It's just something that has been on my mind lately. I said some rude things to a female friend of mine and she said that she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. I'm planning to meet her in person tomorrow and apologize to her but something tells me she'll just see me as weak and desperate so I prefer not to do it. She was one of the greatest persons I've ever met and I just want things to go back to the way they were between us. What do you guys think? Is apologizing a noble thing to do or does it just reek of desperation?
Apologizing is only seen as a weakness if you have nothing to apologize for and the other person is making you feel bad for stuff you didn’t do/say, or things they’re blowing way out of proportion. In this case it seems like apologizing would be the nice thing to do, seeing as you were so rude to her that it urged her to want to end the friendship. Usually that’s not something people do over nothing. You’re not weak for recognizing that you did something wrong. In my opinion, the weak ones are the ones who would rather protect their fragile egos over saving a really good friendship. Those people are hardheaded, don’t care much about anyone else but themselves, and don’t make good friends. You don’t want to be that kind of person.
Look, when u are wrong, apologize no matter what. For the sake of what is right and what is wrong. That is called u still have intergrity.
It is not right that all u think and worry that u will be seen as a weak person. That is not even necessary for u to think. You do not have right to think that way.
If u have guilty feeling, it means u realize h are wrong. Do apologize. She will certainly either ignore you first but will slowly be approachable again OR... Will completely ignore u. Be ready.
Apologize because u dont want to have any guilty feeling and have burden. Thats all. Do it.
If you're in the wrong, you should apologize. What will she think of you if you don't apologize? I'd rather risk being desperate (which is doubtful) instead of stubborn or arrogant. Obviously she thinks you were in the wrong if she doesn't want to be your friend and you yourself said your comments were rude... so yes, apologize. Apologizing isn't the same as begging for forgiveness, which I think is what you might be confusing it with, it's being mature enough to realize when you've done something wrong. Don't beg, just say you're sorry.
No is it not a sign of weakness at all. When a person apologizes to another person no matter what the reason is it is a sign that the person feels bad and is concerned about the other persons emotions and feelings.
Anyone who does not apologize to another for a mistake they had made is a perfect example of a selfish piece of shit that is only cares about them self.
Apologizing is never a weakness. It just proves that your friendship is more important to you than your ego. Apologizing is always appreciated by the other person because it's a hard thing to do (for some people) and when a person apologizes then the other person feel good that they are important. Not apologizing would lead to you an end of a friendship which could have been saved if things get sorted out and it will cause guilt too.
I don't think apologizing is weak at all, the opposite actually. I think it takes a big person to admit when they were wrong and ask for forgiveness. I think those people that refuse to apologize when they're wrong are weak and at times selfish. You can never undo what was done or what was said, in this case. To me, it's important to let that person know that you regret what you said and that you hurt them. I think part of it too that matters is WHY are you apologizing? If you're simply saying sorry because you just want it to blow over and go back to whatever it was, well that's crap, and frankly I'd rather you not even bother, if you're apologizing because you honestly are sorry and regret what you did/said that's meaningful. No matter what though she may or may not forgive you, but you will have given her and yourself closure in this situation, no matter the outcome.
Put it this way, you hurt her and you know it so apologizing is the right thing to do. Expecting her forgiveness (though hard not to hope) is not going to help you. If she sees you as weak for taking responsibility for when you were wrong then she is not a mature person.
I apologized to guy I was seeing despite him being an asshole to me later on and at the moment of my apology (not about my apology which was barely commented on). I knew that in the past I had been wrong and i am only in charge of myself. I expected nothing from him and I am so glad I did it regardless as whatever he saw it as. I wish more people would set aside their ego and just apologize... it goes a long way on a personal and relationship level. If it were the other way around and she apologized, even if you still didn't want to be her friend anymore, would you ultimately view her with more respect than if she was rude and never said a word?
It's not desperate. When someone apologises to me I take it as them wanting to make amends and acknowledging that we both don't want our relationship to be a toxic 1. The only time that apologising makes you look weak and obnoxious is if you keep being rude after promising to change, time and again. That apology should mean you want a better future, not that you want her to let you off the hook until your next barrage of insults.
Dude say your sorry, but don't beg for her to be your friend. Just explain to her you are sorry and you understand her not wanting to be around you anymore and that if that's what she really wants you need to respect her wishes. This will let her know your sorry but your not begging her to stay.
Apologizing is a sign of weakness when you did nothing wrong and do so only to appease someone else. But if you did something that harmed another person, even if it wasn't intentional then an apology isn't a bad thing. Like I'm not going to apologize if I did something I know was right, but someone else got upset over. Being upset or angry doesn't make you right.
Go apologize if you know what you did was wrong. It means you care enough about your friendship with her. I actually stopped talking to my ex after she continuously refused to apologize for any wrongdoings, so I encourage you to go ahead and tell her.
you know you fuked up. you clearly know what you made wrong. you had a good connection between each other. if it was a deep one she will forgive you.
◾ apologizing is not desperate when you just want to say sorry.
◾ it goes desperate when you can't accept the negative reaction n you try to convince the person to be positive with you cos you said sry (and you did it only cos you want something from them)
Depends on the certain situation, it's better to get over your ego and apologize for your mistake but in some cases the other person don't deserve an apology
Well I don't think that apologizing show that u r weak. If we love someone whether our soul mate or any relation, to save that relation saying sorry is not wrong. We shout or talk very badly to our loved ones Becoz we know they will understand, and saying sorry after u realize ur mistake is a good thing and make balance in ur relation.
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Apologizing is weakness in the first place. Truth be told, you'll never have a shot with this chick. You've evidently displayed yourself as being a clingy bitch who has no sense of self-value. Now you want to apologize? No dude.. save yourself some years of learning and stop acting the way you're acting. Go get laid and stop being so over dramatic.
I have to disagree with this. He said she was a friend. And everyone random person, friend, potential mate, etc. deserves respect. He knows he hurt her, and apologizing is the right thing to do. When you apologize you don't do it with an ulterior motive, you do it bc you were wrong. It's being responsible.
@SanHoloz Actually sort of misread the description. Speed reading again. I think the act of apologizing is weak, and I say that based on the idea that he shouldn't be doing shit that he has to apologize for.
Haha it happens to the best of us. And yeah, in an ideal world we wouldn't hurt each other however we all mess up and to me when that happens, being able to recognize and take responsibility shows more character in the end.
Apologizing isn't weak. Deciding not to and destroying your friendship is. Just apologize and say that your speaking was out of turn. She won't see you as weak and she will probably appreciate you more for it.
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