Do you actually need to kiss on a first date to secure a second date?

Question

People keep saying you do and it’s the only way to get a second date but my experience says otherwise

Lliam · Accepted Answer

It's not necessary but it sure is a good sign. A tender peck on the lips is certainly better than a hand shake.

All my relationships started off fairly quickly. They all acted like ladies but they weren't scared, shrinking violets. If we liked each other, we didn't play mind games. I never had to court a girl. They let me know that they liked me.

Sometimes when walking with a girl after a first date, we would hold hands. Or she would walk close so that I could put my arm around her waist or shoulder. These things indicated that she was comfortable with me and wasn't averse to physical touch. It meant that there was relationship potential.

Often, when saying goodbye after a first date, she would gaze at me in a way that invited a kiss.

After one first date, I walked the lady to her door like a gentleman. As I stood on the next step down, she turned, gazed up into my eyes, then stepped forward, put her hands on top of my shoulders, rose up on her tip toes, and gave me a tender, lingering kiss on the lips that made my head spin.

My future wife did the same thing. I walked her to her car after dinner. She opened her door, then turned, stepped forward, and kissed me tenderly on the lips.

When women did things like that, it guaranteed that we would see each other again. And those kinds of women became steady girlfriends.

Theunfadeable · Accepted Answer

No, but I’m nott getting too excited about going on a dates with a woman who’s not willing to kiss me.🤣. I’ve already seen the posts from women saying they don’t kiss on the first date but from what I’ve seen women damn they’re always break from their so-called rules and standard as soon as they encounter a guy they really find attractive.. so a kiss is not a necessity for a next date it kisses a barometer for whether or nott you should be on the date in the first place and whether or not you’re wasting time

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

A light peck on the lips or the cheek is fine, but none is obligatory. "Thank you, it was lovely, let's do it again," is far more important.

Kissing is pretty personal and indicative of more to come and something more sexual. I don't think I'd want to send that message on a first date when I know, literally nothing about a person.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I've never kissed on a first date. I was raised to believe that wasn't appropriate. The one almost-exception was a date where we lost track of time so our walkabout ended early the following morning and he tried to tease me that it was actually a second date. Very silly, but very tempting too. He was a sweetie pie about it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Helen and I did not kiss on our first date. She is now my wife.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I don't think most women want to be kissed on the first date, just from talking to women over the years. I think in all of my dating, the last time I kissed a woman on the first date was way back in college and the situation called for it. Other than that I don't think the dynamic was right for it.

emeraldsaphire · Answer

Well it depends on what the other person expects. If they need physical intimacy to develop when forming a connection then yes. I'll be honest I can't think of many first dates where I didn't kiss them. It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me if we didn't, if anything it would make them more mysterious.

Zack-Bann · Answer

From personal experience, all my second dates came from having kissed the girl on the first.

And any long term relationship came from having sex on the first date even.

But I’m single now after many failed ones so that’s to taken with a grain of salt

Daniel707 · Answer

I think kissing too fast is a red flag. A first date is getting to know someone to see if you even want a second date. It shouldn’t be pressured a coffee date works fine for a first date because neither person is pressured. I don’t want someone forced to be with me and I don’t want to be forced to be with someone else.

I have standards but I also try not to expect anything on a first date positive or negative it’s about the moment. It may work it may not

Master_Debator · Answer

I thought it was fucking... A kiss... mmmm maybe, but I'd have to be really desperate. But fucking usually gets me that second date the most.

bobalife · Answer

Nope. Everyone has their own preferences and comfortability. I would prefer not to but there has been exceptions. I also don’t like pressure of a kiss on a first date.. even if it’s going well. I don’t think most women with experiences prefer it either. It’s more about getting to know each other in my opinion.

slatyb · Answer

I started dating online after divorcing. If I enjoyed the date, I didn't care if there was a kiss and I never asked for one. I figured that if she wanted to be kissed she would let me know by making it easy to kiss her. This worked surprisingly well. The same for sex. By asking for nothing I got everything.

WhitneySnow · Answer

You don’t need to. Sometimes you feel like kissing on the first date, a lot of times you don’t. Doesn’t mean it was a bad date.

lilBigPotato · Answer

It's not necessary but obviously nice if it happens.

RavVid · Answer

I wouldn't a handshake to end the night and wouldn't invite again. If there was a perfunctionary kiss on the cheek or a hug or both I'd invite again.

CriminallyInsane · Answer

Not at all. But if I wanted one after the first date it's safe to say I want a second one

Elliegirl · Answer

A kiss on the first date isn’t necessary, but if the date is really good a kiss is the cherry on top

BCRanger10 · Answer

I never believed in kissing on the first date. That always for after confirming the relationship.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Any decent man will at the very least give his date a goodnight kiss, even if it is just a peck on the cheek.

queenofcardio · Answer

It's not necessary. I prefer it to just happen naturally.

NathanDavis · Answer

I think you watch way too many movies... just go on dates yourself... and find out

dudeinohio · Answer

My experience says yes. But my generation kissed on first date.

Hunter-40m · Answer

I always guaranteed a Kiss on my first date and second third fourth followed but I didn't do that to secure a thing I just didn't go slow

dragoblack · Answer

Yes & no. Usually people like to at least have a kiss if things went well, to see if it feels right. If you both want to take it slow, it can wait, but no later than 3rd date.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I don’t kiss on the first date, even if it’s a good date and I want to see him again. It’s too soon for that.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

No, but it definitely helps. Bonus if you gave her a really good 🍆 🔥 on the first date!

CountryWanderer · Answer

No. Source: We didn't, and we're now married.

exitseven · Answer

No, i have had first dates that did not include a kiss.

Med_guy1978 · Answer

I think go with the flow but I can definitely wait if that's how the cookie crumbles...

Anonymous · Answer

I'd sure find it an extra plus 👀😋 I mean otherwise it feels like I attended a job interview instead of attending a hot date 💐😈🌹

Likes2drive · Answer

Never did and it’s too awkward actually but still got second dates

Anonymous · Answer

The problem for guys is, for some women a kiss on the first date is an expectation, and for others it's a red flag.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

There isn't one definitive answer that will fit for everyone. People should do what works best for them, and not worry about anyone else

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I have to get at least a BJ in the car on the first date, or there won't be a second.

Godihateyou · Answer

If I didn't get my dick sucked there won't even be a first date

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure, I never had a date, or a kiss.

Sammy226 · Answer

On a first date I wouldn't expect a kiss at the end but if it happened I wouldn't pull away.

beenherebefore · Answer

Absolutely NOT.

MrChinaski · Answer

Ewwww... cooties!

Alex-Snow · Answer

No but a kiss is a good start!

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't kiss on the first date

karlaatsd · Answer

Maybe it would be good but no

TeaTheresa · Answer

Definitely not.

Zionne · Answer

No you don't

theskyrider · Answer

Not at all

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