a walk in a nearby park. The fact that it's during the day gives you more options to continue the date if the first part goes well. And no one's out a lot of money if it all goes South.

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

Nah, especially if it's the first time meeting up.

Personally I would prefer a walk in the park or something like that.

But I do like something easy and low effort as a first date.
That's where you can see if there's interest.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

“Cheap” is only a factor if the people involved are looking for a financial arrangement.
Dating is supposed to be about finding compatible mates and ultimately love. So any environment and activity that the two mutually agree upon is perfectly acceptable.
In this day and age, there are better ways for shallow men and gold diggers to find each other. If they’re still using “dating” as a facade they’re probably players, or morons.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I prefer tea, I have been on a couple of tea dates before but majority of my first dates were more intentional, I rarely answer to messages so to secure a place, they mostly invited me on a dinner. For example three of my past 3 first dates were dinners. But sometimes I suggest a tea myself. I already treat myself to restaurants everyday, so something lowkey feels better.

Account · Answer

It is fine and acceptable. You are getting to know each other. I don't consider it "cheap" lol.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's fine, unless the person asking for the date makes their date pay for the coffee. 🤔

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

A date is a date & when it comes to a coffee date it’s a great place for two individuals to have a little meet & greet & slowly get to know each other. On the flip side grabbing a coffee to go & walking is a park isn’t a bad idea either & if it’s a nice day maybe two hearts will connect. A coffee first date isn’t cheap & if the person you ask out on a date doesn’t like the idea or thinks it’s cheap you are better off without them.

If the individual you ask out on a date isn’t a coffee drinker have a backup plan.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It is fine. In fact I think it is a great first date just to get to know each other. Back when the internet was still very new, I would meet local women on AOL chatrooms. I did not use dating sites then. (There were not very many dating sites then anyway.) Usually I'd meet with them in the late morning for coffee. If I felt that we hit it off fairly well, I'd invite her to a restaurant for lunch. LOL I have to laugh. There was a particular Japanese restaurant that I really liked and usually I'd meet with them there after coffee. The owner/waitress thought I was some sort of stud because I came through with so many different women. It was much easier meeting women online BEFORE the dating sites were much of a thing.

slatyb · Answer

When I was dating online, I quickly learned to keep the first meeting short. Meeting for coffee is a good start. If it goes well, we can extend the date to lunch or dinner. If it doesn't, then it's over in fifteen minutes.

If I am having a first date with someone I have known for a while, then I will suggest dinner because I know it won't be a disaster.

Dave8828 · Answer

I think it is totally acceptable to have a coffee date, it’s a chance to sit and get to know someone better.
If the person you would like to date only want or is insistent on a high priced dinner or outing for the first date, this could be a red flag. Are they interested in you or what you can give them.
BUT if your the person that likes big expensive fist dates that’s fine too.

Theunfadeable · Answer

It’s only too cheap if you’re going out with a prostitute. Date is to see if a woman is actually worth investing time and money in. Coffee dates are perfect for any woman who’s there because she’s interested in getting to know you. a coffee date only a problem for women who don’t like you like that and they’re looking for someone to simp. a woman who is interested in getting to know you won’t care at all where you go because she actually likes being around you.

NoDecision · Answer

Acceptable! That way if the date is not going well you don't lose $50 on a dinner to bow out before you finish it..

HighValue · Answer

An arcade would be better. Playing games with someone can really reveal some of their personality traits.

Alia_Czechgirl · Answer

It's perfectly fine. In my country, the standard term for a first meeting invitation is "Come and have coffee with me." Even though it may not be just coffee

jshm2 · Answer

The purpose is the conversation - not the location.

It could be a local park, or sitting in a garbage dumpster - the questions and reading each others vibes, will often be the same.

The "location" often is just a prop.

Staximus · Answer

It's low effort, low commitment, low risk. I'm not so broke that I can't afford to take a girl to a restaurant, it doesn't have to be a fancy one

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

I'm not a woman, so I will just leave an opinion, not to skew the poll. Yes, it's perfectly fine. In fact, I don't believe there to be a better atmosphere for a first date than a café.

RandomGirl42 · Answer

It's fine if they add coffee brandy to it! 🤣

Bricealan · Answer

@robocop666 If I am interested enough in a woman to want to go out with her, I would show enough class to take her to dinner.

Anonymous · Answer

It's fine, why not? It ia the gesture. If she does not honor, forget about her. She will always have expensive expectations. Maybe thats a good test...

MrChinaski · Answer

Coffee is a 30 minute commitment. It's a chance to get to know each other a tiny bit without pressure. There is a place for that.

queenofcardio · Answer

I drink it everyday. So it's not my preference.

Sal_Monella · Answer

Any female that declines that is one you didn't want.

jazzy34 · Answer

Fine with me. Then again, I’m not high maintenance. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Kelley1 · Answer

Coffee or anything to have a reason to talk and get acquainted.

Levin · Answer

Not for the queens of GaG! Only the moon for chu queens!

foxsquirrell · Answer

Totally acceptable. If some whore wants to gold dig she can go elsewhere.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Totally acceptable to me. I love simplicity 😊 also fruit juice or falooda can be awesome as well.

TheLimeNan · Answer

For a first date to see if you click absolutely acceptable

LiamJHayden · Answer

It is wise. Why drop $200 or more on a first meet up with someone who might hate you?

Qurio · Answer

If she’s not fine with that then she can get lost

LC75LC71 · Answer

It could be a nice start to a walk and talk.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

It's cheap, but acceptable for struggling lads seeking to impress a lady.

MissSunshine2 · Answer

It sounds fine to me even smart 😊

Abbycado · Answer

I think it’s totally fine.

NathanDavis · Answer

why would you ever get cheap coffee...

Xawyx-2 · Answer

I think it's completely acceptable.

888theGreat · Answer

really cheap I don't drink coffee

Qiero · Answer

Totally acceptable and fine

Anonymous · Answer

Coffee dates are the best first dates ever ☕☕☕

Jeff51 · Answer

Seems cheap

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