Why are managers so disrespectful towards young employees? Is it the same in most places?

[Anonymous]

It's my first full-time job. You can't expect me to be as good as an experienced employee and laugh at me when I ask questions some of my other employees don't have answers to. It is really disrespectful as a manager to laugh at your employee with other employees and tell them 'this guy is not from the real world' if I've barely graduated a prestigious uni with a high GPA. And I don't buy into this 'I am honest and I speak my mind with you. I am not a fake person' when I see how you bootlick other managers while you speak ill of them behind their back.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Dude... this is some real-life shit and in real life, most of these people just work their way up the ladder so they can be disrespectful to you on a bad day, when your Grandma just died. I'm not defending them... but it's just the way they are. ... let me insert a picture just for the AI.

People, in general, people are motivated by money, high grades, or some sort of other high achievements... but I've seen a lot of them just want to be the boss B and get a chance to hand out their own child abuse on others if that makes sense. Yes, they will do that boot-licking, two-faced, and hate the person they were just basically sucking on their genitals like a simp act... Behind their back of course. They're the majority. It's just a real sad truth you'll have to adjust to.

Supposedly, psychopaths only make up a small proportion of us, but I beg to differ. You know that song where the singer is like "It's a man's world" and all that? I'd say it's a psychopath's world. They might not kill you like one in the movies outright... but that's the majority of who we have to deal with day-to-day.

... like, you could be like me and just hit the weights... become so off-hinged that they're afraid to fuck with you... because they know you'll string their bodies up and play with them like puppets for hours before you coom on them and throw them in the trash... but there are other paths. Dealing with them is just half the battle.

[JustAsking2023]

Now you need to understand one thing...

GM
Manager
Supervisor trainer
General staff
New staff


With that the GM hires all the staff so when a new young team member is added you need to know where all the stress falls on to make sure they do there job right and that's the Manager. Yes the GM will add you to the team but all other managers will have extra work to make sure all things are done right.

One more thing to remember is that most young 16-18 year olds first job never works out do to the fact they are not ready to devote there life/time to their job. And partying is more important.

But how you can prove yourself to them and earn their support and kindness is devote yourself to doing the Best job ever and better then others. Give your 110% no 1/2 fast job. At first ask them "I finished doing ___ can you check my work just incase I missed anything?" Most managers will not mind but remember what you missed and do not miss it again the next time you ask. After a bit you will know what and how they like it and when you ask them to check your work they will say no (you did not miss anything at all you did a good job) and that will give them a good feeling. Soon they will be so sure of your work they will start telling you, no it's ok I trust your work. Get to work 20 minutes before your shift. And if they need you to fill in a shift do it.

[AMS700CX4u2]

Those are the ideals we are all taught. My biggest mistake in 40 years was out working union members. I did what my elders told me to do. Get a good Education, Go beyond the call of duty, Show dedication. I found I got more work dumped on me. They just slowed down so I had to stay late and do. I stayed the course and did not let them break me. I still got thrown under the bus, Luckily it was close to the end of my working years. One basic managerial skill (you never chastise an employee in the presence of their peers. You can ream them, but in private.

[JustAsking2023]

When in a union never go above the rest. If you do the rest will look down on you plus your upper power will take advantage of it and use you

[Anonymous]

It is normal to not be very good at your first job. Bosses are usually not rude to you unless you are not good at the job. I know this because I was once a young rookie 20 years old starting off in life. Realize that they are mad because it is your supervisor's job to ensure you do your job satisfactorily. When you do it poorly, it makes your supervisor look bad to their own boss.

If you want to be treated better, get out of working low wage jobs. You will get more respect as you get licenses, certifications and be able to make more money too. I certainly got more respect after I got my licenses compared when I was a little 20 yr old college student.

Secret to succeeding in life:

if you keep learning the right things, always trying to improve your knowledge base, you will do well in life.

If you are not very good at the job, it will only be a matter of time your boss lays you off or gets rid of you. Do something you are good at.

[Asker]

My manager is the boss to. There is no boss above my manager. It's just a small firm with no job description, where you pretty much have to do anything you are asked if it's related to the field of work. It's not such a low wage job. When I confronted my manager about disrespect and I said that it seemed they are not satisfied with my performance, they said: 'Your performance is ok, you can't be better in such a short time'

[Opinion Owner]

Your managers boss is the owner of the firm. He saying your performance could be better but you're doing ok as a rookie. He understands you're just a rookie so it might not be up to par as everyone elses

It is likely an entry level job that has very few requirements and doesn't pay that much. Trust me. I know i been around

[Asker]

The manager and the owner are the same person. It's a small firm with few employees. I live in a less developed country. There is no formal hierarchy. You are either an employee or the owner. There is no job description. If the employer wants you to shop online to buy something for the firm, which is not related to your work, you do. The only advantage is that they pay more for someone with no experience than most other employers. Applying there was my mistake. They are like: "If you don't suck it up, you are free to leave"

[Opinion Owner]

oh I didn't know you were from another country. Then it might be a bit different from America.
But yea... if you have no skills... you will not be able to get a good job

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Set the boundary,

The only people I am very respectful to are the ones who are my subordinates.

Everyone above me - I treat them equally. No respect until it’s earned.

I don’t care whatever people think.

Once I was 21 at a new job and my employer was a young entrepreneur, son of a multi-millionaire, he was extremely strict and Was known to be rude to everyone.

One day I was too chatty and he came to me, I guess he was going to say something.

I say “I guess”, because he never said anything, when he approached me, I just looked at him the way that, he couldn’t say anything.

Just because he has more money doesn’t mean he was somehow more than me.

Don’t put up a fight, but show everyone that you don’t give a **** who they are, you demand respect and it will be given.

I promise ;)

[lightbulb27]

I never did that. people ask questions and I answer and train them. you have lousy manager or someone that doesn't want to answer questions.

That said, real world is different from school. school does not teach real world. real world is not about answering questiosn but producing results.

So... in future, go in with several answers and ask which is better answer in bosses judgement. That boosts their ego.

lot of people rise up at work to manager because were good worker but not because of management skills. these are separate skills.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Poor leadership skills. There's not much you can do in this situation.

In some cases you can try to use opportunities to ask his superiors questions. Which is incredibly risky.

You could also just do your best, study company literature, find the handbooks and guides that are sitting on the bottom of a filing cabinet. You'll find so many things people are doing slightly differently or that have been forgotten. You'll be able to learn about the culture of the place your at by comparing the differences between how people work and how the companies literature says you should with any comments from upper management you hear.

Know who you're trying to impress and do so in indirect ways.

And if you don't see yourself moving up, it's time to move on.

[Anonymous]

Hmph, when someone states: "I'm not lying" what is than main thing you understand?

Not all managers like that.
The nearest time you find someone who better prices/values your efforts, go for it.

Very commonly said about jobs, if they see you genuinly passionate, they'll hire you.
That doesn't have to do with experience, it is the willingness, eagerness.. attitude.
This means they are ready to guide and supervise you. As it is fair to judge by efforts, not necessarily results.

Good managers realize this.

[Asker]

While I am not genuinely passionate about it (I can't earn a living by following my passions), I am genuinely eager to improve

[RedInnocent68]

I’ve always enjoyed mentoring young employees, especially when they’ve graduated from a prestigious uni with a high GPA. But I will say the expectations of some young employees are out to lunch. There’s often a profound cognitive dissonance with my lived experience, and it’s becoming increasingly difficult to even find young people worth talking to. Young employees from prestigious unis with high GPAs can also have an annoying arrogance, and it’s a bit like a parent talking to a teenager who doesn’t actually listen and thinks they already know everything. Having said that, a lot of more senior people are jaded, and frankly, jealous. Every organization also has a unique culture. Out of curiosity, what business are you in?

[Changiis07]

Just because they are managers doesn't mean they are good ones. So I could understand the frustration, you need to give respect to get it and clearly your manager isn't since he/she is making you feel that way. Sounds like a manager that needs to get told something

[nron97]

and they wonder why businesses are failing and in desperate need of employees. when you got a bunch of grumpy managers who can't handle the stress, and have no leadership qualities, but hey theyve worked here for 8 years, whats any of that matter.

[rosemilk]

that's not normal. that's actually a big sign that this company is not a good company to work for and is toxic. either get your experience and then head out, or start looking for another job asap

[Joshydavid25]

A lot of managers are pretty disrespectful towards a lot of people, and that's cause they don't have good leadership qualities, are impatient, and get off on the power.. There are good managers who actually like the people under them.. Usually they are hired from within the company..

[Anonymous]

Who cares the management prefers young dumb workers to experience these days.

Your getting paid more for less work.

Worked 10 years same place knew everything and got fired for 2 other useless nurses.

Now paid more and doing less

Noobs are always dumb and useless it's why you were hired so the older managers are mad.

Just accept it and that they are ass hats and enjoy the pay. Your doing less then who ever worked before you.

[bededazzle]

good leaders earn respect by giving respect. your manager is probably frustrated with his life and is doing s bad job

[Asker]

Two businesses and a big family to take care of. Still no excuse for such a behaviour.

[KonkeyDong]

I've only had respectable, professional managers in all my working years. Over time, after they get to know me, I can see them "loosen up" and see I take things very seriously, but have a sense of humor and a decent work ethic. Everyone I have in Management is more of a "Buddy" than a "Boss".

[Puppystarfish23]

I've experienced the same problem and the only thing I can think is because they think we will stand for it more than a guy who's near retired age and doesn't really need to carry on working if he doesn't want to

[CallmeTheKnight]

Don’t generalize managers like that because you’re only being one-sided like that.
Now, a lot of managers are disrespectful to employees for multiple reasons. Ego, ageism, sexism, or just they are just mean people.

[Asker]

I was wondering whether it's the same in most places, since I heard some other young people complain about disrespect at work

[Smashingdoozy]

I hate people like this. I've dealt with it a lot. I try to be the best manager I can be and always tell new staff to ask me questions no matter how stupid they may seem

[IslaTheWitch]

I have a 23 y. o. guy in my team, a very fresh fish. The rest guys are in their 30s. I treat them all the same.

But they are unlucky enough to have a woman as their manager :P

[es20490446e]

Aim to your best, and assume that sometimes mistakes are unavoidable.

It's not about avoiding mistakes, it's about fixing them when they happen.

And whatever bad attitude others have about it, it's not your problem to fix.

[NathanDavis]

I am not... but the bigger the place and the more people out there to deal with... the less patience they might have

[DreamLife7]

Yeah they swear they are hear to help but when you start asking questions for guidance they act as if you're a know it all and a nuisance. I'd honestly quit. I dealt with the same shit so I switched to another company. much more peaceful

[WhitneySnow]

This guy sounds like a really bad manager. I’ve never had a job, but I hope they’re not all like that.

[Anonymous]

That has not been my experience. They can be disrespectful toward any employees who are not respectable. There's an important distinction there.

[nastyb]

i agree