Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
My boyfriend's parents are making a big deal out of me being white, what should I do? (Page 2)
Anonymous
(30-35) 
Click "Show More" for your mentions
Most Helpful Opinion(mho) Rate.
Learn more
Learn more
We're glad to see you liked this post.
You can also add your opinion below!
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
27Opinion
they def sound like the cultural type. and only believe in having the same cultural background as their significant other. I mean, if you think you were to marry this dude, I'd say go for it, and leave him to choose or try and prove to his family that its OK you're together. but you think he's just another boyfriend, I'd say just move on hunny, and better luck the next time around.
Pakistanis are often racist like that.
In their eyes, a white girl is good only for a quick f***, but being in a committed relationship with a white girl is seen as a very bad thing to them, anything beyond f***ing and impregnating a white girl is seen by many pakistanis as a betrayal of their culture.
So I am white and my ex was mexican his family hated th e fact that I was white, needless to say I broke it off, when they wouldn't stop making comments about me. They would talk in spanish, talking bad about me thinking I didn't understand what they where saying. My step dad who raised me taught me spanish (hes mexican). I new everything they said.
I agree with Sam33r..
I'm Indian and it's pretty much the same thing. When you're getting married, it's not just you're fiancée that you'll marry but his entire family.
And guys usually tend to cave under the pressure from their families (I've seen it happen)
So the question is, do you see a future where both of you are happy as well as your families are well..at least cordial with each other.
Oh and bout the facebook thing, it's probably just friends.
All I can suggest is that you remain dignified so that no one can question your honour, honesty or feelings. I don't really have any insight into the culture but I know that if my parents were giving me serious grief about a girlfriend while I was living at home it would make me think twice - or move out.
well if you know for a fact that his parents don't like you because your white, its hard for him because he lives with his parents. it won't matter so much when he's moved out his parents then won't have any control over him. I just think it would be hard for you both, since his parents are ignorant
Tell him in North America we have the freedom to date and love anyone we like.
This is not Dictatorship Pakistan.
I think Pakistan is democratic... corrupt to f***, heavily influenced by the many religious nutters, but democratic none the less.
I'm no Muslim but I don't think his parents object to your skin colour or race. It's more probable they object to the fact you're not a Muslim girl.
A religious point thus: according to Islam, a Muslim guy is allowed to marry a Christian or Jewish girl if she converts to Islam.Marrying an atheist or pagan girl is prohibited.
A muslim girl is not allowed to marry outside Islam.
You intentionally dropped the most important detail, I know it jacques, that's how you are, a religion hater :) muslims are allowed to marry a Christian or a Jew even if they did not convert, and they're still allowed to celebrate and practice their beliefs freely including church visits and celebrations, everything.
You're not over-reacting, but I thnk he meant well & was trying to still fate you but save you from being harrassed. He didn't handle it the best way, I agree, but I'm glad it seems to be working out now...
Name : Raza.
Very fair color.
Age: 29 / City.. Faisalabad... Sargodha... Pakistan.
About.
A Beautiful Full body Massage for womens And Couple specially for married womens.
Only Home service with in (Faisalabad.. Sargodha) by professional body massagers.
Full Body Relaxation Ayurvedic Massage at your place only (Home & Hotel).
If you want to take this service please message me at any Day time.
Phone #
(0337... Zero. Six. Nine. Nine , Five , Five , Zero... )
Don't know if this is too late but my honest advise. Dump him. I dated a Pakistani girl for four years and it was a nightmare. She met all my family and I never met any of hers. We even gad to walk on opposite sides of the street to each other in certain parts of the city so we wouldn't be seen together. You are only 19 and have a whole life ahead of you. Trust me. I know from experience if his family don't accept you because you are white they never will regardless of how hard you try.
I have a close friend and he is from pakistan and muslim. He married a white girl. It took them over 5yrs of dating but they did it. It was a muslim wedding :-/
Put a barka on, they won't know you're white then, and they'll be so happy !
Its burqa dumbass. And that's a dumb idea ahaha
Go f*** yourself ugly bitch :)
he probably didn't want to get kicked out of his house
those cultures are very strict. You have to accept that they might never accept you and live your life
i would never ever have a relationship with pakis or cultures like that!
Wow what a stunning insight!
what? I have relationships with people I feel OK. paki girls aren't my type, other cultures neither.. so why would I go out with people I don't feel ok?
She didn't ask you whom the heck you would date "jerk".
wow, racist much?
i also wouldn't date girls who already had been in a relationship with pakis or people with different cultures.
dude chill. what is up with you and pakis?
Brilliant advice.
im not racist... just think paki girls are ugly and not attractive.
Right.. not racist at all.
bravo for winning the worlds most racist award
jazzrocks3 do you have any idea of what racism is? sorry, because I think you dont
I think if you try to get his love, he and you will meet large difficult. Because they are strict Muslim. And you will meet more diffcult in your life. I suggest you give up this. I know it's hard.
Funny how you don't normally hear about racism against white people.
It's way more about religion and culture than about race.
oh religion? always a peace keeper...
dont be in a hurry.wait for another nice guy to come into your life
If it's just three weeks, you're perhaps jumping the gun. Take some time to see how it goes.