Al ot of people on here will tell you have are 20 so you dont even have to ask. it is technically true, but you are asking so you know it is more complex than that. I would be concerned but i would also like you to be safe instead of driving late at night. If he trusts that the other parents will be there and if he can trust that young man he might get comfortable with it. But just be mindful of how he feels as i know you will given that it is a concern. i could get used to it and i never thought i would on such things. My daughter lives with a girl and two other guys (one is gay they tellme). No way i would have ever thought i would agree with that except i trust my daughter, my wife talked to me and i met the boys. although i still am concerned. bottom line though your respect and relationship with you father is more important than a car ride home.
i wouldn't want her to stay, but if she called and asked to stay because it was late. if I trusted the bf and their parents I would be ultimately fine with it
but at 20 years-old it really doesn't matter what I think. I can give my opinion on things but at 20 I'd hope my daughter was capable of making smart decisions
i think i'd feel that she's old enough and smart enough (hopefully) to make the right decisions. so i would most likely be okay with her staying over the bfs house. the only thing is i'd want to make sure they're in a somewhat serious relationship... just in case anything happens.. i just kinda don't think its appropriate to have her stay at her bfs house if theyve only been together for a month or 2. but i would understand it's easier to just stay the night than to have to drive home at midnight or 1am. i hope your dad comes around to the idea of it soon. my mom was really against it, but she eventually got over it. i basically just told her i'm staying over. and she got over it after the first few times.
She's an adult. What are you afraid of? When I was 16, my mother had no problem letting me sleep over at my 19 year old boyfriend's house, despite him living an hour and a half away and her not even really having talked to him much. Basically, I really don't see what the issue here is. I've actually found that the more relaxed parents are, the less "bad" or rebellious their children tend to be. Your daughter is an adult, treat her like it.
Seems having sex in his parents house would be awkward. But I just never told my parents about sleepovers.
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Well, I'd like to think that I wouldn't have to TELL her what she could and could not do at that point. Hopefully she'd have been well-equipped by my parenting, and she would make the right decision for herself.
Ask me again in 20 plus some-odd years when I have this hypothetical 20 year old daughter, and I bet I'd answer with a resounding no, though. LOL
Talk to his parents about the situation and then talk to your daughter and hef bf. Either way if your daughter and her bf are sleeping together just because you won't let her spend the night doesn't mean it can't happen anywhere else (car, hotel)
**not trying to be vulgar.
Well, ask his parents if you could spend the night
if they refuse to let you stay than maybe get a hotel/
motel or maybe take him to your place. If his parents
do not agree there is nothing much you can do
my mom never cared if i had a girl spend the night
The parents have no morals.
I could or never would bring a girlfriend over to my parents house to spend the night with me. I respect my parents too much to ask.
What it means is that nothing is sacred. How would they feel if their daughter was bring home a guy to bang.
I wouldn't... unless she's staying own her own. It's not really about trust or parenting skills in your child, it's the idea i'm getting when i put two and two together, and yeah sleeping over is asking too much of a father to accept and handle cool-headedly unless she's marrying the guy then i want grandchildren.
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She is 20 years old she should be free to do whatever she wants.
She is adult. If I did a good job parenting I will trust in her like my dad trusts me.
She's old enough to think for herself. Do and say nothing. She can take care of herself.
Sure, why not? I'd rather she has sex under his parents roof than under my roof haha. Both roofs beats having sex in the car or park or wherever kids with no money go to have sex.
Why is she even asking?
As long as I knew the parents and the BF well enough
20 is an adult so nothing...
At 20, she can make her own decisions.
She's an adult and can do whatever she pleases.
u Not a chance if I had one
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