I've read or heard of stories of families dealing with infertility, and for some the struggle is 2, 5, 10 years plus of trying to get pregnant, and I often wonder, why is it that adoption, or surrogacy, donation, or fostering, etc, is not on the table?
Infertility is one of the most taxing things a couple can go through. It's insanely expensive, it's physically difficult, it strains and sadly ends a lot of marriages, and a lot of times it doesn't work or the couple runs out of money to afford another round to even get that far to find out. I understand the desire to have one's own biological children, but DNA isn't everything, and if it can't happen, there are other options. DNA doesn't make one a better person. It doesn't determine who a person will be in life. Biological children vs. adopted children aren't these magical perfect beings.
I feel that if a couple feels in their heart that they want more than anything in life to be parents, why then is adoption or other methods for having children, not on the table? A child will inherit the lessons and mannerisms, and habits that a parent teaches them. If that lesson is love, they will feel it. If it is hard work, they will know that. If it is how to be a good person, they will exhibit that through a parents teachings.
I don't see why a woman in particular needs to feel bad or shame for not pushing the kid out herself. Physically having a child doesn't make one a good parent, it's what you do all throughout that kids life. If someone is saying to a couple they are somehow less than for not having a child themselves, that couple definitely needs to associate with better people. I just feel it's sad that some people who claim they want children so bad, don't pursue other methods if one doesn't work. I feel like a lot of kids who need homes are missing out.
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