Do you think 🤔 good touch and bad touch should be taught at school 🎒?

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TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

'Good Touch' is BASICALLY what consensually feels good. 'Massage' is 'good touch'...
Society as a 3rd party intrusive interloper promulgates then interjects ITS 'Pollyanna' idealized 'censure'.

Prevalent society suppressed the Kent State University Psych Dept's watershed 'Pedo/Hebo-philia
experiment on over 800 males of all ages & backgrounds. By use of a penile plethysmograph they determined despite overt protestation, 89% of all heterosexual males innately tumescently responded to erotic pre- and early teen imagery

The peer-reviewed scientific journal study (Behavior Therapy 26, 681-694, 1995), conducted by Kent State University, 1995 (Lori L. Oliver, Gordon C. Nagayama, Richard Hirschman) was conducted on a sample of normal (adult attracted) male volunteers using the "penile plethysmograph".

One does NOT need to teach a kitten what is 'good touch'...
if it doesn't want or enjoy it
they WILL unmistakably let YOU know and further, draw blood... if you persist!
If they DO like it... they will unmistakably solicit you by behavior, to CONTINUE ~
When a 6-7 yr old girl hops into your lap and idly grinds & fidgets... they NOT 'restless'
IT GUILTLESLY FEELS GOOD... a intuitive subconscious precursor of impending maturation
adults euphemistically term 'the electric slide' or 'dry humping'~
The natural "4H Club= Happy, Health, Horny, Heathens"

THAT, fuggin simple WITHOUT any further addendums or 3rd party opinions.

Luopio27 · Accepted Answer

All elementary schools teach to understand and communicate with one another. They teach us to be kind, grateful and equal to one another.

But somewhere in the lifeline something goes wrong as they grow up. Some become criminals, some create criminals with their actions, some profit from peoples failures, few become celebrities earning more money in a day than most people in their lives, and some become something else that becomes part of the mainstream of madness. Then there are also others that have done only good things and die to cancer.

What I am saying is, for example a former friend of mine could slap the ass of the smartest and prettiest girls in school has hard as he could and end up hearing nothing but joyful screams topped with smiles and laughter. This guy didn't need schools to teach when and how to tap that ass. If a guy who is very poor in understanding girls, said and did the same things, he would get charges of sexual harassment.

What I am saying, what we are thaught in schools and what kind of a world we are growing into, is like a paradox.

enbyofenvy · Accepted Answer

Love that one green circle. It bugs the shit outta me. They shouldn't teach thus to anyone, it encourages breaking boundaries. Not everyones ok with being touched in the same place or not at all. If they teach this to kids instead of just teachibg them to ask, their gonna assume its ok to grab their peers hand cause its "good touch".
For me, all those circles would be red. Whats so wrong or hard with simply teaching kids to seek consent first?

NicoletteXO · Accepted Answer

No - I think boundaries, self-confidence and emotional awareness should be taught in schools, alongside sexual education. "Bad touch" and "good touch" is a recipe for giving children a weird complex. What's more important is whether or not the touch is wanted, and how to navigate the situation. Also of course whether or not the person is old enough to consent to any form of sexual touch.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

This is a gross oversimplification.

Better approach: "Before you touch someone, examine yourself.

1. What is your intent for touching them?
2. Why in that specific location?
3. What is the purpose of choosing that location?
4. What could go wrong?
5. Will it be appreciated?
6. Does doing this show respect to the other individual, in relation to how they were made?"

That's not even getting into the uncomfortable religious implications: "Is this honoring the God who made him / her... AND you? Is this honoring the implications of their existence as being on loan from said God?"

Drill these in, and watch the bad touch rebels dwindle significantly in number. They will have no excuses left to proceed. And if they proceed anyway, then their behavior deficiency provides clues to what it is they're most lacking at home.

Simply flaunting zones on a diagram and calling it good is dodging the questions that matter entirely, in favor of a very lazy counter-approach that lets the diagram resorter pretend to be making a difference while doing less than the bare minimum. Moreover, a diagram like that only gives rebels a how-to guide on how to be even bigger bastards. So it has the chance to backfire spectacularly.

And now I'm probably gonna get accosted by whoever took the time to make the diagram, as they'll be unable to bear the fact that I just implied that the time they took to make that list was a few hours of their lives that they'd wasted.

PenkWing · Answer

Teaching about consent and appropriate approach to other kids' bodies is good to do at school.

The good touch / bad touch model is a bad way to teach it. Why don't we teach that people should check in with others before touching? Or avoid touching altogether if they are not sure? And teach how to have a conversation about consent?

The model is bad because it suggests that certain body parts are forbidden, which is harmful when you are growing up and learning to have a good relationship with your body. And it's bad because it suggests that certain types of touch should be accepted because they are "good", which makes it harder for a kid to say that they are uncomfortable with it.

I'm absolutely in favor of a better way to teach about communicating consent and comfort around touch. I've seen some better models proposed by therapists which could be adopted by schools and educators.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

I think that chart has everything mixed up. I think many kinds of touch on all those areas are "good" when done right. The main thing that I think should be taught would be more about consent and boundaries. Teaching kids to feel okay and empowered to say no when uncomfortable, and to ask permission and make sure others are comfortable with being touched.

Hiponit · Answer

I think a topic like this should start at home, and possibly be reinforced at school when a child’s behavior warrants it.
I think it’s important to differentiate between improper use of the hands and giving somebody a hug as well. Much easier to address at home with your own kids then for a teacher to address it with a class.

purplepoppy · Answer

Telling kids you can't touch a chest but you can a belly just means they'll run around hitting each other there. Kids parent dumb they instinctively know you don't grab each others genitals unless your playing rugby. Your just raising a generation afraid of human contact. b

anylolone · Answer

Nope, just teach biology.

"but kids don't know..." seriously, kids will complain about anything uncomfortable.
Kids, in general, don't care if it's or it isn't not ok to touch them there, they will feel the discomfort and will bitch about it as they should.

You should instead, as parent, not a teacher, teach them of how not to touch others and themselves in public, and you know what I mean. Of course, with patience because kids.

If you teach a kid "it's not ok to hub your groin on people" they will automatically know it's not ok for people to hub on their groin even if they like it.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

This is a job for parents and it’s important they teach it in adult terms.

use adult words for everything.

Teaching it as a group in class using the proper terms for body parts ends up farcical.

Parents cannot keep relying on schools to keep doing their bloody job for them.

cth96190 · Answer

No.
That is something that should be taught at home.
Any form of sex education at school is used by Democrats/Communists to indoctrinate children into weird perversions, dysfunction and degeneracy.
Consequently, schools cannot be trusted because teachers cannot be trusted.
FYI I have a degree in secondary education, teaching areas English and history.

Notstr8 · Answer

No not primary school as comfort is not the same for every body and it is a issue between two persons and not an arbetrator to judhge and embarass. Many are fine with touchy feely and some loath any contact from even partners... like spooners and those who hate being touched in bed each to his own... rules have no place being fprmalised its how we engage and leaern eticate its not a third person shaming and judging our fellow man by our feelings or superior authority!

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes I think manners should be taught at school because some parents don´t do that anymore or haven´t learned it themselves.
I think it shouldn´t be taught by being told rather in some in some partner work or group work where students come to talk with others about these kind of topics I don´t know how to work it out but I think it would be good so that boys and girls understand each other better.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Nah.  "Good" touches and "bad" touches vary on the individual being touched. When I was in school we were just taught "keep your hands to yourselves".  Simple.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I have an issue with the diagram. Are they allowing people to say what they like and don't like by filling in the colors themselves? Because that would work great for adults, but it wouldn't be appropriate for children. You can't let a kid say that it's okay to touch them on the butt; I'm pretty sure their parents would object to that.

CaliSixx · Answer

Finally someone brought this up. It's so crazy seeing little girls being taught not to go out at night. Or wear shorts, or skirts, or heels. Like. Can't we just teach people that consent is necessary and you shouldn't just touch whoever wherever

proNutro · Answer

No. No touch is good unless the person being touched is okay with it. I hated it in school when kids and even teachers would grab my arm. It made me extremely uncomfortable.

KingofCups · Answer

Safe touch zones on the body seems like a great place to start. Although I wish there was a better alternative to 'consent culture' because in reality it's making organic social interactions very awkward. I feel like kids just need more safe places to discover how interact spontaneously without being told they need to think like lawyers all the time. Sexuality and Friendship are both processes of discovery and exploration.

hahahmm · Answer

No because it just gives pedo teachers the opportunity to claim that they're the most trustworthy adult in the child's life. Parents are supposed to teach their kids to report pedos.

Birdlegs · Answer

No my school just said “don’t touch people” and that was that. if someone did anyway then they obviously didn’t care, teaching about “good and bad touch” won’t change anything because there will still be people who just don’t care.

sawno · Answer

No, with these extreme amount of immoral stuff going on at schools these days lets leave that up to the parents. We need to replace the school system in general.

Adam1978 · Answer

There is no such thing, it's about reading body language and not go straight to the privates. So what good/bad depends on who is doing what to whom. And isn't about where on the body it is.

Open2It · Answer

While manners and social protocol should be taught at home, many parents do not for various reasons. Like a lot of other responsibilities, it then falls upon others, including the school system, to make sure that they are at least offered to children to try and create a better and safer society.

hanony · Answer

He’s of course. I had this taught to my religion class but not in school classes. (Both religion and school classes were separated in different buildings, religion was taught once a week)

K-I-S-S · Answer

Nah, waste of time. Everybody knows where not to touch, they just choose to do it.  Because kids are too sheltered and protected these days, no real downsides or punishment, just slap on the wrist.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Nah just teach kids that if someone is touching them and keeps on touching them after they tell them to stop, then it's perfectly fine to punch them.

Ninani · Answer

All touch is bad touch without consent, really. You never know other people's boundaries.

dustybiker · Answer

Should already know this from a guardian before school age.

tatianamay · Answer

I thought all schools taught that? My school did, and my parents taught me as well

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

No because it’s COMMON sense. It’s common sense as to where it’s appropriate

Andres77 · Answer

I think it should be taught at home and reinforced in school. Parents should always be the first line of defense.

SnakeBoop · Answer

It should be taught at home from a fairly early age as soon as they can understand.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

I think it is. At least it was when I was in school. Not in erotic detail of course but in terms children and teens can understand.

Cherry234 · Answer

Yes definitely. People should know what appropriate and inappropriate touching are

Syrian_survivor · Answer

Fuck no, how hard is it for parents to tell their children about this and save all the unnecessary embarrassment and negative consequences and misunderstandings?

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Isn't that just sex Ed, I remember when I were living in Arizona, I attended a sex education lector but of course both the boys and girls were separated.

ElvenMr · Answer

I feel like this is common sense. Thinking back to school every kid knew to not touch others inappropriately.

I think if for some reason some kid did touch someone that way, then the teachers would handle it and that's it.

Wester1967 · Answer

Yea because i am sick of female supervisors feeling like it’s OK to feel up my butt. I’d be in jail the first time I pulled that on them

Anonymous · Answer

I’d probably consider any touch without consent bad touch. Teach kids about consent.

EternallyCorrect · Answer

Why would this need to be taught to normal kids? They know already.

TechUser1993 · Answer

It is a good idea to teach this in elementary school so kids will be very aware of it as they get older.

litty · Answer

There are elementary school children that are having sex. The good touch bad touch is the least of their worries.

OddBeMe · Answer

When kids have no real feelings for sex, though they’ve prob seen it on TV. And it’s where they develop future paraphilas…Yes, they should be learning this. And basic Sex Education.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

How about teaching them about the Birds and the Bees before they end up with being teen pregnancy

Eymurf · Answer

Absolutely, this is coming from an awkward 6 year old boy that had to learn by himself that the most respectful place to look at a woman was her eyes when having a conversation.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

It usually is instilled by your parents by the time you reach school.

Janessa2021 · Answer

No leave that to the parents cuz teachers think they slick and I will be in jail

Anonymous · Answer

No i dont think they are qualified to teach morality. Thats like saying sex is inherently bad. I think They should teach boundaries and respect instead

Friendlybro79 · Answer

I think kids should be taught that by their parents. If in school this should be a 5 min lesson.

AntiChrist66666 · Answer

i dont agree with chart mouth is good for girl and dong is good for guy

KrakenAttackin · Answer

How about you start by not using a bikini picture as a profile pic as you are still a child.

G5TWA1 · Answer

I don't think they would do a good job so no, it's a very personal thing, some people just don't like physical contact in general

Joshua0213 · Answer

No, because its the right situation any could be good. Its more about reading the person they need to know

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Are you suggesting that teachers should touch little kids genitals and say "this is a bad place to touch you?"

ChiPaPa · Answer

If anything, they should have learned that from their parents.

Wise4myage · Answer

That would be a very good idea, but it would probably be controversial as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes in school as some parents may not think it's important.

SarahP080102 · Answer

Shouldn't it be taught at home?

somerandomindianguy · Answer

I don't think so if it feels good it feels good. If it doesn't it doesn't.

Fuentes · Answer

Yes it should that really open'd my eyes to weirdos

Inthecraphole · Answer

Baby you are beautiful 😍❤ To answer your question, it should be largely taught from the parents.

Ravikumar472 · Answer

Yes it must teach and parents also must teach they childrens like how to behave with boys and girls. It's will create a new society in this world

Anonymous · Answer

since most white female teachers are being arrested for sexual misconduct with their students I think it already is

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