My coworker is relatively nice, in a fake sort of way. But she has a habit of speaking over me constantly, which I have called her out on for several times in front of management. She also will occasionally pretend she’s my boss, which I have set boundaries on. She stops periodically, then starts doing it again after a break (which shows she can control it but chooses not to). She’s incredibly overbearing and always tries to overshadow me in meetings. Management has noticed this and has actually talked to me about it and I believe they have talked to her as well in order to give her additional “training” on her soft skills.
She applied to another role in a different department, and I know this seems as though I should be happy to get rid of her, but instead I’m just angry. She’ll get more money, more skills, growth… and I don’t think she should be supported in that after how she’s treated me. They’ve moved her to the next stages in the interview process so I guess she’s one of the front runners?
Is it petty that I’m so upset? Does it come across as jealous or do you think my feelings are valid?
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Woah girl, that sucks about your coworker. She sounds super annoying always talking over you and acting like the boss. I'd be mad too if someone treated me like that.
I don't think you're being petty for being upset that she might get promoted. It's totally not fair if she acts so rude but still gets rewarded, you know? The managers should want someone nicer representing their company.
I'd be jealous too if the person giving me trouble got a better job. But don't even worry about that - your feelings are valid. She's the one who should feel bad for how she treats you.
Maybe tell your managers again how it makes you feel? They at least know she's a problem. And don't stress - hopefully she won't get it. But if she does, hopefully you'll get your chance at a promotion soon too where you can show them how much better you are at the job! Just keep doing you and don't let her bring you down. You've got this!
I think it's very understandable that you're upset but for the sake of your own mental health, I think you are focusing too much on her and not yourself.
This is one of the reasons I'm deeply allergic to the concept of karma. If we're going to expect every person who treats us poorly to be punished for it, that works its way towards vindictive mindsets that are too focused on other people's well-being and not enough on improving our own as well as constant disappointment.
So I really think you should just focus on yourself and be happy that you no longer have to deal with her all the time.