Is my mom plotting against me?

[marinadiamond]

My mom is highly critical and will pick out things that most people wouldn't. Other people would see these perceived "flaws" as not flaws or if they are they barely noticeable. Lets keep in mind she is in her 50s and not the most fit or attractive herself.

I have good style but she constantly says i do not know how to dress and will tear apart how I dress and make me change or inspect me like a prison mate at the door

Prom season is coming up and I haven't been super active but if anything the bit of stomach fat I have has actually decreased. Today as well as a few days ago my mom has teared me a part saying my stomach got bigger than it was in January and that I have a beer belly. I rarely drin look in the mirror and my stomach is smaller than it was then or the same and kind of toned although not the smallest. . I have high-ish hips so i don't know if this contributes

My mom has always been irrationally judgmental making me self conscious, paranoid and miserable. she has kind of brain washed me in a sense, and since i have flakey friends, dad is dead, unreliable dating prospects this contributes to my insecurities and lack of attention I receive in life, or outside perspective

What do u think?

[Aetumn]

She might just be jealous (Snow White is the ancestral reference on this). If you want objective reassurance, at least on weight, check your Body-mass Index ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_mass_index ), see where that puts you :p

But don't let anyone (except, maybe, your doctor) make a judgement on how you look. Not your parents, not your boyfriend, not your friends. It's your body, your call, your design :p To hell with the haters :}

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

Your mum probably means well she just goes about it in a slightly demented and deranged way. So no I don't think she's out to get you, she probably thinks she is being helpful without realizing how she's doing the opposite of what she wants to. Have you tried talking to her about it? I'd say you should unless you think it make matters worse (I know that some things are best unsaid with my mum too or else she takes it the wrong way).

[marinadiamond]

yes i have and she is clueless and unreasonable

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

Hmmm well at least you tried 😐. Well then just try to ignore her judgmental rants. Take it where it's coming from, someone who doesn't necessarily know what they are talking about.

[SarahsSummer]

I'm sure she means well but is completely off in her approach and delivery. have you measured your waist? if she tells you youve gotten bigger and you haven't tell her your proportions. My mom is super critical of me too. Her favorite word is "should". You should've done this. you should eat that, you should wear this. Drives me crazy but deep down I know she must mean well.

[Cmasterson]

I honestly think your mum is cruel and too harsh, she may be jealous in a sense.

[Anonymous]

I don't think she's out to get you, more like she's trying to protect you.