My boyfriend ALWAYS brings his friend around!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't mind if it was every now and then but its like every time we hang out. His friend is cool but in doses and I really just wanna have quality alone time with my guy, I have explained this to both of them but his friend continues to be there, even on dates and its to the point where I'm startin to feel like the third wheel or even a taxi, they can be really rude and always make jokes that p*ss me off, Today I just left because I got so annoyed, What can I do to make my guy tell him to stop always coming around and to realize I'm sick of this?

[DomDom]

Well dear, there are a number of things you can do. If the verbal context does not get through to him, stop taking him places. You said you felt like a taxi, if he can't get places it will surely send a message to him. Now on to the underlying question of all this, him bringing his friend shows a simple matter that he truly isn't comfortable being alone with you, he might feel there might be to many awkward moments for his liking that with a friend of his being there... fills that void and prevents a awkward moment. Now of course there is little to go off here, but that seems to be the just of it ;P

[Asker]

lol we have been together 3 years so the awkward and uncomfortable has past lol but thanks

[Belgie]

If he brings his friend along on a "date", then its not a date.

You should just leave. Tell them "I see you guys want to be alone together again. Maybe you should get a hotel room. Make a night of it."

If you leave every time he brings the friend along, he'll know how seriously you treat this. Either he'll start seeing you on his own, or he'll tell you straight up that he's choosing his friend over you, so you can dump the fool and move on to someone with a bit more sense.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

Been with my boyfriend 3 years too and he always makes plans with his friend before me and I have to work around that. Sometimes you just gotta sit them down and tell them that it’s making you unhappy, if they love you enough they’ll realise this and make sure to listen to what you’re saying. Most of the time they just don’t notice that it’s not right because you haven’t said, which I understand is equally as annoying but don’t worry just make sure to tell him straight.