Does apologizing = weakness?

[Anonymous]

Does apologizing for a situation you've done something bad but you weren't completely in the wrong a sign of weakness?

I've been going through a breakup and I keep finding these videos online on how you should stand on business and that you should never beg for a man.. and I try to relate that to my old relationship. He treated me pretty bad in the end (no violence or anything, he just pushed me away and said that I was overreacting over it -- long story short, we were bffs and started to date but we both had issues that stopped the relationship, then we broke up and it was weird and I decided to remove him to be able to move on) and I ended up being petty with him in front of his friends (that we share) which I know he would say that I humiliated him or something like that.

It has been awhile since that and I have felt like apologizing for my part in the whole relationship crumbling down and the pettiness that ensued. However, I've been told not only by my friends but also by these videos to not reach out, but I feel like doing it but don't know what to do and have come to the internet to find out if I should (or at least get others' perspective).

[StarWarGirl]

If you are confident enough on yourself, if it's not going to affect you what's others think about you but you are confident enough to see through situation analyse it and not get triggered by others fake ego. If you really want to apologise just only because you feel to. Not because someone wants you to apologise but you don't feel to. Then it's totally fine.

Yes others people may see it as your weakness but in real it's not your weakness but it's actually strength to acknowledge our mistakes what many people can't do. They are not courageous enough to admit their mistakes.

So... Apologize ONLY IF you feel to apologise. If you are apologizing because others wants or if you are apologizing against your will, like if you don't feel yourself that you should but still you are doing then only you are Actually weak, because in those case you are apologizing because of some fear or pressure and you are not strong enough to stand for yourself your own inner voice and conscience.

[Asker]

I feel like my inner voice is telling me to do it, I guess I'm just scared because I am approaching an unknown territory (I am not doing it for his reaction but I don't know if he will react to it positively or negatively)...

[StarWarGirl]

It's ok then, just apologize and come out of that territory. You need not to stay longer there or has nothing to do there. You would feel peace so it's totally fine. Let anyone think whatever they want to think, let anyone laugh if they feel to. Let anyone take it as your weakness. But at least you would feel peace in yourself that's enough I guess.

[SolitarySolace]

Apologizing means you did something wrong. Just don’t apologize when you didn’t do anything wrong. Last time I did that I ended up with an ex parte PPO and had to take the girl to court where I couldn’t do anything but slap myself with a civil temporary restraining order.

[Asker]

Oh I'm sorry to hear that...

[AviatorTom]

Exactly the opposite... apologizing is a demonstration of STRENGTH, that you acknowledge that you did something wrong, are learning from it, and that you take responsibility for your actions, rather than trying to blame someone else.

[argot]

Nope it's an indicator that you care about the person you apologize to. If you don't try remedy the situation with the person, you don't give a shit about them.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't think so, it actually shows strength when you can admit your wrong and learn from it.

[ab2shifty]

Not necessarily

[Asker]

Would you say that it depends on the context?

[Emanon25]

Not at all