How do I deal with being the least favorite child?

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Growing up my mother was not very good to me and my father was so so. Then I had a little brother whom my parents are much better with. I always bring up the fact that they in particular my mom are much better with my brother than they were and are with me, my mom says I am whining but I think its unfair how she has given my brother so much love and affection while on the other hand she neglected me my whole life and made me feel like worthless trash, I have a very hard time dealing with this sometimes, because I constantly wonder why I am not deserving of love and nurture while my brother is how do I get over this?

vonasaurus · Accepted Answer

as the oldest child of 4, with 2 sets of parents, i can sort of understand where you are coming from.

while my mom/(step) dad and i are very close, they always showed preferential treatment to my younger siblings. my sisters and my brother all got away with murder, whereas i was always expected to be the "good kid" and any mistakes i made were magnified. i learned that parents will always give special treatment to the younger kids, because the oldest is expected to "know better".

on the other hand, my biological father and i are not close and he's always preferred my sister. even now, she's the favourite, and relatives have speculated that it's because i have too much in common with my uncle/his younger brother, who he doesn't like. as a result, i don't go out of my way to involve him in my life.

i definitely recommend that you 1) be more vocal, and 2) talk to a trusted person about your issues, since favouring the youngest child is normal but treating you like trash is not.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In a few Years you may see that this is to your advantage, I'm sure they love you but at least you won't have the pressures of having all they're hopes and dreams pinned on what you acheive in life and have to deal with the disappointment of not being able to live up to them like your brother Will.
I've seen it many times and in family where it's obvious parents favour one child and think they're special only to be severely dissapointed when they either got pregnant at 16 or decided to drop of school etc wait & see!!!

MissMikayla · Accepted Answer

I'm the least favorite child as well. I love to guilt trip my mother sometimes. It's pretty amusing. lol

JRICHARDS1996 · Accepted Answer

As the oldest child, I can more than relate to what you are saying. The unfortunate reality is that for whatever reason, parents will almost always favor your younger born siblings. It doesn't matter how much more successful you are than them, how responsible you are, and/or how many accomplishments you earn, they will always love the younger one more. The younger one will always have it easier, even if they don't realize it.

Personally I've found the greatest way to deal with this is to start being more vocal. TELL your parents how you feel, point out the inconsistencies in how they behave toward you, stop acting so great and possibly even go on strike. It will lead to some major arguments and probably punishment, but in the end they will be forced to confront the issues that you are raising.

NYkid27 · Accepted Answer

You just have to remember to love yourself and be confident. I know it's much easier said than done but once you figure it out life is much better. You can message me anytime if you need someone to talk to or you have any other questions

kedslover · Answer

Get over those thoughts and get on with your life. Your life becomes what you, not others, make of it. So what if you're not the favorite child. You have your entire life to find a mate that will love you and accept you as you are... be happy with that thought.

singlebee · Answer

I am sorry they treated you wrong and very unfair... I think they Seem like bad parents... Hugs to you... I know for you must be feeling... Just love yourself... That way you won't feel bad

Walls_and_Doors · Answer

Accept your place and ascend crushing your siblings with accomplishments and then depriving your family of your wealth until they beg forgiveness from you.

jacquesvol · Answer

Remember: "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

ThatBritishLad · Answer

"I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul." NINE THOUSAND DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYS

Geekyfreaky101 · Answer

Honey you're an adult now so get over it life is life

coolscenebro · Answer

not much you can do... just get over it.

Anonymous · Answer

Screw them I say..

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