Throughout our whole relationship, he treated me like crap. He thought it was perfectly alright to blow off phone calls, and eventually dates, time and time again. I would always get angry when he did this, and stick up for myself. Last week, he broke up with me for "getting ticked off at stupid things." I, for one, believe that I have every right to be angry when my boyfriend is neglecting me. He ignored me every weekend, he never invited me over to his house, and along with never calling me, he ignored a lot of my phone calls. And then HE is the one who breaks up with me. We sat in my driveway for an hour and a half, me begging him not to leave me. He was cold to me and made it clear that he didn't want to be in the relationship anymore.
Ever since then, I've been ignoring him. I won't even look at him when I see him at school. I even moved to a new lunch table with some of my friends, just to avoid sitting with him. So yesterday, I get this random text from him, saying: "Hey, can we still talk? Not hearing from you is killing me. I still want to talk to you. I miss you, and think we should still be close because this is too painful." For once, I didn't respond to him. For once, he can see how it feels to be ignored. But the thing is, despite the way he treated me, we did have some good times whenever we did go out (which was seldom). I do miss him...but once again, it's all about him. This is all because he misses me now...what about when I begged him not to do this? It seems as though my feelings don't matter at all.
Someone help me...I'm just really confused. I want him back, romantically, but only if he'll put in effort and stop neglecting me. Actually, I don't even know if he wants a relationship again or if he just wants to be friends. He didn't even make that clear in his text. I know I can't just be his friend after everything that transpired. For me, that would be too painful.
Ever since then, I've been ignoring him. I won't even look at him when I see him at school. I even moved to a new lunch table with some of my friends, just to avoid sitting with him. So yesterday, I get this random text from him, saying: "Hey, can we still talk? Not hearing from you is killing me. I still want to talk to you. I miss you, and think we should still be close because this is too painful." For once, I didn't respond to him. For once, he can see how it feels to be ignored. But the thing is, despite the way he treated me, we did have some good times whenever we did go out (which was seldom). I do miss him...but once again, it's all about him. This is all because he misses me now...what about when I begged him not to do this? It seems as though my feelings don't matter at all.
Someone help me...I'm just really confused. I want him back, romantically, but only if he'll put in effort and stop neglecting me. Actually, I don't even know if he wants a relationship again or if he just wants to be friends. He didn't even make that clear in his text. I know I can't just be his friend after everything that transpired. For me, that would be too painful.
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