Why does my boyfriend invite everyone to his birthday celebration but me?

[Anonymous]

I can't seem to make him understand how hurtful and disrespectful it is to me to celebrate his birthday and tell me I am not allowed. First time he went to Pismo Beach riding all weekend and said no girls were allowed. But then upon return he was taking shots with one of the girls they have been friends with. The second year he was renting my house from me, and he threw a large party, sent out a evite and invited all his friends and family and told me I wasn't allowed. He said because one of his friends didn't like me that it wasn't a good idea if I came. This year he pulled the same crap again and I told him I could no longer be in a relationship with someone who feels there perfect birthday, is a day without me. In his response all he says is, its My birthday, I can do what I want. Why are you so selfish on my birthday. What I don't think he understands is how hurtful it is. Am I out of line?

[BlackBear18]

You're definitely not out of line. In fact you're entitled to celebrate your birthday with him. That's like me saying my sister can't attend my birthday! Maybe you should threaten to leave him if he doesn't desperately want you to attend his birthday! I'd love it if my girlfriend would attend my birthday party! Hope this advice helps!

"What is wrong with this guy?"

[Asker]

Thank you for taking the time to comment. I too can't understand it

[Quadrophonic84]

How can you even be attracted to someone like that? If you just posted the conversation without saying he was your boyfriend I would've thought it was your 12 year old son (not saying you have one, saying he sounds like a 12 year old boy).

PS - I'm in Oceano. Pismo dunes are awesome for everyone - don't know why he can't share.

[Asker]

funny- when he told me that on his first birthday I said the same thing, were not in high school anymore. I really struggle with it because I'm a cute girl who is kind, loving and all I wanted to do is spend his birthday with him. I have cut off all ties, even blocked his phone from calling me I mean after the hurt I felt last year I thought he would make it up to me. Apparantly not. I just wish I could understand why he thinks its so much more fun without me.

[Quadrophonic84]

He isn't thinking "This will be more fun without her." He's thinking "I want to do what I want to do and NO ONE will tell me different." It's 100% about him, not you.

[Asker]

got it. Very selfish of him in my opinion. OOh well, I'm done and I guess I won't have to worry about anymore of his birthdays and not being invited. I just was hoping for some insight to give me closure. Plus I thought it might be nice for him to see what others think.. thanks again

[Quadrophonic84]

Haha, so now I'm going to get my ass kicked right? That's what I get for helping!

[ginny]

I don't think there is something wrong about him wanting to do something with just the guys. But this is overkill. He's a douchebag. Of course you are selfish about YOUR relationship. Wth!?

[Anonymous]

...leave him, NOW. you deserve a sh*t load better. tell yourself that all the time until you move on to another, better boy :) good luck!

[Asker]

thanks. I did and now its going to be his loss.

[Opinion Owner]

good :) just keep your head up & keep telling yourself you need a guy better than that. you'll be fine, even though it hurts a lot right now