What are your non negotiables when dating?

[Smileygirl2000]

[HawkPerception]

Must not be a liberal, a feminist (in this day and age anyways), entitled, narcisstic, or materialistic.

And these are not must haves but more like ideals:

Adventurous and love nature, feminine and like to dress that way, care about her body and appearance and consistently put effort into it, able to converse about deep topics and intellectually curious, easygoing, low-maintenance, empathetic and kind, prefers that I take the lead and has absolute trust and has faith in me.

[Lliam]

I would be turned off by:
Tattoos, weird piercings and strange hair color (s)
Too much makeup and overly sculpted eyebrows
Materialism
Alcoholism or drug problems
Rudeness
Poor communication skills
Non-standard vernacular such as AAVE
Strong political ideology
Strong religious beliefs
Pride in virginity and insistence on sex only after marriage
Sluttiness or prudishness

[PeachyPie93]

No Substance abuse..
No smoking
No ugly men
No seeing where things go.. if someone doesn't want to be serious off the bat, I ain't gonna waste my time getting to know them.
No negging
No to people who jokingly say mean shit to me
No female best friends
No mamas boys
No men who think all the child and house duties are woman's work only
No men who think they "own" me
No violent men
No passive aggressive men

[Smileygirl2000]

This !!! Lol

[Smileygirl2000]

The "seeing where things go" is a way to waste our time. The mean jokes are a way to break our confidence and be condescending

[DreamCrescent]

what’s negging?

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer If I'm working.. are they also not his children too, is he also not a parent and partner? If I have to take care of them alone and pick up after his ass like he's a child and I'm a single mother then why wouldn't I just be a single mother, work, and get child support and not have to deal with the cock sucker? It's a lot less work and expectation to do it alone.. You whingey bitch grow up and be a man, because how you behave you will never get a wife let alone anyone dumb enough to breed with you lol.

[PeachyPie93]

@DreamCrescent Negging is an act of emotional manipulation where someone uses subtle insults or backhanded compliments disguised as flirtation. The goal is to deliberately undermine the target's confidence so they feel insecure and become more eager to seek the manipulator's validation and approval.

[PeachyPie93]

@Smileygirl2000 yeah i'm not even putting up with it anymore at this point..

[Smileygirl2000]

@PeachyPie93 I'm not either. There was a time I used to try to figure it out like why would a guy be like this towards me. Now I've realized that's their own baggage

[PeachyPie93]

@Smileygirl2000 Yeah they aren't worth worrying about these days

[Smileygirl2000]

Lol 😆 they really aren't. I don't know what happened to real men like my grandpa @PeachyPie93

[rini02]

@PeachyPie93 couldn't agree more...

[MrChinaski]

@PeachyPie93 Strangely, apart from the romantic connotations and goals of ill-gotten sex, negging is basically all of Australian humour. We mock each other continuously.

[PeachyPie93]

@MrChinaski That's interesting lol.. For me I lived with someone like that who just constantly joked and tore me down and it never got better or stopped. So now I'm just completely uninterested in that type of behavior in a partner, it absolutely turns me off.

[Chen1994]

Respect and understanding

[Mark_Est]

Who hurt you?

[PeachyPie93]

@Mark_Est Take a guess..

[Mark_Est]

Daddy?😅

[PeachyPie93]

@Mark_Est Good guess but no, my dad loves me. It probably has to do with the fact that men out in the world around my age who I have talked with are mostly all pieces of shit.. I just have waaay less patience or tolerance then I used to. Plus I have no reason to be nice, want to get to know or date one of you swamp creatures again unless they are worth my time.. if not, a dildo will suffice since that's basically all men these days have to offer anyway.

[Mark_Est]

You do sure sound like a ball of fun men want to run to play with.

Perhaps you are getting treated this way cause good men dont want you and only some dudes who look for easy ass do.

You sound masculine and also a modern woman. Yet you want traditional treatment. doesn't really work this way.

Modern women get modern dudes, modern relationships (hookups, flings, one nighters, sitationships.

Traditional men look for traditional women (feminine, virgin) for traditional relationships (marriage).

While modern people try to mimic traditional relationships they ultimately fail cause they dont have the required values.

[PeachyPie93]

@Mark_Est Bro, I was married to the guy I lost my virginity to for 15 fucking years (and he treated me like shit).. Don't act like you know me.. I also only hung out with one guy after him and he was a waste of time, I haven't fucked anyone and haven't really been dating but I do talk to guys online enough to know I don't wan them.

[Jessica405]

No smoking, no tattoos, no piercings, no wife or girlfriend

[usernameobvious]

@Jessica405 sounds very spookily similar to me :) lol devilishly 😈

[DishLady]

Don't waste my time. Don't flirt with my friends. Don't presume I'm flirting with anyone if you're my guy.

DO be kind and honest with me at all times and I'll do the same. DO be respectful of my heart, time and priorities and I'll do the same.

Simple.

[AviatorTom]

I only had two non-negotiables. She had to be female and not married.

[jennifer_bloom]

Micromanaging rage over behavioural mistakes or shortfalls.

[Anonymous]

Being clear and honest.

First, the process. And I guess this is the actual question.
Which I believe I share half the responsibility to handle the other person of testing, examining, and analyzing them.

Secondly [subjective per person], if about the person: then
• having to prove fundementals of goodness/being moral + willingness to improve and have a meaning/purpose in life (due to my standards.. which essentially are those of my religion, where I and nobody except God has absolute power over and I and they absolutely respect and follow too; strictly based on awareness and not blindly).
Imperfections and shortages within this are totally fine, as long as they have made them clear in general.. even slightest -but clear- indications for issues are accepted. Just willing to learn and grow.
• If not being clear; mature, and not willing to improve.. then I have no need of their existance as a partner, and maybe even as a person.

So they are required of: Proving those (subjective per person conditions) by actions/decisions. Which again is my responsibility to know how to "make" the exams and thiers is to answer as clearly as possible. And vice versa.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Can't be a smoker, can't have expectations of sex if they do end up convincing me to let him/her pay (I would rather just split the bill), must be good with kids and must have a sense of humor. That's mostly about it or at least the major ones.

[Nikki1989]

That must show good personality, kindness and compassion, respect, intelligence, a sense of humour, honesty and integrity, good communication skills, and shared interests and values. Anything else is just a bonus.

[Zack-Bann]

Has to be a “she” since birth and every day since then.


She can have whatever beliefs and opinions she wants but if she insists on changing mine I’m gone. I have no interest of being taught anything on someone else’s time, I do my own self teaching.

[Alex-Snow]

I will not go out with a girl who smokes cigarettes, had poor hygiene and who is mean to other people

[sage2021]

@Alex-Snow

It's kind of ironic that people who won't be around someone who smokes cigarettes 🚬 are the same people who smoke marijuana!

[damaster]

If she is an atheist, too many tattoos, constantly overstepping boundaries, lacks accountability, constant smoker & drinker (alcohol), disrespectful in general & rude to others, bad hygiene, cheater, constant liar, her words don't line up with her actions (especially if she has a pattern of this), doesn't want kids, & uses drugs

[InStrictConfidence]

Without a job & don't want to work

Criminal (steal, drugs...)

Cheater

Dirty

Material - money to live us important, don't like those who define themselves only through money and to look rich. Really poor...

Brutal & aggressive

[Agape93]

Loyalty, non controlling and don't hurt my loved ones. Disloyal, we're done. Controlling? We're done. Hurt my loved ones? You're dead.

[Phunk_Fenomenon]

dating itself.

dating is for losers. I'm not gonna waste my time and money taking out and feeding a random bimbo for free just so she can either ghost me or find other ways to continue exploiting me in the future

[MissSunshine2]

Kindness, intelligence and being nonracist and preferably being politically incorrect. Someone loyal who likes animals and trusts me and isn't possessive or jealous because I have guy friends who are like brothers to me.

[Bricealan]

@Smileygirl2000 No smoking, no tattoos, no piercings, no wife or girlfriend.

Sounds like a good list to me! ONLY NO HUSBAND OR BOYFRIEND

[CherryLove007]

A man child.

Snoring

Drugs/Drinking

Dumb

[CherryLove007]

these too
no Homeless, wrap sheet, wife beater, temper, pathological liar, someone who hates dog's

[Anonymous]

lazy or unambitious men are the biggest turn offs for me. Followed by cheating, dishonesty, manipulativeness. All these things are IMMEDIATE disqualifiers

[beenherebefore]

Lying/omitting and hiding important stuff.

[beenherebefore]

@Mark_Est my Partner sees me without makeup every single day.

[Smileygirl2000]

@Mark_Est that's a very odd comparison.

[Smileygirl2000]

@beenherebefore I blocked him

[beenherebefore]

I noticed he likes to bash women and decided not to interact with him.

[Smileygirl2000]

@beenherebefore he's a miserable troll and most likely a red pill andrew tate loving Cornball who can't get a girlfriend to save his life. Lol he's annoying and constantly harrassing women on my post

[HighValue]

No liberals. That covers most things I will not tolerate based on how most of them behave and their morals.

[Anonymous]

I'm open minded to most things. The only real hardline I have is I eventually need them to exist in a certain place in my mind. If she isn't there or I can't see her getting there, I would decide to end the relationship for both our sakes.

[molonski2]

NO FAT CHICKS , goes without saying..

And that they are not abusing substances.

[Med_guy1978]

I get put off by piercings, tattoos and drugs. Extreme jealousy and some other negative traits come with low emotional intelligence so I'm always looking out for that.

[ProbablyClueless]

Respect and consideration of each partner's interests. A basic level of interest and enthusiasm about being together.

[jamesgoldman]

*No hard drugs or cigarettes
*Older
*Not liberal or anything that would entail
*Intelligent

[najekim]

Have to be upright and breathing with more than 2 brain cells.

[Smileygirl2000]

😂😂

[DirtyOldMan777]

as a Dom. I have a list. good thing my wives both met every one. Or at least they were changed enough to fill that list.

[Twalli]

I will not wait for marriage for sex, I do not want to reproduce (and made sure I can't), she needs to be able to be 100% open and talk to me about issues she's having.

[Xoirwinkan]

The biggest red flag a woman can show me is saying she never wants kids. Her motherly instinct has been seriously damaged somehow, I'm out.

[scott04sa22]

I have no rigid checklist but as long she has emotional safety, mutual chemistry, trust and respect on her partners.

[Staximus]

No meth, heroin, coke, crack, fentanyl, pills, no getting drunk all the time, no dating or having sex with other people, no religious women

[Anonymous]

Smoking, Excessive Drinking (alcohol) Drugs, Tattoos, Piercings, No Female Partner.

[LC75LC71]

Paying for the date. Best ones I've been on were absolutely free as nice walk and talks.

[Anonymous]

No liberals, no feminists. Everything else is negotiable.

[ThisSiteSux]

They can't have a dick. They can't be Democrat. They can't like Taylor Swift

[lessthansane]

She has to be an equal in lost categories and must not have a penis

[derick01]

No drug addict. Other men in her life. And she needs to be grown the hell up.

[Anonymous]

She has to be dominant and take initiative. If she is my type, I'll accept.

[MariaEve]

Hygiene. I can’t stand any bad smells.

[AngryCarl3]

She has to be a woman, 18-40.

[exitseven]

No drugs.

[msc545]

No fat girls, no rude girls, no lateness.

[Jamie05rhs]

She has to communicate well.

[Soapsoaplady]

Own personal time

[noohair]

Negative attitude.

[Anonymous]

Flat butt I am gone.

[Paige2006]

No smokers

[Marissa4]

No smokers.

[Mark_Est]

Yeah, that is one of the worst habbits. And they just stink 24/7.

[andreasderjuengere]

Seafood

[Debby7810]

Not being supportive

[SkimmingDetective]

Disrespect

[Cidknee]

No dick.

[Jersey2]

Respect.

[straightmax12]

Video game time.